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by theriverissinging
Last post
Monday
...See more work in progress Hello, welcome! In this thread, we shall introduce and promote all activities which happen for our community, we will also share all the scheduled sessions and events under this thread. Resources * DBTuesday Masterpost [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/DBTuesdayMasterpost_274756/] * Thoughtful Thursday Masterpost [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ThoughtfulThursday_2294/ThoughtfulThursdayMasterpost_277323/] * BPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/BorderlinePersonalityDisorder_326/ResourcesforBPD_268269/] * NPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder_1067/ResourcesforNPD_268270/] * HPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/HistrionicPersonalityDisorder_1985/ResourcesforHPD_268271/] * DPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DependentPersonalityDisorder_1984/ResourcesforDPD_268272/] * SPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/SchizoidPersonalityDisorder_1988/ResourcesforSPD_268273/] * ASPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/AntisocialPersonalityDisorder_1983/ResourcesforASPD_268274/] * OCPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ObsessiveCompulsivePersonalityDisorder_1986/ResourcesforOCPD_268275/] * PPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ParanoidPersonalityDisorder_1987/ResourcesforPPD_268276/] * AVPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/AvoidantPersonalityDisorder_1068/ResourcesforAVPD_268277/] * STPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/SchizotypalPersonalityDisorder_1989/ResourcesforSTPD_268278/] Community Leaders [https://www.7cups.com/home/personalitydisorders/#leaders] Community Taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ResourcesInformationonPersonalityDisorders_459/PersonalityDisordersSupportCommunityTaglist_284167/] – to be used for check-ins, discussions, events and announcements.
Personality Disorders Support Community Taglist
by theriverissinging
Last post
September 25th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Personality Disorders Support Community Taglist [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?94a32be95048a6df06c721790c5ddca1]. To add yourself to this taglist, press the Reply button in this post and write the exact words “Please add me.” To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Reply button in this post and write the exact words, “Please remove me.” Taglist to be used for check-ins, discussions, events and announcements. Taglist as of Sept 2024 @Adeline12345 @AlfAndthemachine @alleywood13 @Alwaysinpyjamas @ambitiousVase1322 @amicableDime9946 @AndreaDawn @arbanon @ARC80 @AutumnLauren6 @autumnthemoth @Avocado22 @azuladragon34 @b4Damion @BaggageClaim @berrymimi @bestcase @Blue123456618 @blueAngel00 @caringPerspective41 @CheerySandi @ChristmasGift @courageousPond1835 @crang17 @crimsonPlane2738 @cyanPlatypus6370 @dagaz13th @DamagedOne13 @daydreammemories @dberryy @diamondintheROUGH2022 @DIDisaythat @DoggoMom @ebonyyyblondie89 @EddaLayla @emerijourney @EmmaSwan18 @EmotionalNerd @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @fearlessOcean2254 @fearlessSouth4632 @fireyseastar97 @FloweringBunny @forcefulFriend4768 @FreakFactor7 @Glue @Goldcherry2113 @GRAPSPRO2033 @GreenScarab @Hadeel96 @HashiramaNinja @Healing0Pillow @healingHeart1111 @heartycitrus @HopeandFaith @Hyacinth22 @IdolPigment @ImaginativePenny152 @imclover @indigoCup1959 @intelligentWheel627 @Irishrose78 @itsmeow @Jasminerice @Jish07541 @JoniGirl @Jupiterbeingahuman @JusticiaPrimalDorogo @JustSophia @K87 @kindTurtle3738 @LabeledBPD @LadyNikita @LavenderFlower @learningtolovemyself @Lemino @LightsFromDark @Lilac4Roses @LiliTwolsky @limeRaspberries2286 @lovelyWords13 @LoveTracker @maple23 @MeeshyRB @MelG919 @missg @Mkmultra @munchiegoosie @nervoussmiles @NightshadeVenom @Nubia87 @OneErased @optimisticMagic0014 @OrangePeel24 @Oxymoron6demon @passionateJackfruit5095 @Piggy @placidShade4261 @Pointlesswords @Psalm139 @QueenBee03 @QueenSerenity5 @QuietMagic @racqueldawn @raininglillies13 @raspberryWatermelon7195 @rationalGrapefruitq @Red789 @RelaxedPanda @RemorseCode2 @Rex0911 @RoadLessTraveled @runaway101 @SadBlueEyes @selfdisciplinedBunny232 @ShyCat1678201 @SilverSeastar @Sleepwalkermw @spectacularCandy9984 @Stardew3 @Starilus @StrangeKat @sunflower2480 @Tamy4210 @Tatianaalize @tohealthemoon @toucans @Triscups @Twigo7 @uniqueRose1689 @versatilePomegranate60 @WalkingCrow @witchyyrose @Xe @xmoonsie16x0 @YourCaringConfidant
DBTuesday Masterpost
by QuietMagic
Last post
August 6th
