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I have been depressed for most of my life. Seriously, majorly depressed. I am somewhat better now, but still struggling. 7 cups is one way that I am trying to eliminate the bad feelings.
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She still loves me but
Relationship Stress / by Offmytrack
Last post
 September 4th, 2021
...See more We have been together since 2018. We love each other immensely. About a year ago, we moved in together, and I got a new doctor. He gave me anti-depression pills (I have been depressed most of my life). They left me with ED. Last April, we went on a camping trip, and I made a few mistakes in my driving. Now, I can't drive (we sold my car). I went to a neuropsychologist and he said I shouldn't drive, and I have a bit of dementia. Other doctors have said the same thing. She still loves me, calls me her fiance', but she talks about my dementia and won't marry me. I can not detect the dementia. I retired last year. What can I do? She moved out a month ago and bought a small house, which made me move out as well. We live close to each other, we are much in love, but she won't marry me.
My curse is coming back
Relationship Stress / by Offmytrack
Last post
 August 26th, 2021
...See more The curse is A) My father died at 56, close to his 57th birthday. My mother never remarried. B) My father-in-law died at 56, close to his 57th birthday. My mother-in-law never remarried. C) My wife died at 56, close to her 57th birthday. I haven't remarried. OK, my wife died about 11 years ago, three years ago I met a woman on Match.com and we have grown very fond of each other. To the extent that she moved in with me when we bought a nice house and she became my fiance'. That was last year. Now, she has moved out and bought a new house. That means that I will have to move out and buy a place. She says she still loves me, but she won't marry me. I will remain unmarried. Part of the problem is my daughter. She is 37 years old and doesn't do much of anything. She can't drive a car, she can't ride a bike, and she has a terrible anxiety about people. The other problem is me. I am getting older and my memory is getting worse, I have been depressed almost all my life, and now, she wants me to visit with her. I want to marry her, but she doesn't want to marry me.
A slight issue
Relationship Stress / by Offmytrack
Last post
 January 7th, 2020
...See more My girlfriend and I are very much in love. However, from January to August last year we had a lot of trouble. We got over it, and are doing much better now. I am planning to retire this year, in September, and we are in discussions about moving in together. She is worried that her love for me will get stale and she won't want to see me. I know myself well enough that I will always love her. But last year made me worry a bit, most of the problem was her insomnia, some of it was fear. What if she goes through that again when we are living together? I am hoping that we will do well together all this year, but I am not certain of that. I am an old romantic, and spent 30 years in a wonderful marriage. She spent 12 years in a very uncomfortable and bad marriage and now has a bad opinion of it. What can I do?
My story, and other things
Relationship Stress / by Offmytrack
Last post
 October 31st, 2019
...See more I met my girlfriend in April of last year, we were inseperable all year long. This year, we have been through a lot, many problems, but it seems they have all worked themselves out. We are doing very well together now. I was married for 30 years, a wonderful time and a really good marriage. It left me feeling very positive about being married. My girlfriend was married for 12 years, most of it bad. It left her feeling pretty negative about being married. I am 65 years old, and planning to retire next year. My girlfriend has already retired. We tried living together in her house, but it didn't work. One problem is her house is too small. The other problem was that I get up very early to go to work, and that bothered her sleeping, even though we slept in separate bedrooms. We took a trip together last month, and it was a disaster. She didn't get much sleep the whole time, and yelled at me way too often for being afraid to say anything. She apologized the day after the trip, but it left me feeling that being married to her would lead to more grouching. The only compromise I can think of is for us to move in together in a bigger house once I retire. We both own our houses, and could sell them and buy a bigger house. I still feel that she might not sleep well with me in the same house as her, but I feel that with a bigger house it wouldn't be a big problem. The problem comes up that I would love to be married again, she doesn't want to get married again. I'm not sure what to do now.
What can I do?
Relationship Stress / by Offmytrack
Last post
 September 18th, 2019
...See more Here is the problem. My girlfriend and I are very much in love, almost inseperable. But she has a bad form of insomnia; where she falls asleep fine but wakes up in terror of not being able to go back to sleep. The terror keeps her awake. Sometimes I can ease that, and she can go back to sleep, other times the problem is that I am there (in another room) and will be waking up early to go to work and that puts her on edge. We tried living together, but gave up on that because of her not sleeping. I am 65 years old, and do not believe I could find another woman to love, don't even want to. But how can I be with her, live with her, when I am part of what keeps her awake?
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