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Updated on 07/09/2023 by @KateDoskocilova
Hi
Hi..brand-new here. I am 6 months out from learning about my husband's emotional affair with a friend. We have been married 30 years (I am in my 60s). I knew we were in a rut in our marriage but had know idea just how big of a rut my husband thought we were in. The affair partner husband called me and told me about the affair, my husband did not confess on his own. My situation could be taken straight out of all the literature on emotional affairs. The both swear it was physical, but I have caught my husband in a couple lies so may be it was. And some of the timing of late nite calls may have been phone/video sex. Due to where we live they did not have many opportunities to be together. It involved mostly texting and calls. My husband swears it began becshe was going through a very rough time in her marriage and she was just reaching out to him for support. But she knew we were not in a perfect time in our marriage because we had shared heart to heart talks about our marriages. She used the infinite gave her to slowly rope him in. When it all finally came to light he called her his best friend, said she understood like no one ever had, that he had never been happy in our marriage, made him feel young, and he had convinced himself that our marriage was so bad I would not care he was looking elsewhere. He even said he liked her kids better than ours. So alot to deal with. We are still together but some days are tough. He is typical male betrayer and says he has apologized and it won't happen again, I told him if there was any more contact I was leaving him. He just wants to move on. He has depression and is going through midlife crisis. She is 20 years younger than him. So I have been obsessed with phone records..texting and calling at all hours, which he claims not to remember, midnight, 3AM, and both hovering like Pavlov’s dog. Even at these ridiculous hours they respond right away to each other. Last 4th of July she and her family stayed with us and she and my husband were texting from separate bedrooms in my house. And on vacation he was actually texting her every morning at like 3 or 4 am and sneaking away to call her...OK so between February 2022 and October 2022 when caught there were over 5,500 texts and 3 days worth of calls.
This was way longer than I intended it to be....hopefully someone actuareads the whole thing. Excited to be a part of a support group. I am in therapy and getting help there.