...See more This thread lists all of the DBTuesday posts in chronological order. Click on anything in blue [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/] you are interested in exploring! Note: These are self-help and community resources collected and organized from reliable sources and not to be treated as actual conventional therapy. Module 1: Mindfulness Introduction to DBT [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/IntroductiontoDBT_261066/] Discussion #1: Overview [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion1Overview_261606/] Discussion #2: Observing [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion2Observing_262160/] Discussion #3: Mental Body Scan [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion3MentalBodyScan_262641/] Discussion #4: Describing [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion4Describing_263272/] Discussion #5: Mental Noting [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion5MentalNoting_263782/] Discussion #6: Mindful Breathing [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion6MindfulBreathing_264412/1/] Discussion #7: Wise Mind [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion7WiseMind_265026/] Discussion #8: Negative Judgments [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module1MindfulnessDiscussion8NegativeJudgments_265576/] Module 2: Distress Tolerance Discussion #1: Overview [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion1Overview_266174/] Discussion #2: ACCEPTS [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion2ACCEPTS_266709/] Discussion #3: TIPP [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion3TIPP_267221/] Discussion #4: Self-Soothing [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion4SelfSoothing_267848/] Discussion #5: IMPROVE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion5IMPROVE_268517/] Discussion #6: Pros/Cons [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion6ProsCons_269066/] Discussion #7: Problem Solving [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion7ProblemSolving_269674/] Discussion #8: Radical Acceptance [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module2DistressToleranceDiscussion8RadicalAcceptance_270305/] Module 3: Emotion Regulation Discussion #1: Overview [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion1Overview_270784/] Discussion #2: Understanding Emotions [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion2UnderstandingEmotions_271427/] Discussion #3: ABC PLEASE - Accumulate Positive Experiences ("A") [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion3ABCPLEASEAccumulatePositiveExperiencesA_272013/] Discussion #4: ABC PLEASE - Build Mastery ("B") [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion4ABCPLEASEBuildMasteryB_272642/] Discussion #5: ABC PLEASE - Cope Ahead ("C") [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion5ABCPLEASECopeAheadC_273256/] Discussion #6: ABC PLEASE - Physical Health ("PLEASE") [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion6ABCPLEASEPhysicalHealthPLEASE_273750/] Discussion #7: Opposite Action [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion7OppositeAction_274300/] Discussion #8: Letting Go [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion8LettingGo_274673/] Discussion #9: Self-Validation [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion9SelfValidation_275219/] Discussion #10: Cognitive Vulnerability [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module3EmotionRegulationDiscussion10CognitiveVulnerability_275705/] Module 4. Interpersonal Effectiveness Discussion #1: Overview [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion1Overview_276173/] Discussion #2: Interpersonal Rights [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion2InterpersonalRights_276705/] Discussion #3: Communication Styles [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion3CommunicationStyles_277154/] Discussion #4: DEAR MAN [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion4DEARMAN_277327/] Discussion #5: GIVE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion5GIVE_277330/] Discussion #6: FAST [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion6FAST_277331] Discussion #7: THINK [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion7THINK_277332] Discussion #8: Boundaries [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion8Boundaries_277333/] Discussion #9: Validation [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion9Validation_277334/] Discussion #10: Trust [https://www.7cups.com/forum/BorderlinePersonalityDisorderSupportCommunity_81/DBTuesday_2147/Module4InterpersonalEffectivenessDiscussion10Trust_277335/]
Desperately Seeking OSDD Support
by Nokey
Last post
14 hours ago
