Getting over an ex while still loving him
What advice or action should I do while I’m trying to move on? I still love and want my ex, but I am trying to accept that things didn’t work out and he didn’t see any value in staying. I keep relapsing to grieving over the relationship and wanting him bad. I want to hope, but I also don’t want to get hurt.
Hey I am going through the same thing now too. I'm not sure how I'm making it when it's only been 2 weeks and feels like forever since he broke up, but I'm trying to take things day by day. Some days are more difficult than others, and I have felt guilty for checking my phone to see if he's texted me. I keep hoping he'll come back, and that hope is what makes some days easier. I was so dependent on him, but now I have to depend on myself for happiness, and it's best if you do the same. I suggest doing the things you didn't have time for when you were dating him, things you enjoy, and do whatever makes you feel confident and better about yourself. For me, that's listening to uplifting music and working out. Of course it's only natural to let out your tears sometimes, don't force them back. But once you're done with the tears, take your mind off your ex, though I know it's nearly impossible at first, but you'll learn. The healing process is long, but I know you can get through it. Anyway, you deserve someone far better who will appreciate you for all you are! That guy will not find anyone better, whether he believes it or not. So do you! And I guarantee everything will get better, it just takes time. I hope this post finds you well and you're doing okay!
I just broke up with my bf 2 days back and the reason was that my family didn't approve him for marriage they had their valid reasons which even i accepted a bit
But i just had a choice to make either him or them and i choose my parents
Now i feel extremely terrible
I know I made a decision that is good for us both but now he is accusing me of using him , betraying him, and giving him hopes and not trying enough .
I'm so so helpless right now and i keep blaming myself
I want to move on and want him to do the same
Bz in the end my family isn't ever gbg to approve of him.
How do I deal with self blame and regret and guilt that i have.
He has blocked me everywhere and mentioned he wnt ever see my face again.
Hi I am in the same boat, almost 2 month now and I still cant get over her and thinking about her all the time
But the main problems were, I couldnt commit to the "no contact" I still check her last seen her social media accounts daily even that I know she moved on and shes in a relatioship with another person now.
But when I dont check her accounts for couple of days I feel better.
And the 2nd biggest problem I read too much about how to get your ex back and these stuff available online which made me stuck even more and hoping and beleiving that she still loves me and she will be back.
But I contacted her yesterday (which I dont suggest that you should do) and I felt she's a complete different person she has no feelings for me at all not interested about me and dont care about me ... So then I realized that I was trying to convince myself the whole time that she will be back and believing everything I read while the truth is the complete opposit
Once you realize that they aint coming back they are an ex they are moving on while you're stuck here ... They may never never comeback, then you can accept that they really left you
And when you do you will start feeling better (coming for 1 day experience :p)
Exactly the same for me. 2 months have passed and I am stuck. He is with a new girl (actually he moved on a week after we broken up), and I am here completely broken. There is not a single time where I don't think about him and I also experience that after checking his stuff on social media I feel even worse.
It is also very difficult for me to accept that he moved on and that we may not have something again. The truth is that he broke me and I know he didn't treat me the way I deserved to be treated it somehow I still miss him. I think this is some kind of codependence, I rely my emotional status on another person.
Your words have made me realize that the hope I have that we come back and that he still wants me in the future, are only things I make up in my head and if I reached him now I would see how cold he is and how he doesn't care. That should be all the closure I need. Thank you!
@inesnvg- thank you for sharing these thoughts. I can start preparing myself for when my partner moves on. Another phase. Been separated 7 months, and I doubt he really wants to be married. Both of us are enjoying our quiet time apart. But the pull when I hear his voice on the phone is gut wrenching. There are glimpses of peace and contentment remembering the annoying things I wont have to endure.
Thank you for your response. And yes, watching your partner moving on is not going to be easy for you. In my case, mine got a new gf in a week. That made me see how much I meant to him. It has been 2 months, and i can’t even imagine myself with someone else and for him it was the easiest thing in the world to do.
But stick to those glimpses of peace and remember that you feel that way because there were bad things in the relationship. Of course you are going to miss your partner, but take these moments to appreciate your own company and use the time you used to spend with your partner on yourself now.
Hope you get better!
I'm also trying to get over an intense but troubled relationship. I have never been so deeply in love, but she discarded me time after time and I always took her back. Ask yourself if you really want this relationship, or of it is good for you. Grief is normal, and right now I am stuck in the anger stage. I want to tell her how deeply devoted I was, how abused I feel. But I won't. There is a lot of pain to making the break, but growth and change are often painful.