To your fist question, " how do you know or find out who you are..." I will say this. I don't know how old u r but thunk of it as this. Before tht dsm 5 was u were. Meaning Before u even knew of the dsm 5 or what ever dsm, u, me, we were who we were. We had likes and dislikes, ups And downs, fears and loves. We were someone Before a diagnosis. Even if that someone was broken because of what someone did to us. With that said think of this, when a vehicle has a problem the owner says, " I need to c a mechanic". So they take it to the mechanic(Aka, doctor), they find out somethings wrong with it. Ok that's good. And they fix it. But let's say they find out somethings wrong with it and they(the mechanic) doesn't know how to fix it. A good mechanic(or doctor) will be honest and either refer u to someone they think can help, or be honest and regretfully send you away.
So either way, wether the mechanic can fix it or not does not mean the vehicle is the problem. Yes the problem may hinder the vehicle doing what it did before but when ppl c the vehicle they don't say, how's you leaking oil doing? They say who's the car or whatever doing. So, not to be thinking urself well or happy, but science has proven our thoughts can have a negative or positive effect on us.
So how do u know or find out who u r? Remember u were before ur diagnosis. Some injuries in life are life altering. My back has been broken, fractured more then once, I'm not paralyzed but very well could be. I will never be the same as before it was broken BUT I am not a broke back. U c? I have CHOOSEN to learn to work around my issue and not become my issue. I don't say HI I'm broke back what's ur name. No! I am still me, just a diffrent version.
To your next question
"Was I able to accept my diagnosis."
Yes. Why? Because by the time it came I had already suspected and experinced things were "out of order" up there so to speak. This wasn't the first health issue for me. Not only that I had already becone the type of person that pays attention to my body, how thungs effect it and who doesn't just pop a pill( no offense to those who do, I did for about 3 months to stabilize my self, another story for another day😁)
For evry symptoms. The more I went to doctors with my issues it seemed the more baffled they were. I couldn't settle for tht, I HAD TO KNOW why, how, and who so to speak of what's going on with me.
My body snapped before my mind did. And because of diffrent statistical factors doctors didn't knw what to do with me,because by the books I shouldn't have all these problems. Well the body keeps the score and it was trying to tell me what happend to it. I had to learn to speak it's language.
So was I able to accept it Yes. Growing up I was always diffrent. My mother my grandmother, we in our family are a bit like blacksheeps to some. So we ran with it and said " we aren't going to play the suck up game to fit in" long story short. So you c wht I mean?
"Do I ever get rejected or judged by others because of my symptoms"
Well in the past, yes, but at the same time there's a difference with u and me. And that's not a bad thing. With DID, those the symptoms may be noticed at times by others, DID is ment to be and works hard to be kept secret. The Brain is constantly working hard to avoid the outside world ppl, as well as even at times, the host or anp1 person from even knowing they have like a while army there fighting for them and operating separate from them. It's a disorder of secrecy. It's one reason host's or anps have a hard time learning about their systems, because they don't want to be discovered because it's a system that was created on the basis of a foundation of fear. Fear of death, fear of hunger, fear...and I mean extrem fear of pain etc. So I don't really tell alot of ppl around me, why? Alot of ppl don't need to know. That's one reason why I look for others like me, because normies...they just don't get it like we do. Thank God for normies, but they can only do so much. I believe if survivors can get stable enough we can help each other more than a degree or(no offense to all the helpful normies out there. 😊🤗🤗) a normie can. Like there's ppl who live with me, I don't tell them I have DID, even though one has kinda caught on but they don't know it as DID, they call it the little ppl in my head. Thts fine, I can work with that, but I'm not telling them I have DID, I actually purposefully avoid telling them alot, because, we can't be known in that way...feels too insecure, not secure...too close for a normie. 😊
When other ppl don't accept me, what do I do?
Move on. Sounds cliché right? I even have family that I tried to reach out to, but they only wish me harm. U knw, sometimes, and don't get me wrong I love having a family, but sometimes we have to learn family is not blood and friends can be changed. Some ppl say once family always. No, not in my book. Because if it's family or friends that aren't adding to our healing then they aren't family or friends. Maybe one day they will change but in the mean time I have to take care of me and do the best for me. That can be hard sometimes because, take me for example, I really like to help and there's been times I've helped ppl I shouldn't have, because they didn't want to change, but I'm sensitive and it's hard for me to do that. But I've have yo learn to. It's uncomfortable, but nature is full of uncomfortable things thts turn out for the better.