How do the feelings stop?
The worst thing is I can't even call it a breakup and yet somehow it is. We never actually called it a relationship. Maybe more a friendship plus thingy but we had something and every moment during the last almost 2 years was good. I cherished this guy so much, literally the kindest soul I know. But also the it's not really something and we're both on the edge of going away anyway hurt. I'm quite sure I'm more hurt and dealing with those feelings since mine were always stronger and knowing that kind of sucks.
But also before it even started being something more than a regular friendship I had feelings for him. So how do I get over about 4 years of feeling something for this one guy.. because I've tried. And focusing on other things do help here and there but I've been waking up with his name on my mind every single day and I'm not sure how to stop. Seeing other people just brings me to a point of comparing them - which is not the way to go yeah but I'm not even sure how one person was able to impress me this much. Also since we do work in the same company - though different departments I do see him occasionally.
Everything is so weird and I still wonder how I can be so stuck on somebody. I just feel bad over and over again with all those feelings that won't go away
I feel this in my soul . I had the same thing happen and when I asked him to be more then FWB he declined. I was crushed and we all but stopped talking for 3 years. That was 8 years ago. We were and are still best friends. I still love him . I still talk to him every day . I still think that we should be together. However after the 3 years of barely any contact with him I've come to peace with the fact that as much as the heart what's what it wants and the heart doesn't want what it doesn't want. I had to come to to tearms with the fact that as much as I want him to love me , He doesn't and I'd rather have him in my life as my best friend then have him enter into a relationship with Me when his heart isn't in it. I took a lot of time talking about it and concentrating on myself. I had to realize that I am enough and I deserve better than someone who will never love me . I can't say it will get better but I can say that it hurts less in time. Just need to love yourself more then you love him . Imo
@jadedmonster1983 i second you , hard lessons to learn but no other way..
