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How much more?

I’m trying not to go mad but being the only one that gets seriously hurt in my relationship and being expected to be the perfect gf right after is eating at me.


He lied about watching porn. It killed my trust and hurt me, i chose to move on and we go back to normal.


He stares at every other woman while cutting the attention he gives me. I’m expected to move on and love him 110% like nothing happened.


He chooses to sit on his phone and ignore me(including 3 times when i’m physically throwing up in a bathroom 3m away). I have to move on and accept ‘he’ll change’.


I have to cry and have panic attacks right infront of him after stating MULTIPLE times why his actions upset me and why i’m hurt. I need to wipe my tears and still care for him, forgive him and carry on as usual.


He isn’t changing. I don’t know why I’m still with him.

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User Profile: KatePersephone
KatePersephone July 29th, 2023

@straightforwardBeechwood6877 hello there. it sounds like your partner is neglecting you while having very high expectations from you. the fact he lied about something like porn is really not good :( I understand why it broke your trust and hurt you! it's also really unfair that he is no longer giving you the attention you deserve and ignores you. what do you think is the best thing to do from now on with the situation?

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User Profile: straightforwardBeechwood6877
straightforwardBeechwood6877 OP August 3rd, 2023

Thanks for the response. I really just don’t know because he’s begged me for a third chance and i was too quick to give it to him. I’m giving it a month and after that i’m done

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 August 3rd, 2023

@straightforwardBeechwood6877

The truth is you do not Have to accept or forgive again and again ....... if he expects it that is because you have done that . One more chance becomes one more etc. You cannot force a person to change but instead you can change your response and change you.

What is his motivation to change? if you have not said NO MORE and set firm boundaries. do not give him the same reaction he expects .... he might enjoy your hurt and pain ............as to him it makes him think he is so important to you that strokes his ego.


User Profile: Sudmantohelp
Sudmantohelp August 3rd, 2023

You gotta leave him. He is not right for you and he is not giving you the love and attention you need