@CatzInTheCradle
Hi. I am sorry, but that was not worded properly in my original message and I just now realized it. I didn’t mean that it took him cheating to become a better person. He was always a good person, but that good person in him decided to make the worst mistake of his life.
I know my husband like a book- cover to cover, inside and out. We have been together for a long time. I understand him completely. That was one of the reasons we got together. And in his words “We are perfect for each other”. He has never had a long lasting relationship with any of his ex’s. They all left him. Mostly what he had was people using him for what they wanted and then they left.
His cheating was something he called stupid. He said he was young and dumb, and that’s why he cheated. It wasn’t nothing to do with wanting to feel alive as he stated. He didn’t do it to fulfill any needs (his words), because he gets everything he needs from me. He gets the intimacy, I am there for him when he needs me. I am his shoulder to cry on and his ear to talk to. We are best friends. I help him with anything and everything he needs. I do all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the laundry, almost all the errands, I make all our appointments, I do all the grocery shopping. I even help him out with outside chores when he is too tired. Like mowing the lawn, weed whacking, edging, etc. I ask him if he wants to help out with stuff, and he does. I always tell him he doesn’t have to though.
I don’t think he feels trapped in our marriage. I’ve asked him as well. I gave him a chance to get out. I told him I would leave if that was what he wanted. He told me no. He said he wouldn’t be the same without me and he would miss me way too much. And the cheating happened awhile ago. Even though it is still in my head and my heart shows it. It has a funny way of sneaking back into my brain and making me feel like I am reliving it.
As far as our children go, they didn’t see any of this. We kept it away from them. I don’t bring that sort of thing to their attention, because it’s not right or even proper. It stays between him and I. We show our kids how to be the best they can be. We are positive role models for them. We raised them to know right from wrong, and to be decent human beings. ❤️
Thank you so much for reading my message and replying to me. I really appreciate it. And thank you for hoping I find peace and happiness. I am trying to figure this all out and hope to so soon. 💗