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DavidEss
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Number of ratings82 Number of reviews67 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceAug 29, 2018 Last activein last week GenderMale PathStep 412 People helped189 Chats2,202 Group support chats4 Listener group chats16 Forum posts1,028 Forum upvotes624
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Hi! I'm from the UK. I'm very happy to reply to your messages when I'm online (like a text chat) , or for us to arrange a 45min session - your choice! For a session let me know when you are free, days, times, and your time zone, and we'll set something up.

I am a senior, and I particularly enjoy working with adults (not teens) who are sincere about their own personal development.   I should tell you that I work with most people well, but I do have some doubts about online-only romantic relationships (I don't think they are a substitute for physical contact, basically, and can even be a way of avoiding intimacy), so if that is what you want to talk about, that's fine, but do please be aware of my views (Difficulties in online romantic relationships come up a lot on 7C, and, in my view, there are good reasons for that).

My hobbies include reading, playing and listening to music, meditation and TaiChi. I also waste a lot of time,  which you can help me fill usefully !

I am spiritually minded, and I do not believe any religion or atheism is the one true way. I am happy to answer  your questions about this, however this quote may help you to "place" me, if you need to.

There are three truths which are absolute, and which cannot be lost, but yet may remain silent for lack of speech.
 * The soul of man is immortal, and its future is the future of a thing whose growth and splendor has no limit.
  *The principle which gives life dwells in us, and without us, is undying and eternally beneficent, is not heard or seen or smelt, but can be perceived by the man or woman who desires perception.
  *Each man and woman is his own absolute lawgiver, the dispenser of glory or gloom to himself; the decreer of his life, his reward, his punishment.
 These truths, which are as great as is life itself, are as simple as the simplest mind of man. Feed the hungry with them.
(The Three Truths - from The Idyll of the White Lotus by Mabel Collins)

