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1in8billion June 18th

I’m sure the feelings I have for her is true love. I have never felt this way for anyone before. She just wants to be exclusive companions with benefits. I need to let her go because I want more. She doesn’t want expectations of a long term relationship.

I know I can’t keep going on like this and it hurts me deeply to even think of letting her go. I don’t. Know what to do or how to handle this.

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toughTiger6481 June 18th

@1in8billion

If you want long term deeper commitment ......and she wants some long term FWB thing neither one will be happy.  Have you spoke about why she does not want more and why you do want more...sometimes when we see some reasoning things become clearer. 

If you stay on hoping she changes her mind... you waste some time you could find someone else. 

I think she may feel pressured knowing you want more.... The same time people do change their minds sometimes.  It is possible to love more then one.... i thought for a long time we find our one ......but i met another and feel so strongly for them in different ways then i did my ex... it is not that those feelings were any less ...just different.... perhaps it is i met them at a different time in my life. 

I honestly feel so many drift apart not because of feelings but they change as people and sometimes we do not even notice the changes we have experienced in ourselves. 

AmyPondd June 19th

@1in8billion

It sounds like you're in a difficult situation where your feelings for her are very strong, but she wants something different from the relationship. It's understandable that this mismatch in expectations is causing you a lot of pain.

It's really brave of you to recognize that you want more from the relationship and that you deserve to be with someone who wants the same things as you do. It's okay to feel hurt and uncertain about what to do next.

I'm with @toughTiger6481 about talking to her about the differences you are having. 
What does exclusive companions with benefits exactly mean in her case?