Getting Irritated Easily
Hi folks,
I have just realized what's wrong with myself. I get irritated easily by other people. I realize that whenever I start to get close to people, I would notice their weaknesses or bad habits. Almost immediately, I would start thinking that they are not "relationship/friendship material". This mindset would lead me to distance myself from them. Because of this, I find it hard to be close to other people. Even when I'm nice to them, deep down I feel that I'm only doing it for pragmatic reason -- not because I'm being authentic to myself. Has any of you experienced this? What should I do?
Any comment or advice is welcome! Thanks!
@brightPenguin4569
Good for you that you noticed this ...
so many people do this type of things but are at a loss as to why they can not find friends/ relationships.... No one is a perfect fit .... some habits/ items are easier to tolerate then others.
when you are aware you can find ways to work on it.
All people have annoying or different habits ....
when i notice myself distancing ........i remind myself i am not a picnic either.............. maybe i should take a deep breath.... and get through whatever item or in some cases i have asked someone In a curious tone not judging why they do somethings etc.... sometimes it is something i never considered.
@toughTiger6481 Thanks for your response Tough Tiger. I like your approach of being mindful about our own weaknesses so that we can accept other people. I really appreciate your comment!
I noticed at the start that you said something was “wrong with” you. While its good to want to improve upon yourself, I feel like the phrase could be hurtful to yourself. Be loving towards yourself!!! I challenge you to ask yourself deep down how you can improve the situation rather than downgrading yourself, as a positive mindset can be all the difference for strong change. I wish you the best of luck and I will leave you with this quote:
”And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.” -1 Corinthians 13:13
-slixy
Hey Penguin, I definitely can relate to this and it's a bad feeling. I do the same thing and at the end of the day always just wind up having no one, it sucks. I kinda just stopped trying to create relationships with people over the issue. I'm working on it but at the same time like don't know how to help it.
Just wanted to share my input on this situation, as well as letting you know your not absolutely not alone !