How long should I wait
My ex gf broke up with me 2 months ago after a 4 years relationship
I contacted her to try to sort out things she accepted to give me a one month break so she make sure she is taking the right decision ...
I contacted her twice during that break and she didnt like that after 2 weeks she sent me message that her decision is final and she wants to leave me ...
2-4 days later she started dating another guy and I received a screenshot from a chat between them where they say I love you to each other !!!? I couldnt believe she could love someone else in only 2 weeks (cause I am sure they werent talking before she broke up with me)
Anw I searched about this thing online and find out that she's probably in a rebound relationship and I still have a big chance of winning her back ...
After 1 month and half from our breakup I contacted her she replied normal and fast but just casual messages ...
She posted a new picture few days ago and in the background a photo of me and her that I gifted her is still next to her bed
So now 2 months have passed she's still dating that other guy and I still have strong feelings for her and I am ready to give her another chance...
But I am waiting for them to breakup first to try to contact her again ...
How much should I wait ? Is it over ?
I am kinda lost and not sure what I should do
Don't. You will find someone else. Because if she did this now and even if you guys come back together after a while she can again date someone else and move on quickly. You will hurt yourself again.
@bighawat- It sounds like she had been thinking of leaving the relationship for a while - based on the fact that she has found another partner. Be grateful that you did have a clean break and only spent 4 years together. Sorry, waiting around is most likely not the best choice for you. Take advantage of the opportunity to meet other people. Focus on yourself. You will most likely be more content in the long run. Best of luck to you.
I was in your place too. I couldn't get over my ex for 2 years, but he was with 2 girls in that period of time. After 2 years of waiting for him to break up from his second girlfriend, I reconnect with him and we started to have something again for about 1 and a half years. Now I am broken, he wasn't the person I once knew, he was different and everything was worse than before. He made me believe he liked me but he used me until he left me for another girl a week after we had a fight. So as someone who has been in your place, my advice is try to put that person in the past. Things won't ever be the same, and most likely if things don't work out this time, they will end even worse than before, leaving you even more broken. I know it isn't easy, in fact, I am still healing and it is very painful, but this time I know what is right and I am telling you as someone who already waited for the other person, it will not be as you think it will be, it just won't go back to how things were before that breakup
@inesnvg- those are wise words. Even separating from my husband I wonder who I married. Dont recognize the behaviors. And any relationship that has been apart is NEVER the same as before.
