@Breevus,
ever considerated relationship therapy? It might help to communicate better.
If you go down this road, do realize the goal of relationship therapy is not c to fix relationships. That is something you guys have to try.
And idmf you'd find a therapist both of you feel comfortable with and heard by (important!) a good therapist definitely would advice additional single therapy on top might one or both of you benefit from that.
My perception is that whenever people get in a serious relationship, they should consider relationship therapy. Not because something is wrong but to prevent things going wrong, unnecessarily.