Has anyone here had a vindictive ex who has called police on them for sending text messages trying to show care or concern
Like who even does this, running to the police over and over again like a child?
I could understand if I said something bad, think it's pretty disgusting given the whole story and situation.
It’s OK. Not every relationship is going to last. Some of them won’t work out for whatever reason and we can only take whatever lessons we can learn from them and hope for better in the next relationship.
If it is at a stage where she is setting the police on you, rather than communicating in a civil amicable fashion, then it’s pretty certain that she has lost all respect for you and would take more pleasure to see you in handcuffs in the back of a squad car. It means she wants to behave spitefully and with contempt, and anything that’s left of that relationship has moved into toxic territory, and trying to salvage it would probably feel more like a losing battle.
Maybe for the time being, let all the emotions dissipate. Re-evaluate the situation once everyone’s emotions aren’t so heated. Then decide on a course of action once you feel more calm and clear about what you want out of this situation.
CatsInTheCradle
Well what does it matter. I CAN NOT communicate with her ever again because she is a horrible nasty sadistic bitchcow who can't even ask me how I am?!
And all i got from the police officer is she's going through a rough time at the minute. Going through a rough time is NO EXCUSE AND WILL NEVER EXCUSE WHAT SHE HAS DONE! She's probably a narcissist!
@WillowSage14My husband has called the police on me, convinced them I was crazy, had me hand cuffed, hauled off and baker acted. It was unbelievable how vindictive he was! I am working hard on moving forward, forgiving him and setting boundaries with family relationships.
And how can you forgive him? What was his justification? How can the police just arrest you like that, its insane. I don't know how you could forgive, he's done it once and could do it again.
@WillowSage14
Forgiveness is still a work in progress!
The police did not arrest me, they were just men abusing their position of authority, ie power. They had no idea that I knew all the laws they were breaking. Their lawyer knew. He declined to go to court over the multiple laws the officer's broke! Big surprise!
What have I done to deserve this. How can she go from loving and care to complete and utter venom and hate?
I find myself crying every waking hour and every day it is evil
@willowsage14
I've had not 1, but 2 exes like that. It's been nothing but court cases for the last 5 years for me, it's been a nightmare. To make it worse, I have a 7yr old son with the first vindictive woman. I have a court date with the second woman tomorrow, and once that case is settled, I get to set the next court date with the first woman.
No matter how bad it may seem, there's usually someone who's worse off than you. I'm that guy. You don't have kids with her, there's not going to be an 18 year long legal battle ahead of you. This will all pass one day and you'll no longer shed any tears over it, I promise you.
One thing you can do is try to identify the ways in which you fell for a person like that and try to avoid making the same mistakes with your next partner. Good luck Willow, I wish you the best!