...See more Hi,  I'm new here. This is yet another attempt on my end to try and get support with something that is well past my years of therapy and personal, professional, and educational level. I am unable to find a therapist who has any availability to meet with me. I'm feeling extremely isolated because of how difficult it is to explain OSDD to another person, much less feel understood by them. I need help navigating this, and she needs therapy for what she has gone through. There are just two of us. I've yet to find a single support group that accepts us. I prefer to remain with my pseudonym, Nokey. She goes by kitten. I'm 39. She's 18. But where things get tricky is how she came to be. kitten developed (I'm not sure what all I'm allowed to discuss here), so putting it lightly, as a result of me escaping an abusive marriage, in what I called social su/cide. It was everything but the act itself. We ended up homeless and were a missing person for a while. During this, we entered into an extreme lifestyle (BDSM) dynamic with someone. TPE. kitten was heavily psychologically conditioned into being. But by the time that dynamic ended due to a slew of reasons, what was extensive roleplay turned into a division of complete autonomy. She's become her own person. This is very complicated, and I'm exhausted just trying to explain this 'briefly'. In lieu of a therapist, if there's anyone out there who can relate to us at all, please... please reach out. I need this. And I'm advocating that kitten does, too. I need the validation and confirmation that I'm not losing my sanity. And she desperately needs a friend. 
The Stepmother.
by rabbitandthehare
Last post
16 hours ago
...See more It was always suspenseful coming home and seeing the light in the family room on, cause that meant she was in there. Even if she wasn't doing anything or whatever it was always scary. She was always emotionally intense with clear facial expressions and that caused overwhelm. In terms of school she always made me try her own plans/structures to get me back on track, her stern tones of voice always triggered urges to harm her to release anger or overwhelm, in all the moments I recall her inflicting trauma into me I know that control was apart of them, even if it was just a little. Like, her continuously trying to put me in a bubble, it was terrible and I hated it. She kept saying that she knew me, but I never opened up to her. She expected me to call her my mother and she said introduced herself as my mother to everyone we didn't know while knowing that I never liked her saying that. She even said that she knew I didn't like it but that she was gonna do it anyway. My mother's still alive, and I still talk to her, I talk to her so much. My mother knows me. I'm definitely wondering what she really expected. I never felt anything towards her, it was always a hollow feeling anytime she said she was proud of me or said that she loved me. Especially during her and father's wedding when she said her vows to me (or whatever that was). I was 8 and I felt nothing but awkwardness, and I was so hyperaware during that time that I, one, had no idea how to react, and two, it felt weird and embarrassing. But fast forwarding to the current time, I remember me feeling suspenseful of her touching me while she was talking with her hands, so I thought something along the lines: "you disgusting human". Now, rewinding back to those urges, they were really strong. I know when I had such a strong urge to throw her down the stairs or bang her head against the wall there were tears in my eyes cause I was holding back so much, and this was in 7th grade, so I was 13-14. But I didn't do anything cause I didn't wanna wake father up, that was the only reason. The reason I was having such a strong urge was because I decided to wear one earring to school again but she caught me and forced me to give her my earrings and strongly yelled at me saying "GIRLS! DONT! DO! THAT!". Years later I told her about it and she said she just didn't want me to get bullied at school and cause I kept bringing that up so much she decided to apologize, but she sounded like she was just going with it, cause she didn't go into detail about anything, she just said "so I apologize for that", but it just didn't sound sincere. None of them felt or sounded genuine—like she knew what she did. Of course she wouldn't know the impact/after affects of her words and actions but she has to at least be aware of her intensity and my reaction. She didn't even say she didn't remember the earring scene, so like, is that how you'd really talk to your f—king "daughter"? She invaded my f—king privacy when I was younger too, I remember her looking at the closed letter my best friend gave to me because it was in my bag and she didn't know what it was, but my name was on it and I was downstairs with her so she definitely could've asked me about it if it was really that serious. Which it wasn't. When my door was closed it meant I was changing, and my door was closed, so I was changing, but after I told her that I was wearing a tank top she goes "I'm your stepmother!" Like that means anything at that point. My biological grandmother said she used to help me bathe when I was really young but that doesn't mean I feel comfortable with her seeing me naked now. Everything she did got me a step closer