Forgetting someone
There is this one guy I have been having an on and off thing gooing on for a while now. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Both of us are always about to leave - just different places, cities we actually feel at home at. I always kinda knew that if I would go first it wouldn't hurt me as much as when he goes first. Now the situation is he will probably leave first at the end of this year.
He's honestly the kindest soul I've ever met. And I'm not sure how to get along with the situation. I've tried to somehwat hate him, focus on the negative things just so it would be easier. But he's on my mind every single minute somehow and I'm not sure how to forget.
But I also kind of feel honored somehow and happy I've met such a person. I once said I won't try to put him on some sort of golden throne but honestly I don't think I've ever met a kinder person in my life before and I'm not sure I will. It's so hard for me to fall for someone, and apparently harder to forget someone. I'm having feelings for this one person for probably already 4 years now.
How do you deal with losing such a person, how to forget
@dreamingworlds
When you said you focus on the negative things, or tried to hate him, sounds like you still focused on him.
How about shifting your focus to other things? Have you tried it? What about your dreams? Do you think it can help?
Sounds like you could try to keep him.. find a way to have a solid relationship. Maybe live together. But if it can't work, you seem to have a challenge to move on. Life is difficult, take it easy on yourself, give yourself time. Maybe try to see if he wants more in the relationship, maybe it's just a communication issue. If he is so nice and kind, you would think he would be open to discussing the relationship and where it could go. I hope you get what you need and can have peace about this, relationships are important to us.
