Trying to treat others ok when others are not doing the same
Hi guys
I'd like to invite you to share your thoughts about the following thing-
If you're a person who works on improving own self, balancing emotions, fixing healthy borders in relationships, being fair and kind in possible conflicts , being honest and what not , what happens when people that you have around just don't do the same?
Meaning...what's the point?
Okay, I know there is a point-for own self, that there is a value in it. But , you know, when I started my journey in self improving I imagined that it would raise the quality of my relationships (any kind of relationships) and you know what? I think that 90%of people are not even worth applying these all proper healthy psychological treating cause they are not behaving in healthy ways themselves. It doesn't mean that I'm not trying to be okay towards everyone, that I stopped improving myself. But it hurt me so many times that it was like pouring normality into the dark pit where it disappeared. I'm not even taking only about super toxicity ,I'm taking about average not fair and unhealthy behaviors and people who simply don't appreciate when someone is trying to be okay to them.
What are your thoughts, experiences and philosophy in the field of improving in relationships with others?
Share if you feel like it :)