to what I'm like now, I don't think she can call me disrespectful. I met her in my house. I was young, and I peeked in the kitchen in curiosity. I wondered "who is this?" And father saw me, told who she was, and asked if I could take a picture of them together on my Kindle(tablet). I still didn't know who she was. During the wedding and her saying those words, I still didn't know who she was. That went on for years and to this day I still don't know who the f—k she is. Now imagine a stranger talking to you, yelling at you, saying things as if I'm obligated to open my bedroom door or to wear makeup to MY school dance just because "oh you look like a young lady!" Or "let me have this!" Even though all I asked was to take it off. That was eighth grade. We were getting promoted to high school a few days after that dance, and it was quite nice. I got to go to a pancake place with my mother and first-cousins. But fr who the f—k is she? I don't know her, but I know her face. You have no idea what I want to do to that face.
Struggling (tw: SI, SH, Substance Abuse)
by JoshJE
Last post
1 day ago
...See more I got out of a facility almost two months ago for mental and substance disorders. I haven’t really felt like using but I have been engaging in self harm and having some strong suicidal thoughts. Im no longer living life and im back to just trying to find ways to keep going. I feel like im running out of options as the only people in my life that “care” just don’t *** care at all. I don’t feel loved or cared about and if no one cares about me why should I give a *** about myself. I guess im just unlovable. Good things last around an 1/8th of the time the others I just feel like I’m dead. I’m tired of it all.
A VENT vent
by rabbitandthehare
Last post
2 days ago
...See more I really wish I could be less aware and more in the moment or more in reality so I can take certain situations in and not feel uncertain all the time. I want such terrible things to happen to me so it can get worse and so it makes sense that it got worse. It's so weird noticing the bondage between my father and me, it makes it seem like I'm normal now and nothing's wrong and that there was nothing wrong in the first place, but it only stopped being wrong ever since I stopped expressing my emotions for real. But how did I end up with these symptoms in the first place if I didn't experience trauma? They can't be gone, but I haven't had them for a while. I don't know why. Probably because of my school's events and having no work to do—that must equal "freedom". I don't understand, and I don't think I ever will—did I go through trauma or not? Am I going through trauma right now or am I going through the aftermath of trauma whilst living in the same house that gave me trauma? Why during my states of awareness and reflection I feel 'fine'? I feel like nothing's wrong and that nothing was ever wrong. But at the same time, during these states, I feel 'open' or cold. I wonder if this is what a normal person feels on an everyday basis. I feel nothing, and I feel open. I think I hate it. But I'm not sure. I've gone through two or three long severe mental states—psychosis, depression, and morbid/sadism, and I don't know why. I don't talk to my stepmother, and I bond with my father. It's like nothing ever happened but something DID happen. Something happened that made me decide to not talk to her anymore, something happened that made me decide to not express my emotions near my father and that's why most of what I can see in my father is good. Before my decisions were made I think the experiences were mild and had no proof and lacked consistency, but they still affected me, I think. I'm not sure. Maybe I'm dying. Maybe she's dying. Someone or something is dying. I don't know what. I don't think anything's wrong with me but I don't know why any emotion I feel comes out as rage or energy that's hard to keep calm. I don't think anything's wrong with me but I don't know why I crave physical and emotional intensity so much. I don't think anything's wrong with me but I don't know why I kept the small things father gave me to remind me or make sure that he cares. I don't think anything's wrong with me but why does the morbid fascination exist? I don't think anything's wrong with me but what's the deal with subconsciously mimicking people cause I can't be aware of myself whenever I'm around them? I currently have no idea who I am without someone to copy, I don't know what this is. How come I think people are so interesting, etc? Maybe because my brain figured the whole world out the day after I decided to stop engaging in conversation, so it has nothing to learn when it comes to me. Not anymore. But there's an infinite possibility of learning about people inside out without having to talk to them. I want to do something bad to myself—to myself so something could happen. So something could happen—so I can feel pain. Someone