I literally can't get my ex off my mind
I broke up with my ex a well and ahalf ago and it's soevident westill really care for each other. I had a problem the other day and he waswillinto let me vent, he said he would always be there for me and he doesn't likeothers to worry about him but little does he know I'll always care for him. I still love him. He thinks he lost hischance with me but he didn't if only he would workharder in our relationship and fix what he had done wrong I would take him back in a heart beat. I miss him butI'm not going to beg him to get backtogethercause he doesn't want to getback together... I feel weare both secretly stuck. And I don't know what to do If I should do anything at all😔
I am sorta in thus position as well. I have an ex from High school and he was definitely my first love and first broken heart. We naturally grew apart and teenage hormone crap we had a vendetta for each other because we each thought the other hated us. I moved on so did he. I fell in love with devil as far as I am concerned now because what was an 11yr relationship with my last turned into a nightmare of abuse and degradation. I was made to believe I deserved to be hurt, hit, emotionally traumatized and sexual assaulted by a man who "claimed" he loved me. I did finally muster up the courage to leave for good and I have been away from him now 2 yrs but of course I have anxiety, panic attacks , depression and my own mind working against me now. I recently reconnected with my first love and this is the first man since leaving ex that I have actually wanted to pursue a relationship with. He claims to want the same as in he has said this to me not something my mind decided and recently he's pulled back. I don't know if I should question him or just let him come to me? We dated for a year over 13 years ago and now we have been one on date I guess 2 if you count our catch up and after the first date he was so sweet messaging me all day long calling me through out the day. Saturday we had plans and he claims he never got one of my messages and assumed I blew him off which is possible but my problem with believing this is he has messaged and called me for 2 weeks without hesitation then he doesn't hear from me or so he claims and doesn't bother to call or check if we still have plans just oh well? He told me he wants to try for relationship and had feelings for me. Then does this? Am I being played or wasting my time? I have severe trust issues now since leaving the decade long nightmare and I can't help but over analyze every detail until I cause myself a panic attack. Please help. How should I handle this?
Bella1864 I think he could have missed a message but it's more likely that is guys are shite at reading signals from girls. We misunderstand things and think it's too much or not enough for you. He could be hanging back to not ruin what you've got and not spoil the situation. Just try n talk. It's the best way. If you chat you both know where you're at
I have said something to him asked him if I upset him or if he'd changed his mind or met someone else. He said no to all 3. It wasn't an attack I was calm and told him just to be honest I wouldn't be mad and he shouldn't feel guilty. He said no he was still very interested but his now his communication is like 1/5 of what it was. I just don't want to keep nagging the issue but at the same time it's really bothering me because my mind is flying at all the negative things it could be. I think I will just kinda back off myself see if he comes to me. If he doesn't then I sorta have my answer right?
I need some major help. My boyfriend recently broke up with me and it's seriously leaving me heartbroken. We go to schooltogether and we have mutual friends. It's hard to avoid him, and i feel like if i don't then I'll be hurting even more. He was my first real relationship. All my life I've been played out by guys and every year it's just one heartbreak after another and then when i was with him, i really felt like he was the one. He told me all thesethings about howimthe "one" for him and he sees us having a future together. He says that he "loves me and always will love me," and that he's "not like the other guys". We'vebeentalking for over a year and just started going out. Before we could even make 6 months he just randomly broke up with me. It really doesn't make sense. Out of nowhere bejust decides to end it, telling me that it's better this way. He says he "still loves me but not the same way he used to". I don't understand men. I'm really hurting because I believed he was the right one for me as well. He's always giving me mixed signals and acts like he doesn't care. Should i just move on? What should i do?
If you were me this is what I would do. 1. Do not chase him this I find pushes guys away especially at a younger age you mentioned you were in school and I am assuming high school but if I'm wrong please feel free to correct me. I do believe that your love was real on both sides. Boys in Highschool in my experience tend to make funny decisions. I say smile hold your head high and show him what he lost out on. If you chase him it will make it harder for you to move on IMO. I say smile and show him how classy and mature you are.
The most important way, as Bella says isto not chase after someone. But how can you do that if you still care about that person? The key is to love yourself. Imagine yourself as two different people. You1 needs to love You2, so you are not dependent upon the rest of the world for that love, be it from your boyfriend or someone who is supposedly a friend. Once You1 and You2 are satisfied and happy with each other, then you simply won't care about those toxic relationships, and you will find more meaningful ones that accept you for that. Some steps: Exercise. This will improve your body, and also your body image. You will have a better body to love, and love your body more because exercise creates positivity. Next, spend some time alone, not with other guys or friends. Respect that about yourself. Go on walks. Go to a restaurant by yourself. Go to the movies by yourself. Treat yourself the way you would want your boyfriend to treat you.
I broke up with my boyfriend only yesterday and this is for the second time now over the same issue. I just could not keep away from him after he said how sorry he was and promised that he won't make the same mistakes but he did, I can't do this again. I want it to be over but I have been tempted to call him and take everything back. I don't know what to do.
If what he did wasnttoo bad, maybe give him one more chance?
I'm now sure I've had enough, thanks though
I recently tried to ask a guy out, only for him to laugh in my face. What do I do? I'm really hurt, but he's a good friend, or so I thought. Any ideas?
I'm in a similar situation now. I can't help but think that we could be happy together if only we could be open with eachother about how we feel. It's easier said than done.
I can relate except this guy wasn't an ex we didn't even have a relationship he was an almost. All I know is every day or every other day I write down what I miss about him, how we would've been great together, how mad I'm at him for leaving me in the dark with how he felt and I keep writing in hopes that I will get over him. Only issue is its hard when we're still friends, but we haven't talked in a month so I'm trying to prepare my heart for when he does talk to me again. So I'll keep writing and writing in hopes that my feelings won't be as strong.