It's hard to find someone special

@xxxniareht I'm sorry that you are feeling frustrated. I remember how difficult it was to put myself out there the last time I was looking for companionship. Like you mentioned in your post, it can be difficult to offer you any advice when you want to find someone coincidentally in everyday life. I'm not saying that it isn't possible - people run into each other when they're out all the time - but perhaps instead of providing advice on how to FIND someone, instead we can focus on how to WAIT for someone.

Some people would rather to take a more active approach in meeting someone which would mean going on the dating apps or going out to meet new people. It's ok if you prefer to go about this more passively. I think I would prefer it that way too. However with a more passive approach, we need to have more patience. You might think that you'll meet your soulmate when you bump into them at the grocery store but you need to remember that people aren't looking to meet someone when they run their errands. You can't expect to run into people and have them open up about how they are unique from others like you expect them to do on a dating profile. I think the best way to move forward is not put pressure on meeting someone. If you do, you'll continue to be disappointed. You need to be patient in meeting people and you need to be patient with them opening up. They might at first provide the generic answers at first when questioned but once you get to know them better you can slowly find out thier uniqueness over time.

I don't know if this helps. Again, I can't offer much advice on what you need to do moving forward; only on how you should think moving forward with this plan. Whether or not you agree with this advice, I hope you eventually find the person you are looking for.

i don't think it showed up the first time whoops!

i had a rough time finding someone too. i was actually very convinced that romantical love or whatever you wanna call it didn't exist. and it really didn't bother me at first it was kind of my way of life i just lived with it. but then i started having stronger feelings for one of my best friends. i always thought he was attractive and had a crush on him in the past but the more i hung out with him, the worse things got. and at some point i just couldn't take it anymore. so i just flat out told him. it was very hard because i really didn't want to ruin such a great friendship we had and i didn't want things to change between us i didn't want him to treat me as something other than his best friend the very thought sickened me i just needed to tell him how i felt. i was so convinced that i was just incapable of loving someone else when i was able to love just someone i least expected it to be it just kept growing and growing until i couldn't handle it. it was never something i searched for it was not something i was expecting. it just happened. i think you need to be patient too. he means so much to me and always will and i want to keep him in my life as long as i can. and here we are not as close as you'd assume but overall still best friends. we can sometimes find room for our ugly romantic shit and still be each other's best friends. we still manage to love each other without being a couple. it sucks because right now he's not able to and i understand. and at times (a lot of the times) i do feel like giving up and don't feel like it's gonna work out or i'm just waiting for nothing but even the thought of being someone else rather than him really just makes me wanna puke man. i'm glad he mutually feels the same way about me, but life kind of sucks right now for us to be like haha let's date. but i'll be here for him waiting.

you should wait. and maybe it's someone you already know. either way just be open minded. i legit met this dude in 7th grade in PE and 6 years later we barely are trying to date. and i mean REALLY trying. so i recommend either going out and finding someone or maybe just look extra hard at the friends you already have. don't waste your time on dating apps. because when you're lost somewhere, you will always end up home. he is my home the same way you will find yours. always keep your hopes up. i'm here to talk if you need anything!

@xxxniareht

Thank you for your response.

Yes, I am agree that I need to be patient.

Basically, everything I can to do is keep myself positive, do what I can, work on myself and be patient. Sometimes it's hard and sad, but it's the best option.

@xxxniareht I relate to your situation deeply because I also have an idea of someone I'd want to spend my life with but its frustrating to think about trying too hard to find love or find too many people with basic interests that don't really give a deep perception of them or feel well rounded.

I completely agree with the patience mindset but something I want to mention is that most people are likely to seem basic and mainstream based on online profiles. Sometimes someone is just boring because they're not into the same things as you and that's okay. How you meet a person can influence your perception of them a lot.

I hope you do get to meet your person organically soon and be happy. You seem like a very thoughtful person and although your situation is hard, I can relate to it a lot and that's comforting in itself to me. Thank you for sharing your feelings.