Still in love with you're ex? Nothing will ever be the same? Tell me about it..

it's been two months and two days. there's still a hole in my heart. i could sit for a week and list all of the things that were wrong with our relationship- on both sides. but i still miss him. i miss the future i thought we were going to have. i miss the possibility. i thought i had this under control. i thought i was through with all of it. but his birthday was yesterday and i thought i'd torture myself by looking at the pictures of him being happy without me. i bought him a birthday present that i'll never give him. i kept my silence instead of saying happy birthday. i don't want him to know that i still think about him. i don't want anyone to know i still think about him. i don't want to feel this anymore. i don't want to love him anymore.

I love this post. It is so true that past relationships can destroy our self confidence, and our self esteem. We often long for relationships when they have ended, even when they are bad for us because the pain of losing someone is so unbearable. The good news is, that in time, you do eventually heal. That may take weeks, months.. it truly is different for everyone. Losing a relationship means grieving it out. It's not an easy task. Acceptance of losing it is so tough. BUT, if you are struggling, there is an end in sight.. you will get there. Try to take care of yourself as much as possible.. and grieve however you know how. <3 we are here for you!

Im still in love with her . 11 1/2 months with her . She was my everything and just recently she changed into someone I didn't recognize . I've been going through a lot with my medical stuff . I am legally disabled ( it's a mild disability you can't notice . But it effects me physically ). She saw me as who I wanted to be seen as . I was hit by a car and it worsened it . I've been in and out of he hospital with internal issues and back issues . A few weeks ago my depression triggered . She told me to stop being depressed . Then blamed it as the reason she fell out of love with me . Then when my friend was murdered . She picked a fight with me telling me to get over it. That im not allowed to be sad. I couldn't do it anymore . She got mad one night when I didn't say I love you. But I said if all day and she never said it back . Did I do the right thing by walking away ??

Hi guys .

It's been 4 months since he dumped me . After that he texted me like how are you ? Can we just be friends etc. And we started to talk again . But we were a really weird couple because he was a conservative and a little old fashion guy and well we can say that i am pretty independent and modern yet I was crazily in love with him . Anyway we couldn't make it even as friends . We just got a huge fight and we got very disrespectful to each other . He hurt me bad and I hurt him too but i know the things we said wasn't really real . We just wanted each other to suffer . We stopped talking since .

Right now I am in a big depression . I can't get over. Everywhere I go anything I do just makes me miss him crazily . I still can't believe that I won't see him ever again . We were together for 3 years and I sorta grew up with him . I am 20 and it feels like I will never get over or love someone else like I loved him . It feels like I will never find that happiness or feel completed again . Please help me I am tired of being sad all the time

She just told me she cheated on me but I can't stop thinking about how to fix this still.

