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Is this being a controlling partner or does it show that i care?
Relationship Stress / by convivialSail864
Last post
 January 12th
...See more My Partner ( 28yo female) hadnt been in contact with this “friend” ( 40Yo female) in around 6 months , and just today they had arranged to go out with eachother , i had gave my opinion on this “friend” and it made my partner quite upset in which she canceled her plans , there is alot of reason behind why i thought i would let my partner know what i think about this “friend” , the “friend” in question takes a lot of drugs ( mainly tablets in which one time she tried to give my partner some who dosnt take them) , she dosnt come across as a mature person shes 40 years old and post pictures of herself half naked on her socials and writes crazy captions at 4/5am (which suggests she is drunk and on drugs) and once or twice she actually tried to tell my partner that she fancied her , she said that a medium had told her that she would meet this young blonde girl and be intimate with her ( telling her without telling her lol ) , the “friend” in question cant be trusted and comes across as a bad lier , my partner got upset she didnt go out i still had told her to go because i didnt want her not to go , does this come across as me conrolling my partner or does it show that i care about her? if you see this S.C i love you and only want whats best for you i always have and always will … because i care
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Partner Telling Silly Lies Any Advise?
Relationship Stress / by convivialSail864
Last post
 January 8th
...See more Hi , My partner tells some silly lies in our relationship and its really starting to effect me , i would ask her something and she would have an answer then i would ask her again and she would have another answer , we spoke about this last night and she told me that she tells me these silly lies because of my reaction , i totally agree that sometimes i overreact but the reason i do over react is because there is a part of me that knows she isnt being honest , i have told her to promise me that she will start being honest and i told her that i will focus on how i react to anything she tells me , i feel like i cant trust her in other parts of the relationship because of the silly lies , if she was just honest with me from the begining then i really dont think i would react a little when i find out she hasnt been truthfull , is it ok to tell silly lies in a relationship? And can i trust her in other parts of the relationship ? I could really use someones advise i want to build our relationship stronger but i dont think its possible if she keeps telling these silly lies .
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Can someone help i need some advise asap :(
Depression Support / by convivialSail864
Last post
 December 31st, 2024
...See more i could really use some advice , at the begining of me and my partners relationship she told some lies and done some silly things that gets me down when i thing about it , after 1 and a half month of dateing my partner she had liked a guys *** picture (who she has previous history with) , she tells me it was nothing but i cant help think that she wasnt that interested in me at the time and i was just an option or that something was still going on between them , it makes my anxiety spike and i feel sick to my stomach when i think about it it gets me really depressed were i shut down and overthink, can can anyone give me some advice please im really struggling , we both love eachother deeply and have a son together but i just cant seem to let go of some things as they still hurt when i think of it and its hard to stop these thoughts coming to my head
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I get so much anxiety thinking about things that happened at the begining of my relationship
Relationship Stress / by convivialSail864
Last post
 January 9th
...See more i could really use some advice , at the begining of me and my partners relationship she told some lies and done some silly things that gets me down when i thing about it , after 1 and a half month of dateing my partner she had liked a guys *** picture (who she has previous history with) , she tells me it was nothing but i cant help think that she wasnt that interested in me at the time and i was just an option or that something was still going on between them , it makes my anxiety spike and i feel sick to my stomach when i think about it it gets me really depressed were i shut down and overthink, can can anyone give me some advice please im really struggling , we both love eachother deeply and have a son together but i just cant seem to let go of some things as they still hurt when i think of it and its hard to stop these thoughts coming to my head
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My Parter says im not there for her can someone tell me if im not doing enough ?
Relationship Stress / by convivialSail864
Last post
 December 25th, 2024
...See more My partner keeps telling me i am not there for her when i feel like i am , i do seem to go quiet when she goes quiet and i understand this part i feel i could be there for her that way a bit more , but in other parts of our relationship i feel like iv been doing enough , i bring her flowers reguarly , tell her i love her every day , always do small things to make her happy like pay for her hair or nails when shes getting them done , then in other parts of the relationship , i cleared all of her dept (thousands of pounds worth) , i paid for her to start her own buisness (dog grooming £5k ) then everything that comes with it equipment and a space to do it from , twice in 2 weeks iv had to ask her can i go somewere with her instead of her inviteing me and it makes me feel like im not wanted , she says im miserable to be with , my mental health does tend to get me down a lot iv been trying my best to better myself every day to make her happy , do i sound miserable to be with ? I need someones honest opinion because i dont know if im right or wrong and what she is telling me is really hurting me .
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Can i get peoples thoughts on this , i really do love her and dont want to mess things up 🙁
OCD & Related Behaviors / by convivialSail864
Last post
 December 20th, 2024
...See more Im going through this "phaze" were im always thinking about my partners past and people who she has been with, im always worried that she is going to do something that will sabotage out relationship or has done in the past, im currently going to therapy for this and some days it helps and some days it dosnt, sometimes this just gets a bit to much and my anxiety will start playing out situations in my head and makes me believe i am always right, she has lied to me at the begining of our relationship which sort of broke the trust as i came from a relationship that i was cheated on, this makes it very hard to take her word for anything she is saying, could anyone share their thoughts on this on how i can be better for her she is such an amazing woman and i dont want to loose her because of my bad thoughts
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Any help is much appreciated i feel like im going crazy sometimes
Relationship Stress / by convivialSail864
Last post
 December 8th, 2024
...See more Im going through this “phaze” were im always thinking about my partners past and people who she has been with , im always worried that she is going to do something that will sabotage out relationship or has done in the past , im currently going to therapy for this and some days it helps and some days it dosnt , sometimes this just gets a bit to much and my anxiety will start playing out situations in my head and makes me believe i am always right , she has lied to me at the begining of our relationship which sort of broke the trust as i came from a relationship that i was cheated on , this makes it very hard to take her word for anything she is saying , could anyone share their thoughts on this on how i can be better for her she is such an amazing woman and i dont want to loose her because of my bad thoughts
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Trust issues am i right or wrong? Please help
Relationship Stress / by convivialSail864
Last post
 December 7th, 2024
...See more Hi im going through a tough time at the minute , my partner has told some silly lies at the begining of our relationship she said she hadnt been in contact with her ex partner , i found out 6 months later that she had been in contact with him by phone calls and texts , i dont know what they were about but she has reassured me that it was nothing , i really want to believe her and trust her but she has broke our trust and me coming from a relationship before her which i was cheated on makes its so hard for me to believe what she is telling me , i really do love her more than anything and would do anything for her , i just have this part of me that finds it so hard to believe that she is telling me the truth , we talked about a polygraph test last night which made her angry and sad , part of me thinks its because she is lying and part of me things it is because it is an insult to her , she gives me no reason now days to believe she is cheating on me … its just the past i am so focused on and cant seem to get past it , it really is starting to affect my mental health ( anxiety , depression) , please help i love her so much
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