Do you ever get over your first love?

This is still a fresh wound. I'm not gonna lie, it'll hurt for awhile. A week, a month, a few after, he'll maybe a year. But I promise, if it wasn't meant to be, the pain will go away. You can't love someone so intensely and hope it vanishes in one day. That's not how love works. It's painful and it crushes you from the inside out. The heartbreak goes away, the love doesn't. It's obvious you love too much. She was your first love, that momentous. But remember she won't be your last. Take your time licking your wounds. You're graduating, this is your time. Find out what it means to be you. Only when you know who you are without her, can you truly move on. It gets better. Your just starting, don't call it quits yet.

I've been going through a really rough breakup due to a long distance relationship and cheating. She was my first girlfriend, my first 'true' love. We both just graduated from university, so we're still real young. I can't tell you I know how you're hurting, but I'm pretty sure I know that it hurts A LOT. I've been dealing with this for a month now, and I've only known that she cheated on me around a week ago, and now I've just been nursing my wounds, tending to the pain, and I'm basically just trying to get myself together after what happened. It's horrible, but it has given me a whole lot of time to think things through. I've been thinking to myself lately, 'so what if she was the first? The important thing when dealing with relationships will always be the last, the one you'll spend the rest of your life with.' I do agree, and we're on the same boat on loving that first girlfriend and hoping to spend your eternity with her, loving her with every fiber of your being, but I guess at some point, if it doesn't work out, we have to walk away.

I do not know how our journeys will end, but I do hope that we endure. I hope we'll somehow gain the resolve to move on, to walk away, and to find someone, that special someone that will love us as much as we love them. In the end, it's probably what's important. The last person, not the first.

I feel as if i dont want to get over it. I feel like i want to go up to her tomorrow and talk to give her the feelings that dhe once had for me. I want to do all i can for us to talk and try to get a connection that we once had. I dont want to find someone else to replace her because I feel like thats rude. Im a really soft hearted person and feel like its so wrong to do that. I want my arms to be completely open so she can run into them at any single moment.

I have her on snap chat. I woke up at 1 in the morning and posted a black pic with the text "My dreams wake me up and it sucks".

At about 4 AM she posted the same type of pic saying "whats sleep??" Could she have been awake because of her thinking about us? Is it possible that she wants to get back but is pushing away?

So sorry to hear what you have gone through.. its tough. And you ask about your "first love" and whether you actually get over this. I think many people would tell you "yes you do" but that first love is often very special, very intense, and often remembered over the years. Its not surprising that right now you can't see how you could get over losing her and you would hope to have her back.. for now this is how it is. Its a time to take it easy, to get support from others, and to grieve a little. Be encouraged, most of us have been there and have come through to go on and be in other relationships until we hopefully find our soul mate.

Breakups are super hard and sad! It feels like someone literally ripped your heart out, but fortunately you do get over your first love, and every otherbreakup after that. Hanging out with my friends and family always helped me a lot through my tough breakups, try to stay active! Hang in there and stay strong

I also feel like I won't survive this. It's so hard and sad especially if you were the one who kept fighting for the other all the time and the other acted like he doesnt care at all.