Idk what to do or say right now
So I suffer from from depression and Wednesday night I drank my pain away while mymwifemoutmof town for work. That choice wasn't the right decision because it my depression worse. So I called my cousin and uncle to come stop me from my thoughts I also talked with my mom too. My cousin and uncle came to my rescue. Now since my wife back home we are distant there's an imaginary barrier between us. She said she'll help me get therapy but out of no where she thinks I cheated. I was with my cousin the whole time and my mom and cousin talked throughout the night til 11am when I ca,e back home from my cousin distracting my thoughts we went to get food went to the casino. How does one say they want to help me but then jump to conclusion say I cheated like wtf.
@JayNative23
were you clear on what happened that you decided to drink and then asked for help from family.....
if you just told her you spent time with cousin etc....
i think many arguments i see are not lies but omitting the facts...... that make you look less then good. For some unknown reason some women tend to run to the cheat option any time their partner does anything stupid or odd when they are not around .... was there an issue that would make her suspicious ?
I never cheated on her my friend on my bachelor played a joke and left a unopened condom.. but I never gave her a doubt about cheating. My mom and sister told hermwhat happen but my wife and my mom relationship is rocky and so is now my sister. Idk where this came from she treating me like a stranger barely talking to me only talks to me on social media when she not home. I understand the episode was scary and overwhelming. But how can we fix this is she not taking the steps to communicate with me. I told her that I will open up her more all she said was I will listen but idk what to say. I just want to fix things with her but not taking any steps. All she doing is putting an imaginary barrier between us.
@JayNative23
I agree she needs to communicate as it is not a one way street ....... perhaps she is angry as your family is there for you and she might not really trust them to not cover for anything you do.... I agree it is not rational and she has another issue ....
i think many things are very hard to reach down and spell out the underlying issue.
@toughTiger6481
We just talked but mostly me and she said she talk with me about my depression. But she blames my cousin for fing her world up. It's no one else to blame but me. I chose to drink my pain away. It's my fault that I let my emotions win the best of me my cousin took to keep my mind business. Yes I missed work all these problems are of my wrong doing no one else. She broke down and cried but doesn't want to explain. Maybe in time she'll open up. But to me it seems likemshe is done with my family. The situation with mom and her that's on them same as for my sister's but what did my cousin do wrong. So if my cousin didn't drop anything I wouldn't be here.
After our talk last night she expressed that she is hurt exhausted scared. That if she would have know she would broken up with me long time ago now I'm feeling like 💩. She was back and forth about wanting to fix this and or not but she scared if she does leave I make do something and she be the blame. I don't like that I made her feel trapped I am feeling I should let her be free and let me alone because all I ever do is make things worse or when things are going great I find a way to ruin things. Maybe my depression is right maybe she does someone better than me and that i am not enough for her. It would hurt a lot to see her go but maybe she'll finally be at peace. I know she said before we went to sleep she wants this and fix it. But it's eating me alive that I am making her feel trapped.