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RiseLikePhoenix
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PathStep 164 Compassion hearts190 Forum posts66 Forum upvotes102 Current upvotes102 Age GroupAdult Last activeMay, 2024 Member sinceMarch 6, 2016
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Trying to treat others ok when others are not doing the same
Relationship Stress / by RiseLikePhoenix
Last post
 April 24th, 2016
...See more Hi guys I'd like to invite you to share your thoughts about the following thing- If you're a person who works on improving own self, balancing emotions, fixing healthy borders in relationships, being fair and kind in possible conflicts , being honest and what not , what happens when people that you have around just don't do the same? Meaning...what's the point? Okay, I know there is a point-for own self, that there is a value in it. But , you know, when I started my journey in self improving I imagined that it would raise the quality of my relationships (any kind of relationships) and you know what? I think that 90%of people are not even worth applying these all proper healthy psychological treating cause they are not behaving in healthy ways themselves. It doesn't mean that I'm not trying to be okay towards everyone, that I stopped improving myself. But it hurt me so many times that it was like pouring normality into the dark pit where it disappeared. I'm not even taking only about super toxicity ,I'm taking about average not fair and unhealthy behaviors and people who simply don't appreciate when someone is trying to be okay to them. What are your thoughts, experiences and philosophy in the field of improving in relationships with others? Share if you feel like it :)
In need of advice (suddenly cut off by a friend)
Relationship Stress / by RiseLikePhoenix
Last post
 April 12th, 2016
...See more I'm wondering how to deal with the fact that a friend suddenly cut me off and made me feel like an unnecessary object. Nothing literally happened (nothing I would be informed about), just suddenly everything that was so good about me in the eyes of this person became an annoyance. They went from telling me that I'm one of the most important people in their life, spending a lot of time together and them telling me how empty life seems without me to almost completely ignoring me. From my attempts to discuss the whole thing, I only got to know that they've had some hard time lately(emotionally), but I don't think it's a reason good enough to completely kick someone out of life, like nothing ever happened, like there was no significant connection. It melts cables in my brain... I have hard time too very often, yet I'm not suddenly ruining friendships, quite the opposite. I feel so hurt and unwanted now. Also frustrated cause I'm helpless. Any advices how to cope emotionally and accept it all? Thanks in advance.
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