ghosting best friends
Honestly I came here bc Im avoiding my assessment but anyway, does anyone else have experiences of feeling guilty for ghosting their old best friends? I am an avoidant person (hence why Im typing this out and not the rest of my assessment lol) and I dont know if Im right for ghosting. I dont plan on reconciling these friendships, but that makes me so guilty, I dont even think they know Ive cut them off bc I just stopped talking to them out of nowhere with no hints, no explanation (I have no social media and deleted their numbers/never replied) and they might think Im just on my usual ghosting behaviour. But this times its permanent. I just had no more space for the pathological lying (which went on for 6 years), the narcissism and the self-absorbed mindset and behaviour. I get this is usually justifiable to end friendships, but the more I think about them the more I realise they had massive unresolved issues which they dont know I know of that I maybe could have helped them to realise + heal? but then it brings me back to the realisation we're not supposed to fix everyone. but then that seems selfish to me, like shouldnt we try and help where we can? + what if they start self loathing and questioning themselves? which I think they should but not in the way it leads them towards poorer mental health but instead to deep self reflection, healing, transformation and etc. anyway thats all thxxx
I got ghosted back in March. It really messed me up. I allready had problems with my self worth before that - now its worse. I look at it now that I didn't and don't matter at all. Ghosting seems like a really immature way to handle ending a relationship. Granted the people you've ghosted probably have more friends then I do so maybe it doesn't bother them as much. It just doesn't seem like a good thing for either parties but that's just my opinion. There's probably other people here who feel you're in the right for doing it
@mytwistedsoul
I hear you.. If Im right in assuming you're not extreme to the same extent of my old friends in the sense of manipulation + self-victimization, then I 100% empathize for your experience and really am sorry to hear about what you went through
@teekay1 Thank you
No it wasn't me doing the manipulation and self victimizing - I believe the other person was. But it did make me wonder if I am toxic or maybe I was doing these things but didn't know it? Idk lol - it just really messed me up. I can understand that we have to sometimes drop people who cause us more pain than anything else. I mean - I cut off my family so - I do understand that sometimes we have to for our own sanity and peace of mind - especially if they're narcissists because it will allways be about them and never you - except for the bad things - then that will be all your fault and yeah - they will be the victim but they'll probably tell you about how hard they tried for you lol
I guess - you have to do what feels right for you
Sorry - lol - this probably doesn't make a whole lot of sense