else talking about their trauma or their abuser makes me rageful. Is it cause it brings me back to mine or do I just get jealous? Thinking about it, it actually brings me back to the mimicking thing, but with mimicking comes the ability to Literally put myself in their shoes. Probably because my thoughts are so intense and vivid in general, that's probably why that ability exists. But everytime I realize/notice I have a symptom or trauma response it seems like my brain makes it my whole personality. Why? It feels like I'm lying at that point, and then what used to happen was that after I told someone I was going through something that 'something' went away. Why why why? Is there nothing wrong with me? I'm not a liar—the thoughts still exist. Are they influencing me? Maybe I'm a puppet, maybe they control my every move and my every feeling. Speaking of feelings, why can't I Actually feel emotions? I can feel this one; frustration. But it doesn't count cause it's apart of the few emotions I can emotionally feel and not just physically and cognitively feel. Frustration is apart of rage. Watching horror movies triggers literally everything, but I can't recall a different long period of time father and me totally bonded, I think. October is just usually the month where it feels like it's just him and me, y'know? I watched "Saw" and "Halloween (2007)" I'm mildly dissociated right now, but it's my bed time so I can go to sleep. Anyway, Happy Halloween! 🎃 (and here I thought I wasn't capable of writing a relatable vent—minus the 'unusual' stuff)
Personality Disorders Community Check-in: October 31st–November 6th
by QuietMagic
Last post
2 days ago
...See more Hello, PD Support Community! Image source [https://poe.com/s/7vnukSitHZu40hv6NuNU] 🎃 How has your week been? 🎃 Today is Halloween in many countries, and it's a day when people dress up in costumes and masks. Do you ever feel like you wear a "mask" in your daily life to hide parts of yourself? If you prefer not to answer these questions, feel free to say hello, ask for a hug, or share anything else that's on your mind. 🧡 If you would like to be added or removed from the taglist, click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/personalitydisorders/Resources_2667/PersonalityDisordersSupportCommunityTaglist_284167/] Taglist: @Adeline12345 @AlfAndthemachine @alleywood13 @Alwaysinpyjamas @ambitiousVase1322 @amicableDime9946 @AndreaDawn @arbanon @ARC80 @AutumnLauren6 @autumnthemoth @Avocado22 @azuladragon34 @b4Damion @BaggageClaim @berrymimi @bestcase @Blue123456618 @blueAngel00 @caringPerspective41 @CheerySandi @ChristmasGift @courageousPond1835 @crang17 @crimsonPlane2738 @cyanPlatypus6370 @dagaz13th @DamagedOne13 @daydreammemories @dberryy @diamondintheROUGH2022 @DIDisaythat @DoggoMom @ebonyyyblondie89 @EddaLayla @emerijourney @EmmaSwan18 @EmotionalNerd @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @fearlessOcean2254 @fearlessSouth4632 @fireyseastar97 @FloweringBunny @forcefulFriend4768 @FreakFactor7 @Glue @Goldcherry2113 @GRAPSPRO2033 @GreenScarab @Hadeel96 @HashiramaNinja @Healing0Pillow @healingHeart1111 @heartycitrus @HopeandFaith @Hyacinth22 @IdolPigment @ImaginativePenny152 @imclover @indigoCup1959 @intelligentWheel627 @Irishrose78 @itsmeow @Jasminerice @Jish07541 @JoniGirl @Jupiterbeingahuman @JusticiaPrimalDorogo @JustSophia @K87 @kindTurtle3738 @LabeledBPD @LadyNikita @LavenderFlower @learningtolovemyself @Lemino @LightsFromDark @Lilac4Roses @LiliTwolsky @limeRaspberries2286 @lovelyWords13 @LoveTracker @maple23 @MeeshyRB @MelG919 @missg @Mkmultra @munchiegoosie @nervoussmiles @NightshadeVenom @Nubia87 @OneErased @optimisticMagic0014 @OrangePeel24 @Oxymoron6demon @passionateJackfruit5095 @Piggy @placidShade4261 @Pointlesswords @Psalm139 @QueenBee03 @QueenSerenity5 @QuietMagic @racqueldawn @raininglillies13 @raspberryWatermelon7195 @rationalGrapefruitq @Red789 @RelaxedPanda @RemorseCode2 @Rex0911 @RoadLessTraveled @runaway101 @SadBlueEyes @selfdisciplinedBunny232 @ShyCat1678201 @SilverSeastar @Sleepwalkermw @spectacularCandy9984 @Stardew3 @Starilus @StrangeKat @sunflower2480 @Tamy4210 @Tatianaalize @tohealthemoon @toucans @Triscups @Twigo7 @uniqueRose1689 @versatilePomegranate60 @WalkingCrow @witchyyrose @Xe
Do you have go-to routines you do when you are starting to spiral?
by VioletteB82
Last post
2 days ago
...See more Give me ideas! My therapist literally gave me so many and I wrote down a long list of coping statements BUT please tell me why I completely forget all of this when I'm in the middle of or about to spiral somehow. It's so annoying. I also live with other people so leaving these lists posted up anywhere is not an option. I know its a matter of habit. (sigh) sincerely, Frustrated bpd
living with DID
by stormieandpaws
Last post
2 days ago