So I dont really think I'm in love with my ex but it has been really hard to accept that we wont talk again and for myself to forgive all he put me through. We were together for 2 yrs and lived together for one so its been really hard to not see him or talk to him at all. The first 8 months of our relationship were perfect. I truly was the happiest I had ever been because he treated me so amazing and we had so much love towards each other. I started dreaming of us marrying and having kids and so did he. Then we moved in together and he started changing. He became a slob and would every night sit amd talk to his xbox friends. I didnt really have any friends where we were living so often I would just hang out with him because I at least enjoyed him being there. A major issue between us was that when I met his mom and sister they were very unwelcoming of me and I was really uncomfortable because it appeared they didnt want to get to know me. So at first I started telling him nicely jlw I felt and he said he would talk to them to see if that was true and I just need to spend more time with them. Well I met them a few more times and it didnt change. It felt like they didnt really acknowledge I was there and didnt take me seriously as his girlfriend. Btw I was this guys first relationship. So because I cared so much about his families opinion and got upset after being with them and kind of started complaining about them. All I really wanted was him to side with me and see that they were hard to get along with especially for someone who isnt extremely outgoing like me. He would get really defensive that I would say that stuff but I just wanted him to understand how I felt. My parents always were super nice to him and made him feel at home even though he didnt talk much around them. So, in the relationship I kind of screwed up with that. I knew i shouldnt say negative things about his family but I cared so much that I thought they didnt like me because I started picturing them as my in laws beforehand and it was just a disappointment that they didnt get to know me. Then one day I found out that a day I was gone he invited them over to our apartment without telling me. He said he thought I wouldnt want them over so he just did it and wasnt ever going to tell me. Thats when I got really hurt because I was so excites at the possibility of them finally coming to my home and then I could welcome them and we would have a lot to talk about. So then I didnt really want to see them after that but I still wanted my ex to make an effort of bringing us together. This is why I still think about my ex because I have guilt of not being mature and keeping these things to myself but I wanted to honest with him and give him a chance to fix things. Our relationship kind of ended up me being more like his maid but I still loved him and he said he did too every day. I accepted his flaws and I thought he accepted mine. I would ask him to go places with me but he never wanted to. But then some night if a friend asked him he would stay out super late and I never felt like I could trust him. Basically, I'm still super upset that he didnt just break up with me a yr ago if he didnt truly love me. And then his ex friend told me my ex told ppl that he cheated on me. I dont know when or with who so I messaged my ex just to make sure it was true but he didnt respond and that was upsetting. Based on how he was the first 6 months I thought he was my soulmate. My biggest fear is what if he was but I somehow screwed it up?

I think we all have that person who holds a certain place in our heart forever. Nothing can change that. No one can ever replace him/her. That's what we call "the most beautiful thing in the world"

I haven't been able to moved on from a broken relationship. It still hurts a lot. And the fact that she is happy while I'm miserable makes me feel more miserable. I can feel that there's a big hole in my heart. I can't let her go. And I don't even want to forget anything about her.

However, sometimes, me and our memories, we are happy together.

My boyfriend just left me, had a list of complaints about why I didn't make him happy, acknowledged that he had many faults which made me unhappy but was past the point of trying to work at it. I'm not sure if I still "love" him or am afraid of being on my own. All my friends are married and/or having kids and I feel so lost.

I don't know what to do, I just want this pain to go away.

I was with my best friend for nearly 14 years, and we were engaged.

Things started to fall apart and he refused to talk about it or acknowledge that we were having problems. I met someone, who made me feel loved, appreciated and amazing.

We split up just over a year ago. He is still, and always will be, my best friend. He told me that we were never getting back together. The new guy I met asked me to marry him, and I said yes. We got married in September. I'm used to people judging me for doing it so quickly so go ahead if you want.

I've moved to a different country to be with my husband, I've been here for 2 months. I found out the other day that my ex was finally with someone else and I just lost it. My depression is out of control, and I have been crying for 3 straight days. Every time I think about him and what we had I just break down. I do know how to move past this.

I am so lonely away from my family, but if I move back home there's nothing for me there. I would only be staying for him but we aren't together any more. And I'm married.

I love my husband, but this is consuming me right now. I just want it to stop.

He was my everything for 14 years (high school sweethearts, best friends) and now it's gone. I feel like my heart is dead, or dying, whichever would explain this pain best.

I just want to die if I can't be with him. I don't know what to do.

i was with someone for only a couple of months. and within those months i grew a bond with him quicker and stronger than i have ever had with anyone ever before. we were both on the same page. but then his schedule became more tight, he did not have time for me. he also stated how he will be moving to the opposite side of the country within the year. he wanted to save himself the feelings before things became more serious, so he ended it with me. really, the whole thing was bad timing but its very hard for my feelings to understand that and i am overthinking the whole thing. its been a month since then, and i still hurt and cry about it often enough because we hardly come in contact and his feelings are hidden. i know it probably isnt best for me to show too much of my emotion but i have already expressed too much to him and he hasnt responded much, leading me to believe he does not care. this hurts now because i feel fooled, not cared for, and not good enough. its ridiculous, but it truly is how im feeling and its painful. i just do not know how to focus anymore because of how big of an impact this was on me. i was not expecting to feel like this for i have experienced many break ups before, even relationships with people of over a year i have never felt this down.