Feeling the only one that makes an effort.

@itssnowinginmarch

@itssnowinginmarch, Hii! I went through almost the same thing an year ago. I don't have a solution for you and I don't even have anything comforting to say but I just want you to know you are not alone this. I had a huge group of friends which is now down to 2 people barely hanging on to me (actually I am the one who is hanging on to them, but anyway). I had to get transferred to another college after my 7th semester as I got into too much trouble with my professors by standing up for friends. I was also the student association's secretary. I used to tell my professors that my friends are more important to me than my parents. OnceI got transferred I used to cycle around 20kms one way, almost everydayteveryday go to my friends' room and hang out with them. I did this for nearly an year. But they started to leave me out and make plans. Not one person visited me at my place after I got transferred. No texts, no calls. But If I visit or contact them they will look all happy and like nothing is off at all. I didn't realise any of that is a problem untill recently. Now I am just done making efforts. I stopped and no one cared. Now I am just trying to build a new and genuine social circle for myself. Didn't get anywhere with it and things are hard when suddenly you are all alone and you couldn't see anyone you cared so much for reach out to you. But I hope things get better to you and myself as well! Good day!

@itssnowinginmarch hi there! I know how you feel, I went through the same thing weeks ago.

I nave a small group of friends, and the fact that they hang out with other groups has Always bothered me. I even started to reconsider this relationship, because I'm the only one that cares about the group and makes plans. But then I started to see this situation as a lesson: I had the opportunity to spend time alone, know myself better and maybe start spending time with my family and my brother. I suffered from anxiety and depression so I know that it's not easy at all, but letting people go and focusing on oneself it's freeing. Also, I think you should talk with them about this situation and see their reaction. Hope this helps!

Alex🌼

@itssnowinginmarch

Hi. Reading this post was a blast from the past. I have spent most of my adult life in the exact situation. I live really far and everytime I want to meet anyone I have to travel to them. Except for once a year on my birthday, they never come near my place to meet me. And even that is conditional. So when my life changed and I had to change with it, I stopped meeting anyone because I couldn't travel anymore. But here's the thing. For those to whom it matters I am still in touch with them. We chat or call each other. And for the others I'd rather not be friends with them.

But I'd like to ask to something I wish someone had asked me. Have to tried talking with them about this? Do you think that if you tell them how you feel the situation will change? And are you comfortable talking about this directly with them?

And I completely understand the fact that you would like to have friends who are close to you. Even I have not experienced that. Maybe you can join some group that shares something of you interests? Like If you like to read you could join a book club near to where you live? At least that way you can have some social activity close to home.

I hope you feel better soon. And I completely understand how frustrating all this can be.