Am I boring?

@chillingwave01

I totally feel you.

Although my relationship with my friend of 6 years is awesome and we love each other (we learnt to adapt to each other's routine) I have a friend who's not like even that friend of mine, I know this case is not even similar to yours (I rarely speak to him) but whenever we talk, he only is excited to listen about a few news about me and then the conversation freezes and it's boring. But it's okay. I wanted to tell you that you don't have to always be talkative or excited about that. Let it be and accept the fact that sometimes it gets boring. It's not you or the other person that's boring though. It's just maybe your minds are not focused on the conversation but to other things. It's okay it's normal.

A second tip would be that whenever you feel stuck just let the other person do the talking until he finds something interesting g to share. Some people sometimes prefer to have a listener and other times they wanna talk non stop. So maybe it's the first case now.

It could be she's just going through stuff right now. It could be she doesn't really want to talk to you. It's hard to know. If she's really your BF, she should be willing to at least give you some sort of an explanation, even if it's short and not detailed.

Good luck!

@chillingwave01

Hey there. hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

Ive been best friends with this person for about 5 yrs now, and I get this feeling that I dont know what to talk about anymore? She has things to deal with like taking care of siblings everyday and I want to be there to be supportive for her... (You sound like a sweet and caring friend, which is incredible. One thing I would like to point out is to be careful with the support part. Its amazing you want to support her, but if the other person is not asking for it while you try to show support then it might feel a bit much) but whenever I message her she just leaves dry responses or doesnt say anything at all. (This can definetly make you wonder whats going on at times. Something must be going on with her, and it can also be you are investing more in keeping the friendship than she is, so this makes reply in short or dry ways) Im sure she has a lot on her mind with responsibilities at home- I just want to make sure I can still be someone that shes excited to hear from...any advice? (This right here indicates some sort of anxiety or feelings of not good enough or feeling that you need to try harder to gain something or to not lose her friendship. Check how much she is investing, and how much you are investing. You don't need to try to be someone that she's excited to hear, just being you is enough. It's important to stop investing if the other person isn't into it, then letting the other side have their space)

Find someone wlse in your life who has time for you. Tasks are just an escuse to avoid you, if the person wanted contact or hear from ypu, tasks would not have mattered at alll. Life is short to spend on people that disregard you. Move forward, find somebody else...I know it is hard to meet new persons in this world but maybe you will be lucky and find someone who apreciates you...

I wish you luck and better things....