I feel like my husband isn’t attracted to me anymore

@compassionateFriend6011

I'm sorry that you're facing this. But sweetheart not eating can ruin your health right. I know you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your husband which is really great but you should take care of yourself first.

Sending lots of strength and love to you❤❤

@compassionateFriend6011

Did he say he is not or is it you just feel that being self conscience ? losing weight is hard and what works for one person does not work for another etc.... NOT or barely eating has the opposite effect as your body shuts down the metabolism thinking it is in starvation mode.... it can also be hurtful to your health.

going to doctor you had tests and found normal function what do you think a specialist will do for you?

maybe suggest a diet or plan but in the long run it is up to YOU to stick with and do ....

if you have tried exercise or strength training etc how long did you give it? i started a self designed program and took almost 8 weeks to see scale difference and start really see it reshaping my body.... had several friend who wanted to do same type but if they did not think they saw a difference in 2 weeks they quit ... reshaping yourself takes time ... sometimes up to or more then a year ....

i look at it as me time and doing it for myself not spouse or anyone else and it worked if you are depriving yourself and miserable doing it because you are trying to do for others .... many self sabotage.

it will be a mental work as well as physical and they person who should motivate and cheer you on is YOU.

@compassionateFriend6011 hi how do you know he’s going off you, you must not stop eating. Talk to him, uou may find there is something, you don’t know about

@compassionateFriend6011

Hello, there, I'm a listener here too. If you want to chat with me about that issue, I'm here to help.

Cheers 😊

I’m so sorry you are going through these emotions. See what the health specialist has to say and take things from there. Work on yourself and focus on feeling beautiful for you. If you aren’t happy with yourself it’s hard to be happy with anyone. Has he express he isn’t attracted to you?

He should want to be with you if he loves you regardless. However, no specialist is going to solve your weight issue. It is as simple as calories vs. calories out. I have no thyroid. Does it make it harder to gain weight and lose weight, yes. However, ultimately you have to eat better and exercise or eat less. There's no magic fix.

Did your husband gain weight and has he kept his appearance up. It's the opposite with my husband and myself. I keep myself looking good. He just gains weight. However, I love him anyway. I just encourage him to lose weight for his health.

Your husband could be unattracted to you sexually because of weight and still love you. He might also just be concerned about your health. He could be having his own issue.

Either way, your health is the most important. If you improve that, you may be surprised at what else improves. It's hard but so worth the effort. Best of luck with your health and your marriage. 😊♥️.

FYI I'm skinny, and I'm looking into workouts now coincidentally enough. I have zero motivation. Trust me, I'm not judging. 😂

Thanks guys! It’s more of me being self conscious. Deep down I know he loves me. It’s just I want sex all the time and he doesn’t. But he will *** more than wanting sex with me. That’s what upsets me at times. I have been losing weight just not as much as I want to see the results. I have lost 15 pounds. I go to a specialist sometime in the next few weeks I’ll see what they tell me.

thank you all for the kinds words and advice! It’s greatly appreciated!

Have an open communication about it. Talk to him and explain how you're feeling. Ask him to let you know if he's facing any problems in life or workplace altogether. A heart to heart conversation is really necessary to clear out confusion. From there, you will know where things are heading.

There is no open communication with him. If I voice my feelings , he says I’m being a drama Queen. And acting like a teenager. He gets very annoyed

Hey I'm so sorry that you are facing this. Just know that firstly none of this is your fault. And please don't stop eating because of this as it has many health issues. Instead firstly please communicate with your husband as it all may just be you overthinking. And if you just want to be fit then try healthy ways to do so like exercise. Sending you a lot of love. And just take care of yourself. 🙌🍀

Thanks for your response. But it is my fault. I let myself go. After having my last child 8 years ago, I gained so much weight. This is the heaviest I’ve ever been. My husband said I’m lazy and don’t do anything around the house. He told a friend of his I just bore him now when we have sex the he’s just not attracted to me anymore.😭