Positive Advice
@yellowHemlock2876
Good question :) I feel it may help to know about each other's interests and passion, make time to spend time doing things that make either happy together, compliment and appreciate on any achievements big or small etc
@Optimisticempath can you please give me an example? This is a huge struggle for me in my relationships.
@Optimisticempath I feel like I am so clueless on how to even be in a relationship.
@yellowHemlock2876 the fact you're trying is more than commendable here <3
Example hm, I think people like different kind of stuff so it may help to ask your partner what makes them happy or what could you do to express your affection for them or even notice what they like and enjoy more , it could be as simple as ordering or cooking their favorite food or doing something they enjoy with them like a hobby , watching some movie or playing a game together, helping with any chores etc
You can try reading about the love languages too, it's a helpful guide/ tool to make relationships better :)
https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/HealthlineThereAre5LoveLanguagesHeresHowtoFindYours_275456/
Hello @yellowHemlock2876! This is an excellent question. Personally, I think the most important things in a relationship - platonic or romantic - is mutual respect, understanding, and appreciation. It's important to give support to your partner and feel grateful for their presence, but it's also crucial that you both feel safe enough to set boundaries with each other and voice concerns if you are making each other uncomfortable. It's always really encouraging, helpful, and valuable to know that your partner will accept constructive criticism, allow you to express your needs even if it means pointing out their flaws, and be there for you. Perfection and always-constant presence should not be expected of each other - it's simply not realistic. In the end, as long as the relationship raises both of you up, is only in good, selfless intent, makes both of you feel valid, safe, and loved, and is healthy for both of you, that is all that matters.
