Advice on how to be better
Hey guys. I’ve been in a relationship now for 6 months and it’s been eye opening on just how much of myself is unhealed. With the help of therapy and self awareness this is improving. However the one thing I’m really trying to heal is my issues with abandonment. I’ve come on here to ask if anyone can relate or have any suggestions on the below statement.
We’re technically long distance, so we usually see each other every weekend or every other weekend. What I have noticed is when I ask if he’s free and if he wants to meet up and he comes back with a suggestion, I sometimes get triggered. Like it’s not good enough almost but I don’t understand it. He says he will come see me on Sunday, instead of staying the weekend as he has plans. So in my head I understand and respect that, and yet still feel myself getting anxious and triggered. I want to be able to respect him having plans whilst also feeling like Im not being abandoned. Any advice on this? Has anyone been through this before?
thanks:)
@lovingBirch549 hi there!
first of all, have you discussed this with your therapist? what are their thoughts on it? :)
@lovingBirch549
Many people have experienced that when you have limited time and find out they have plans and cut into the time you both have to share with each other..
The reality is them having other plans or friend or interests does NOT take anything away from their interest or feelings for YOU. Many people feel doing other things when they COULD be together is some sort of snub ... but it often is they are comfortable that you and him are in a good place may not even know this makes you self conscience.
