Long Distance Relationships

My marriage started out as a long distance dating relationship, obviously, it went well and we got married and I moved across the United States to be with him. My husband is in the Army and he deploys and trains alot. Every year for about half the year I'm on my own and we are back to being long distance again. It can be difficult sometimes and the loneliness is the hardest part. However, my husband and I both work very hard to make sure that we communicate as often as possible. It's a hard life but, the time we do get to be together is worth dealing with the distance. We have been married now a little over 7 and a half years. So yes I think LDR can work out and I feel like I'm living one.

@gentleDreamer76

My most recent relationship was a LDR! I was so happy...

It wasn't easy. Nope. Not at all. We got in this one big argument about "trust." We almost took a break after that. We were together for 3 months...then life happened, he got diagnosed with cancer, and passed last week....

I remember everything...I was ok with it being a LDR. I missed him, yeah, but he was worth the pain. He could always make me smile. He didn't just tell me everything, but could make me believe it. I remember the first "I love you." He said it...then was saying he shouldn't have said it bc it was too soon 😂 (We weren't even together yet. We were still trying to decide what to do) I told him it back and that shut him up. I love him for that nervousness....We did "role plays." Pretty much...we act everything out. I remember we were "kissing" and he asked if we were going to fast, and told me to tell him if we ever went to fast. I wrote him a poem on Valentine's Day. He blushed the whole time while reading it....I remember, shortly after he was diagnosed, this time where I heard nothing. I had been crying for the past 3-4 days.

His first text back, he said, "Hi...please don't be mad. My sister lost my phone." And all I felt was thankful. I was so glad he was ok...(the docs had said he might not make it past one of those past days, and I thought something happened)

I said that I was just glad he was alright and he said, "Hey, I lived." Later in the convo, he sent a 🙂. I said, "Yay! A smile! I couldn't have asked for anything better!"

I miss him horribly....he was everything to me...I'm trying to keep my emotions in check but it's hard. Anyways, I didn't come here for pity. I came to share my story. We....me and him...we're proof that LDR's can succeed...even if I only had him for a few months before the lord called him home, that's ok. I'm happy I got that much time with him.

❤️❤️❤️

@gentleDreamer76

My most recent relationship was a LDR! I was so happy...

It wasn't easy. Nope. Not at all. We got in this one big argument about "trust." We almost took a break after that. We were together for 3 months...then life happened, he got diagnosed with cancer, and passed last week....

I remember everything...I was ok with it being a LDR. I missed him, yeah, but he was worth the pain. He could always make me smile. He didn't just tell me everything, but could make me believe it. I remember the first "I love you." He said it...then was saying he shouldn't have said it bc it was too soon 😂 (We weren't even together yet. We were still trying to decide what to do) I told him it back and that shut him up. I love him for that nervousness....We did "role plays." Pretty much...we act everything out. I remember we were "kissing" and he asked if we were going to fast, and told me to tell him if we ever went to fast. I wrote him a poem on Valentine's Day. He blushed the whole time while reading it....I remember, shortly after he was diagnosed, this time where I heard nothing. I had been crying for the past 3-4 days.

His first text back, he said, "Hi...please don't be mad. My sister lost my phone." And all I felt was thankful. I was so glad he was ok...(the docs had said he might not make it past one of those past days, and I thought something happened)

I said that I was just glad he was alright and he said, "Hey, I lived." Later in the convo, he sent a 🙂. I said, "Yay! A smile! I couldn't have asked for anything better!"

I miss him horribly....he was everything to me...I'm trying to keep my emotions in check but it's hard. Anyways, I didn't come here for pity. I came to share my story. We....me and him...we're proof that LDR's can succeed...even if I only had him for a few months before the lord called him home, that's ok. I'm happy I got that much time with him.

❤️❤️❤️

@gentleDreamer76

My most recent relationship was a LDR! I was so happy...

It wasn't easy. Nope. Not at all. We got in this one big argument about "trust." We almost took a break after that. We were together for 3 months...then life happened, he got diagnosed with cancer, and passed last week....

I remember everything...I was ok with it being a LDR. I missed him, yeah, but he was worth the pain. He could always make me smile. He didn't just tell me everything, but could make me believe it. I remember the first "I love you." He said it...then was saying he shouldn't have said it bc it was too soon 😂 (We weren't even together yet. We were still trying to decide what to do) I told him it back and that shut him up. I love him for that nervousness....We did "role plays." Pretty much...we act everything out. I remember we were "kissing" and he asked if we were going to fast, and told me to tell him if we ever went to fast. I wrote him a poem on Valentine's Day. He blushed the whole time while reading it....I remember, shortly after he was diagnosed, this time where I heard nothing. I had been crying for the past 3-4 days.

His first text back, he said, "Hi...please don't be mad. My sister lost my phone." And all I felt was thankful. I was so glad he was ok...(the docs had said he might not make it past one of those past days, and I thought something happened)

I said that I was just glad he was alright and he said, "Hey, I lived." Later in the convo, he sent a 🙂. I said, "Yay! A smile! I couldn't have asked for anything better!"

I miss him horribly....he was everything to me...I'm trying to keep my emotions in check but it's hard. Anyways, I didn't come here for pity. I came to share my story. We....me and him...we're proof that LDR's can succeed...even if I only had him for a few months before the lord called him home, that's ok. I'm happy I got that much time with him.

❤️❤️❤️

Ok. There was this girl I liked. I think she liked me too, but I can't tell for sure. Anyway, she was my sisters friend so it was sort of hard to tell her that I liked her. Then she moved to France. I haven't seen her since.

@gentleDreamer76

I have been in a long distance and I've really got to say is: its really really hard. Both partners have to have the enough strength to not willing to give up and actually fight for it. Other than that, of course, communication and trust is the main key as well.

My long distnace relationship unfortunately did not last. It lasted for about 6months but there were already red flags in the beginning of the relationship where my ex-partner finds it hard but continued just because he loved me.

I now still have contact with him and such and still care for him. Him however have turned into a guy where no girl likes (player) and is now currently cheating on his girlfriend (he updates me from time to time)

Anyways,
I hope that who ever is reading this and is in a long distance relationship to remember that you have to stay strong together with your partner. It's hard but I'm sure when you guys finally meet, it'll feel like everything is worth it. Good luck <3

I am currently in an LDR but we started out dating in person for nearly 5 months. we will only be long distance for a year before we try to get a flat together. Any suggestions as to how to make it... not feel like a year? I'm terrified about drifting apart or something, even though we are on the same page about wanting to make this work.