Erotic transference with former therapist
I have a really bad obsession with my former therapist. I miss him. I feel like I crave him.
I have BPD and have done this before, but not with a therapist.
When talking to my current therapist about it, she said that he did instill doubt in me about what kind of relationship we had - he was texting me late at night to chat, getting off topic in our sessions, etc.
He recently told me that he was told he can’t continue chatting and can only respond to check-ins. It really made me angry. I just feel like if I met him outside therapy we would’ve had a different relationship ya know?
I just really miss him.
@samuelk08 hi there! i am Kate :) it's nice to meet you
i can understand your frustration and anger with the whole situation, especially considering the signs you were receiving from your former therapist's side. however, it is also understandable that one day a stop would be put in this kind of relationship, since it started happening I a non-professional manner. have you discussed this with your current therapist? if yes, what did she say about it? how do you plan on coping with what happened from further on? I'm hoping you feel better soon, honestly 🌺
Hi, thank you Kate.
My current therapist hasn’t really said either way what I should do, more that he should be the one to take initiative and cut ties with me. However, I feel stuck because I don’t want to stop talking to him.
I’m not sure what I need to cope. My therapist thinks that me going out and becoming more social in my groups would be good, but I’m not much of a social person.