I get so much anxiety thinking about things that happened at the begining of my relationship
i could really use some advice , at the begining of me and my partners relationship she told some lies and done some silly things that gets me down when i thing about it , after 1 and a half month of dateing my partner she had liked a guys *** picture (who she has previous history with) , she tells me it was nothing but i cant help think that she wasnt that interested in me at the time and i was just an option or that something was still going on between them , it makes my anxiety spike and i feel sick to my stomach when i think about it it gets me really depressed were i shut down and overthink, can can anyone give me some advice please im really struggling , we both love eachother deeply and have a son together but i just cant seem to let go of some things as they still hurt when i think of it and its hard to stop these thoughts coming to my head
@convivialSail864 You obviously care about this relationship very much, or you wouldn't be having this anxiety. It sounds you need to feel more secure- to know that you partner loves you and only you. And you also need to build trust in her and confidence in yourself. Maybe you should find ways to show each other more affection? First of all, be honest about your continued anxiety to her- use 'I' statements. Then, work together to find more ways to show each other love- do chores for each other, write notes, little dates, little gifts, cuddling, tell each other 'i love you'. Then, you've got to work on yourself. Exercise can help calm you down and journaling is a good idea. Getting support on here is good too. Do you have any hobbies you can lean on to vent the anxiety? And have you explored DBT or CBT yet?
