What would you do?
I’m casually dating a guy but he hasn’t really asked me to be his girlfriend so at the thick of it, i’m still single. I’ve tried asking what this is and where it’s heading and he’s very vague and the most i’ve got from him was ‘It’s a Thing’ whatever tf that means.
Yesterday we stayed over night with each other for the first time and he kept going onto his phone which was okay but i’d notice he’d try turn his phone slightly away if he was talking to one of his guy friends so that was weird. I had a few guys texting me and he got really curious and kept trying to get me off my phone so that he was the only one using his. He also liked to look over my shoulder and see exactly what I was doing on my phone and whenever another guy is mentioned at all, he would get weird. I don’t really understand why he feels the need to be jealous when he doesn’t want a serious relationship.
I do like spending time with him and I quite like what we have and don’t require an official title, BUT I also like the option to do whatever I want (respectfully) as i’m not his girlfriend and his jealousy shouldn’t really be there. I’m more than okay with him seeing other people as we aren’t a couple but I dislike giving him the boyfriend treatment when he doesn’t want to take me that seriously. What do I do?
I have made it clear that I’d be willing to take what we have onto another level and thats where he got vague so being smart, that’s a clear signal that he doesn’t want anything more. I’m okay with that but I don’t think he realises that I don’t have to treat him like a boyfriend when he doesn’t want to make me his girlfriend.
I think it depends on how much time you two have spent together. I would feel a bit unsure too if it's only the third date or something. But if you're at the point where you're staying the night at his place or vice versa, then yeah maybe it's time to say you're a couple. It is kinda weird that he doesn't want to make it official, but he gets jealous about you texting other guys.
I can kinda understand him not wanting you to see what he's saying to his friends though. Sometimes guys say stuff to each other that they think is funny, but it sounds horrible when it's read from someone outside the friend group. I hope you get whatever you're looking for out of this relationship.
Best wishes, Cain
