~Fear of being alone~

@persistentFarm8730 Rhetorical question: Are you willing to believe that you might grow beyond what you perceive are your boundaries?

will try but don’t know how much i will succeed!

@persistentFarm8730. I'm sorry about your marriage. I'm not married myself but I think you got married on wrong reasons and that's why it's failing. I don't know if that person also married for the wrong reasons. My sister almost got divorced and did marriage counseling about 10 years ago and they are still together. My cousin married a girl only because she got pregnant and he wanted to do the right thing but it ended in divorce. He did find someone and got married for the right reasons and is very happy. I guess you got to have faith and stay positive. Maybe work on your confidence and love yourself.

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble." - Matthew 6:34

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He Shall direct your paths." - Psalms 3:5-6

First of all let me just say, I’m impressed by your courage! Not only to be here and confess your situation so forthrightly; but even more so that you know in your heart that you must let your toxic relationship go and have decided to do so! That is a tremendous positive step for your own personal growth!

And this is why I feel very confident that you will find your way forward from this!

Just take the lessons from this relationship with you. There were so many valuable things that you understood about yourself, about relationships, about trying to love another person, through this experience! And you realize that if it can happen once, it can happen again! You will find somebody again, someone who cherishes you, and encourages you, someone who makes you happy, and you will have an adventure together! ^^

And maybe it won’t always be “happily ever after”. Maybe there will be other heartbreaks. There will be others who are not compatible. There might be others who are selfish, who want to take advantage of your vulnerability, who will just use you for your company, and if you respond to your fear of loneliness you might just let them! Other people can never be the solution to “loneliness”. Loneliness is inside of us, our rejection of our OWN company! Other people can only make us feel less alone, but they only distract us from our actual loneliness; they cannot cure our loneliness.

But if you continue to live with perceptiveness that you show here, to know what is toxic and unhealthy for you, and to have the discipline to let go of the things that impede your growth and happiness, then you will be OK in the end!

Nurture the love in your heart. You have qualities that are worthwhile. You deserve love and acceptance! Dare to love yourself! Love courageously! I know you are capable of this. I see it in this post. ☺️

CatsInTheCradle

@persistentFarm8730 I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time right now. It's understandable to feel scared and uncertain about the future, especially after going through a difficult relationship and separation.

Love is easy to find. There is someone for everyone. Take chances and gamble with your feelings. Eventually youll come across them or theyll come across you. There are billions of men in the world and many are looking for a women like you. Keep trying. Dont stop searching until youve found what you were looking for. Doesnt matter how long it takes. Itll come.