Emotional independence

Hello there!

I have learned recently that I’m very much emotionally dependent on anyone important in my life. It took me so long to realize this. I have used my boyfriend, my best friend and my mom as shields to avoid facing issues in my day-to-day life my whole life.

MAs of recently, I have been so grossly dependent on my boyfriend for attention and advice , I can’t spend a minute without him literally on call. He works a desk job and I even made him keep me on call. Whenever there is a slight mishap in our relationship, I overthink everything and put myself through a hard time , usually for no reason.

I have come to understanding that this emotional dependency keeps me from functioning like a normal human being.

If anyone has gone through this and come out to learn to control how to depend on myself , or if you have advice to point me in the right direction I would greatly appreciate it.