I have no connection whatever to any other DavidEss on the www, this username is unique to Sevencups..I would also like to emphasise that I have nothing to advertise or promote apart from my presence and awareness :) .
Recent forum posts
Saturday Slowdown?
Site Updates / by DavidEss
Last post
April 4th, 2022
...See more Just a headsup that I invariably notice the site slows down around 5pm GMT on a Saturday, to the point that conversations become difficult to continue. Today it was a conversation between me in the UK and another member in the UK. It's also taking ages to post this on here,so I think it's a general sitewide issue.
Site scrolling "Sticky" with firefox and opera on PC
Site Updates / by DavidEss
Last post
March 16th, 2021
...See more A bit of a rant, after a difficult long chat made more difficult by the software. Over the past couple of weeks I've noticed that messages don't appear in the main window quickly on my PC ( they seem to come in the left sidebar area first. The main window doesn't scroll properly, I often can't go back to re-read messages - (particularly unhelpful are the many listener prompts which I never read but just push everything else up the page) and quite often I can't read recent messages without refreshing the page, opening in a new window, etc. Working with text chat is difficult enough without things getting in the way of the flow. I'm sure it will be fixed eventually, hopefully soon, but it speaks volumes that no-one's posted a thread about it here.
Cleansing exercise
Mindfulness Center / by DavidEss
Last post
November 30th, 2018
...See more I very often do a cleansing exercise at the start of my daily meditation. My current favourite is called 'the middle pillar exercise ' from Western Qabalah. It can be as simple or as complicated as you want, and takes about 10 minutes. Marc Allen has a simple version on Youtube. One of the reasons I do this is that it usually takes me ten minutes to settle down anyway, so I think I might as well do something useful!
Feedback & Reviews
He is very understanding
He has sense of humor. He is also a good listener and a person who lets you talk and think through
Great listener. Highly recommended
Very patient, helped me to understand my situation better
Very kind with words
He listens and responds
Very good listener ... actively listened and reflected back what needed to be discussed - thank-you for your time
A wise man that is easy to talk to
He is so caring and polite. I really liked chatting with him
he is an amazing listener
A very understanding and compassionate person. Listens to you patiently , ask apt questions , helps us understand ourselves better , gives useful and practical suggestions. Thank you for talking with me David.
Calm and a good listener
Someone who really goes out of his way to help you. Pretty funny too :)
Listened to issues very carefully and provided perspective better
Such an amazing person. A great listener who truly shows they care.
Understanding. : )
Always very kind ❤️
They're very kind
DavidEss is supportive, compassionate, and a good listener. I feel finally someone could understand me and help me to see the situation more clear. I can´t say how much I appreciate his advice and time.
He's very patient..... A great listener
Dear Sir Ess, once again I thank you for being my long-term listener. You have been one of my refuge in time of needs, and I'm glad to know that I can always expect some learning from you in our listening session. Please take a very good care of yourself, Sir, much love and God bless you; always!
great guy and kind
I was sceptical at first, but impressed in the end.
They're very kind and gentle. Thank you
I just started talking with David and thankful that he is willing to support as longterm listener in a slow pace chats. It's very hard for a member to find a listener that fits our needs. So thank you David
The listeners has listened to me a couple of times now. They are always very kind, warm and understanding. They even checkin on me which is so thoughtful of them
I had a wonderful chat on Christmas Eve with DavidEss. He was kind, warm, and empathetic as always. I always look forward to chatting again with him. Have a nice holiday, Sir Ess, lots of love and God bless you!
Thank you so much for listening to me, Sir Ess, take care and God bless you!
They're genuinely there to listen. Very kind
Dear Sir Ess, thank you for spending time with me and truly listened. I have been unwell but you cheered me up. For a moment there I forgot that I'm ill and able to smile. God bless your kind heart, Sir, thank you so much!
They were very nice and were so calm which made me feel calm too. They were also empathetic. They listened patiently to what I had to say
3 words about David Ess: Caring, Professional, Real. David is an attentive listener that able to open my point of view whenever I feel stuck. He's useful and helpful, and our chat was always fun, fun, fun. Thank you, Sir Ess!
DavidEss is a lovely listener. He's very wise, unconventional, but never goes out of track. He's sharp but does not cut like a knife. I will forever thankful to 7 Cups for having him as my listener. Thank you, David!
David is very wise. He listens carefully and never judge. He is simply the best!
The listener is really great and often checks up on you which is so thoughtful. They sound knowledgeable. They also engage in the convo. Thank you
DavidEss is compassionate and insightful. I'm so glad to have spent time chatting with him.
Mr. Ess is someone who listens without judgment whatsoever. That's the best part of him. He know exactly what he's doing and he's so good at it. I feel safe and calm everytime I talked to him. Thank you so much, Mr. Ess, God bless your kind heart ❤
David is a great listener. He is so wise, patient, and non-judgmental. I enjoy talking to him. Thanks a lot, David!
So good at listening! thank you
David really listens and dedicates his time, listening to only one person. Non judgemental, which I appreciate. And he doesn't consider my problems any less than someone else's. I really appreciate him taking out the time to help people and I'll tell you what's more, he follows up. He is not a magical genie. But he will listen and help you where he can.
I think I'm lucky to be able to speak to David. He's a great listener. Thank you so much, David!
I cannot put in words how much this chat helped me! They're an amazing listener and it really felt as if I was talking to a friend. Made me feel better and helped me make sense of my thoughts. They're very open and I really appreciated all their insights which really got me thinking! They really helped me by putting exactly how I was feeling in words. Best listener I've had the pleasure to talk to :)
Imagine having a good friend talking with you over a cup of coffee or tea in a rainy afternoon. It's warming your heart and just gives you hope. Thank you, Sir, God bless you!
Lovely person with a lovely soul. Oh, I'm gonna miss talking to him!
helped with my issue
Great listener, He was so easy to talk to, and we had such an interesting conversation. I felt so comfortable all along, and left the chat feeling motivated.
Amazing listener , great company:D
Is patient and willing to listen
Such a great listener, so understanding, helps you work through thoughts and feelings. So wise and caring, patient. I highly recommend. If you try only one listener it should be David.
It was an absolute, absolute pleasure speaking with David. He gave me his undivided attention, was very generous, extremely understanding and SO reassuring in his comments. Really, one of the best chats I had here; thank you so much David.
Fantastic listener. Very patient and empathetic. Listened to me for the longest time, asking the right questions and providing insight and resources where needed. I felt much more at peace afterwards, and with a renewed sense of direction in my life.
Opened up my mind.
Splendid listener! Very attentive, nice and easy to talk to. It's more like talking to a friend! Thank you for the experience.
The listener sounded very wise and friendly.
He was very helpful and full of insights. He's really a great listener. He's very patient also. He sees to it to get what i am it trying to say even if i myself can't find the words to say but he gets it. he gets me. He's amazing.
Decent gentleman, great conversation, appreciate people like him, making the world a better place.
one of the best listeners on the app he replies when he can and genuinely listens and cares he understands my situation and rather than just brushing it off, he's there .. listens and is very helpful
I feel so much better after talking with you. Thanks!
I can’t begin to tell you how much you helped me today. I was in a really desperate place and you helped so much. What a kind, professional man that totally understood me. A true gentleman. Thank you!
Very compassionate and understanding. Really starting to help me see things clearer. 5 Star for sure!
David has been a great and so caring. I actually feel better and have some of my sense of humor back. He’s helped me get out of bed and start a productive day. And even inspired me a bit to help others.
He couldn't be nicer..he understood my problem pretty well and really got to the depth of my problem and gave me appropriate solutions..thanks again :)
very helpful and understanding listener
he is great. patient, calm and composed. a must try for everyone. Thank you :)
loved the support he gave by listening to the whole issue. He actually tries to relate your issue with the practical experience he had or the learnings obtained througout. A must try man (sir) with a practical outlook on your problems. bluntness is one of the characteristic which is needed and he has it.
They are very helpful and I feel they are truly concerned about me.
a great, insightful listener
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