...See more thought i was all the way  integrated but a few weeks ago alters popped up again. this hard as i went through a lot of healing over the years. but alters were quiet for like 4 or 5 years. but ones i did not know started being heard. think it due to they feel safe as on May  17th 2017 i moved away from my family and all the harm they did and way doing. so now dealing with more memories too. i also have PTSD, bipolar  social  anxiety and few others. this due to what happened to me as a child and adult. healing is hard work, but i know that it is rewarding. one social  worker i know say only the brave do the hard healing work. i think she right too stormie and paws
Vent — Vent
by rabbitandthehare
Last post
Tuesday
...See more My mind is so odd but it might just be developing. That's why you can't get diagnosed with a pd until you're an adult. I feel like it could be anything at this point and I don't like the uncertainty. My core symptoms are: Emotional flatness, rage, lack of empathy, attachment issues, morbid fascination, mimicking others' personalities and speech Other symptoms are: Dark fixations towards people & animals, episodic rage, hypervigilance, heightened analysis towards people, violent or impulsive urges, morbid/sadistic thoughts & desires, feelings of numbness/Indifference, limited emotions Moods are: sadism, chronic boredom, apathy, morbid dissociation (trance-like state with deep morbid thoughts at its core) No one else goes through this so even if I try I can't find a companion to bond with. There's two on the app TalkLife diagnosed with ASPD but one of the is way beyond my age and the other one probably has no interest in talking to me. I can't find anything on YouTube or whatever cause everything talks about OCD when I bring up 'dark thoughts' or just talks about feelings scared of them or something and that's not my case. I can't go to other apps cause I'm not diagnosed yet and therefore probably won't be completely accepted or validated, plus my case isn't typical so they can't completely relate to me anyway. Therapy isn't helping—it's not doing anything. I just use it in case I might need to go to the hospital or something about my diagnosis. This app isn't that social but it does allow me to share long paragraphs about the things TalkLife won't let me talk about cause, of course, my thoughts could trigger someone. That's another thing—can't talk to many about any of this because they won't know how to help or how to react, they might not be able to handle this stuff that well, and some people villianize things like this. I think the only time I could feel like I 'belong' is if I get sent to the hospital and that's never gonna happen for two reasons. One, father will be confused by the suggestion because he doesn't see anything wrong since I don't talk to him (for a reason), and two, cause it goes away after I suggest it, since the weekend goes by. (Weekend = Freedom)
Undiagnosed BPD
by ghosttiger100
Last post
Tuesday
...See more Hey there. Im practically suffeering right now. I have had these symptoms for about 2 years now, but back then they were more mild/moderate and the severity of my bipolar depression was masking them. But now that my bipolar disorder is stable, and I ignored the symptoms for so long they are now really freaking bad. I have every single symptom of bpd. I have went over it time and time again in my head and it is the only thing that makes any sense. The fear of abandonement, the mood swings, chronic suicidiality, self harm, unstable relationships, screwed up self image, dissociation. It all makes sense to me now. I have been afraid to tell my psychiatrist about any of these syptoms in fear of her becoming mad and leaving me (which is obviously irrational but its the bpd talking). And I also was afraid of being labeled as more mentally ill than I already was. But in about 2 weeks I have a psychiaitrist appointment and we are going to work on a diagnosis. She already raised the dosage of my meds and it is not working so it is clear to her that something else is wrong besides my bipolar disorder. So hopefully she will take my opinion into account. I am hopeful that I will get better. Because I cant keep living like this anymore. I am ready to change.
Controlling emotions
by Divineluxx
Last post
Tuesday
...See more Hey everyone, good morning or good evening or whatever time it is. So does anyone get through the highs after going through really lows but then you feel kind of neutral where everything doesn't bother you but is that normal? I know I've been using this platform a lot lately and just been checking in a lot more. And I have been you know doing things to keep myself distracted and not really just distracted. But just keeping myself in a better mindset. I recently realized like I go through a lot of Lowe's and when I go through Lowe's I forget my days and things like that. So I've scheduled some therapy for myself because I know that I needed it and it's not getting any better. But is it normal to go through a lot of highs? And if you feel like it's coming back on like what do you do to you know control whatever is going on because I don't want to take it out on anybody or myself really. So if anybody has any opinions or any like things they do let me know.
