I feel really good about my decision
Backstory: Last year I started getting blown off by a woman who I thought was my friend of 25 years. Suddenly she started telling me that she had too many personal things going on in her life and that she didn't have time to talk to me because she needed to take care of herself. Though I gave her space for several months, I tried reaching out in May only to have her tell me that she was in the middle of an emergency and then hang up on me. After that final attempt I reached a breaking point by re-evaluating our friendship and realized that our friendship was toxic.
Since then, I have not only stopped calling her but I also managed to block her number and delete her contact information. In the meantime, I worked on writing an assertive letter with boundaries explaining what I am not willing to tolerate anymore. Because for many years, I felt like I had bent over backwards and allowed myself to be treated like a doormat. I don't feel like getting treated like that after everything I did for her. Regardless, I feel really good about sending that letter and walking away.
@Summershy i am proud of you for re-evaluating your friendship with her and stepping away from it after realizing it was indeed toxic. standing up for yourself in these situations is an amazing thing to do your own well-being. ❤️ thank you for sharing this with us!
@KatePersephone
Thanks for your support. My friendship wasn't toxic in the sense that she would criticize me. Rather, it was toxic in the sense that
1. The friendship was one-sided: I would be the one doing all of the reaching out while she would barely lift a finger
2. Everytime we would talk, she would play the victim and someone was always out to get or hurt her.
3. She also liked being the center of attention by dominating the conversations to the point where I could not get a word in edgewise.
4. She was competetive - for instance I happened to be going through a very scary situation and she made a habit of one upping me last year. ]This was by stating that her city government was out to get her again. When I tried to bring the conversation back to my situation, she flew off the handle at me. 'Just for once let me talk" before telling me that she did not have time to talk to me on the phone.
5. She told me several stories that she kept changing
