Post breakup help
Recently broke up with my ex. We finally cut contact today, and it was really hard to let go. I'm having trouble with the thought that I'll have trouble finding love again, and if I do, I won't be satisfied. He raised my standards so, so much. Overall, the breakup was the best choice, but I've never had an amicable breakup where we were both sad to see it end and have good memories of each other. Thinking of moving forward, especially with someone else, makes me feel really sick. I feel like nobody could even compare to him. I'd never been treated so well and I fear I'll never have it again. I'm genuinely crushed. I feel very stuck, I've barely been able to function and my thoughts keep looping back to that I'll never be able to move on, my next relationship won't compare, and I'll always be nostalgic and unhappy because I dated him.
@americanguineapig I understand that you're going through a difficult time after the end of your relationship. Dealing with the end of a significant relationship can be emotionally challenging, especially when there was a deep connection and positive feelings involved. However, the pain you're feeling is temporary. It's normal to have doubts and fears about the future and finding love again. These feelings are common after a breakup, especially when you feel that the standards and quality of your previous relationship were exceptional. However, it's important to open yourself up to the possibility that there are many wonderful people in the world and that you have the ability to find someone who will treat you with respect, love, and care. Each relationship is unique, and the next one can bring new experiences and different joys, even if they're not identical to the previous relationship. Remember that you deserve to be loved and valued, just like anyone else. It's normal to feel stuck in the past, but it's important to allow yourself to heal and grow emotionally. Give yourself time to get to know yourself again, redefine your standards, and allow new opportunities to come into your life. In the meantime, focus on taking care of yourself. Find activities that bring you joy and personal satisfaction. Cultivate your interests, connect with friends and family, and focus on your personal growth. As you strengthen and value yourself, you'll be more prepared to receive love from someone else. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to go through the healing process. Time will help you heal and open doors to new possibilities
@americanguineapig
Consideeing the way that you decided breaking up was the best choice despite how much you like him, something serious must’ve happened that made you decide that you two was just not compatible anymore. I feel like the best to do could be to take some time for yourself now? Since you’re so used to being with your previous partner, it could be good to just spend a period of time by yourself now without the thought of needing to find another date on your mind. Think about what you liked to do before you got with your ex, and go back to hobbies that you enjoyed. Good luck and you can do it!!
Allow yourself time to come to terms with the loss. Focus on your next step...thinking about future relationships will only cause you further suffering.
Ending any relationship is painful...being open and discussing your feelings with people is definitely a good place to start the healing process.
If you got to that conclusion, just follow your heart and mind. Only you know what's best for you. Let time heal you and don't think about getting into another relationship right now. Every relationship is unique, but getting into a new one just after a heart-break is not health for you nor, por your couple. The relationship you should focus on right now is that one with yourself. Learn more about yourself, who you really are, your likes and dislikes, try new things. Pain won't easily go, but you will feel released. And when time comes, love may knock at your door again and you could share the whole new you with someone else. Surround yourself with your close friends and family and try to get over one day at a time.