Not sure what to do ..
I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 years on and off. We have recently started living together as of two years ago. Throughout this time it showed me how much my worth to him is. We have had many a conversation about inviting people over without me knowing, leaving me alone in the bedroom while he stays up hours on end in the living room, not going out on dates as often as I would want & other things that put me in a position at times to feel like maybe someone else would be better for him and I’m not good enough. I feel like I do so much and put my heart out a lot for him and just because physically I’m not being abused, mentally and emotionally it takes a huge toll on me.
@niceAvocado1063
The first thing that popped out at me in your post is that you are questioning if you worth and even stated that you think about whether you are "not good enough" for your partner. And let me just say, it is nothing that you are doing that is causing his behavior. Please do not let his lack of time, attention and effort make you doubt yourself or your worthiness. His behavior does not define you.
I can hear that you are feeling lonely even though you are not alone in your relationship. And I agree, while this is not necessarily physical abuse, it sounds like you are definitely feeling emotionally and mentally neglected.
You sound smart, kind, and caring. You don't have to settle for someone who doesn't value you.
Sending you vibes that 2022 bring you clarity, strength and contentment ❤️
I noticed you mentioned that you think about whether you are not good enough for him
Thank you for your words & happy new year 🎈..
I apologize for the late response I lost touch for a few. I hold your words very close to my soul beachside they uplifted me in this moment when I’m feeling down again.
I want to find ways to focus on making myself a better me and ways to not allow those thoughts to get in my head that I will never be enough.
It really is painful when I’m looking for something from my loved one and it seems impossible to acquire no matter what step I take.
I just want to feel … better 😞
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