Personality Disorders Support Community Navigation
by theriverissinging
Last post
Monday
...See more work in progress Hello, welcome! In this thread, we shall introduce and promote all activities which happen for our community, we will also share all the scheduled sessions and events under this thread. Resources * DBTuesday Masterpost [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DBTuesday_2147/DBTuesdayMasterpost_274756/] * Thoughtful Thursday Masterpost [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ThoughtfulThursday_2294/ThoughtfulThursdayMasterpost_277323/] * BPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/BorderlinePersonalityDisorder_326/ResourcesforBPD_268269/] * NPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder_1067/ResourcesforNPD_268270/] * HPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/HistrionicPersonalityDisorder_1985/ResourcesforHPD_268271/] * DPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/DependentPersonalityDisorder_1984/ResourcesforDPD_268272/] * SPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/SchizoidPersonalityDisorder_1988/ResourcesforSPD_268273/] * ASPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/AntisocialPersonalityDisorder_1983/ResourcesforASPD_268274/] * OCPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ObsessiveCompulsivePersonalityDisorder_1986/ResourcesforOCPD_268275/] * PPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ParanoidPersonalityDisorder_1987/ResourcesforPPD_268276/] * AVPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/AvoidantPersonalityDisorder_1068/ResourcesforAVPD_268277/] * STPD [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/SchizotypalPersonalityDisorder_1989/ResourcesforSTPD_268278/] Community Leaders [https://www.7cups.com/home/personalitydisorders/#leaders] Community Taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PersonalityDisordersSupport_81/ResourcesInformationonPersonalityDisorders_459/PersonalityDisordersSupportCommunityTaglist_284167/] – to be used for check-ins, discussions, events and announcements.
Personality Disorders Community Check-in: October 24th–October 30th
by QuietMagic
Last post
Sunday
...See more Hello, PD Support Community! Image source [https://www.epicgardening.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/orange-tulips.jpeg] ❤️ How are you doing today? 🧡 What gives you energy? (What's something that feels motivating, enjoyable, or rejuvenating?) If you prefer not to answer these questions, feel free to say hello, ask for a hug, or share anything else that's on your mind. 💛 If you would like to be added or removed from the taglist, click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/personalitydisorders/Resources_2667/PersonalityDisordersSupportCommunityTaglist_284167/] Taglist: @Adeline12345 @AlfAndthemachine @alleywood13 @Alwaysinpyjamas @ambitiousVase1322 @amicableDime9946 @AndreaDawn @arbanon @ARC80 @AutumnLauren6 @autumnthemoth @Avocado22 @azuladragon34 @b4Damion @BaggageClaim @berrymimi @bestcase @Blue123456618 @blueAngel00 @caringPerspective41 @CheerySandi @ChristmasGift @courageousPond1835 @crang17 @crimsonPlane2738 @cyanPlatypus6370 @dagaz13th @DamagedOne13 @daydreammemories @dberryy @diamondintheROUGH2022 @DIDisaythat @DoggoMom @ebonyyyblondie89 @EddaLayla @emerijourney @EmmaSwan18 @EmotionalNerd @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @fearlessOcean2254 @fearlessSouth4632 @fireyseastar97 @FloweringBunny @forcefulFriend4768 @FreakFactor7 @Glue @Goldcherry2113 @GRAPSPRO2033 @GreenScarab @Hadeel96 @HashiramaNinja @Healing0Pillow @healingHeart1111 @heartycitrus @HopeandFaith @Hyacinth22 @IdolPigment @ImaginativePenny152 @imclover @indigoCup1959 @intelligentWheel627 @Irishrose78 @itsmeow @Jasminerice @Jish07541 @JoniGirl @Jupiterbeingahuman @JusticiaPrimalDorogo @JustSophia @K87 @kindTurtle3738 @LabeledBPD @LadyNikita @LavenderFlower @learningtolovemyself @Lemino @LightsFromDark @Lilac4Roses @LiliTwolsky @limeRaspberries2286 @lovelyWords13 @LoveTracker @maple23 @MeeshyRB @MelG919 @missg @Mkmultra @munchiegoosie @nervoussmiles @NightshadeVenom @Nubia87 @OneErased @optimisticMagic0014 @OrangePeel24 @Oxymoron6demon @passionateJackfruit5095 @Piggy @placidShade4261 @Pointlesswords @Psalm139 @QueenBee03 @QueenSerenity5 @QuietMagic @racqueldawn @raininglillies13 @raspberryWatermelon7195 @rationalGrapefruitq @Red789 @RelaxedPanda @RemorseCode2 @Rex0911 @RoadLessTraveled @runaway101 @SadBlueEyes @selfdisciplinedBunny232 @ShyCat1678201 @SilverSeastar @Sleepwalkermw @spectacularCandy9984 @Stardew3 @Starilus @StrangeKat @sunflower2480 @Tamy4210 @Tatianaalize @tohealthemoon @toucans @Triscups @Twigo7 @uniqueRose1689 @versatilePomegranate60 @WalkingCrow @witchyyrose @Xe

