Just a little something that's been in my mind.
Going straight to the point, I have a friend. We know each other for over 12 years and recently I've been feeling distant.
She's someone I used to trust, problably the one I would trust the most, but then she found a new friend and I couldn't help, but feel a little left aside. I tried arranging meetings, inviting her to do things and getting closer, but nothing of that seemed to have effect.
I even told her flat out that I've been feeling like "less of a friend", but still things didn't change. I don't blame her to tell the truth, I guess it's one of those cases in which "people love you with what they have". Maybe things changed for me, but not for her. Maybe I started seeing things differently and things are just as they always were, just now I don't feel happy about how things are.
Lastly, which is my main concern, be it true or not that something changed in our friendship, I starting to not care that much anymore. I should be tearing up right now, but I'm not. I'm not minding it as much as I thought I should.
Anyway, just something I wanted to post somewhere, kind of taking things out of your mind. Have a nice day everyone.
Dear, there is no such thing as "friends". I had a friend who I knew since I was 10 .. she turned Muslim, moved to Jordan, got married, and had kids. I had a friend who I knew since I was 14, after she got her cosmetology degree, she felt like she was the shit so moved on to more "sophisticated" friends. The only real "friends" are your family and spouse. Sometimes family is crooked too. All I can depend on is my husband. Realize that "friends" are just associates.
Not to contradict you, but I do disagree. Friends are as important as you make them. Friends can get you through a lot and can be helpful to your mental and physical wellbeing. Sometimes friends change, you grow up, they grow up things change between you but does that mean that theircontribution to who you are now was worthless? I think not. Take your friends as they are, love them for who they are. Life is about change and adaption.
You must be more of the status type. Some people think the amount of friends you have contributes to your status and popularity. It makes me sick. That's how anxiety and depression and bi polar developed and Columbine .. Friends are not a necessity.
Not at all! I love people. But I have little regard as to my status. I have no doubt that for some your stance of not needing friends will be helpful and liberating even. However,I also think that for some people having close emotional connections with friends is helpful and can be a lifesaver. To blanket cover everyone with the same stance, friends are useless, seems to me to be an over generalization.
I think our experiences will make us view this differently. To me, my family have been the opposite of what 'friends' should be, but i have made some really great friendships and consider those people like family.
I do think that as we grow older, we lose friends and having a true friend that will be with you till the end can become rare, but that doesn't mean that we don't find amazing people that we build lifelong friendships with.
Not all people you may consider to be friends, are. The time when you know who true friends are, is when you really need one.
I have experienced that. It's really tough. I completely agree.
