Not sure whether this is the right place for me to be
Mornin' all
I'm back. Again. It's been two years since my ex and I broke up after being married 24 years. Now I am just lonely as hell.
I'm 50. Everyone else I know is married and finding time in their busy family schedules is impossible. The people I know who are not married are either half my age or my age and never married (and they seem to e never to have grown-up past their 20s).
I don't (yet?) want another relationship. But I'm tired of being inside my own head all the time.
I need some ideas.
@TheSleech
Well, being inside your head is actually a great place to find ideas.
Look, I think you have lost track of what commitment means. It's a sliding scale. No-one will expect you to propose after a few dates, and there's no reason why you shouldn't go on those dates.
Just be honest and up front.
There are plenty of similarly wounded partners out there who feel exactly like you do. I bet if you put a dating profile up saying. 'wounded, recently divorced, just looking for some company ' you will meet a lot of people who are determined never to get married again!
Good luck.
Yeah, I understand your position. I was happily married for 30 years, she died of complicatons of her complications. I work at a junior college, lots of unmarried women a fraction of my age. I am not even attracted to them. I hung out on dating sites, couldn't find anyone with any staying power. Most would meet me somewhere, then say I wasn't right for them. The last one started out really good, then her old boyfriend came back and she left me. Not sure why that hit me so hard. Then one day I got a message from someone that I hadn't contacted before because I didn't feel I was good enough for her. I met her, but she was just about to leave on a one-month trip. But she kept in touch with me, called me, and when she came back we had another date that went as well as the first. And another, and another. Now, 4 months later, we are very much a couple. No marriage talk yet, it is still too early. She wants to meet my family at Christmas.
All this to say, don't lose hope. You sound like an intelligent, thoughtful person; and there are people out there who would love to meet someone like you. It may take many years, it took me seven years, and she found me. I wish you the best of luck, because luck is what it is. Luck, and perseverance. Don't give up, there are people out there.