Welcome to the Personality Disorders Support Community. Click on the "Resources" tab below to find a list of forum subsections for each personality disorder. Sign up for updates using the TaglistTo find upcoming events: Use the Community Calendar (Ctrl+F  "Personality disorders"). 

Community Guidelines

Hello Personality Disorders Subcommunity.


Our priority is making this a safe space for those who have personality disorders. 

Please help us create and maintain a supportive and safe environment, by following these guidelines:
Note: Underlined texts are clickable links.

Guidelines on Family and Relationship Issues.

  • Please use the Family and Caregivers Subcommunity for family issues as they are able to provide you with more fitting support.

  • Please use the Relationship Support Subcommunity for relationship issues as they are able to provide you with more fitting support.

  • If there is a thread with a generalization or stereotype in it about those with Personality Disorders, it will be:
    1) Edited in lieu with the following guidelines.
    2) Deleted if they cannot be edited.

  • Threads where support is required for family or relationship issues with a PD will be moved to Trauma Support, Family and Caregivers or Relationship support subcommunity where it best fits.
  • Supportive or neutral threads like “How do I support my partner with PD” can remain in their respective forum sections.

  • Discussing personal issues like “My partner has NPD and it’s really difficult to cope with their diagnosis”, communication issues, stigma and other such issues are allowed in their respective forum sections.

 

Please be mindful of how your words may affect people with personality disorders. Avoid using language or labels in a way that is stigmatizing, stereotyping, invalidating, or generalizing. Explained in depth below:


General guidelines to be inclusive:

  • Use people-first language, such as “person with personality disorder” or “individual with personality disorder” 

  • Be ethically responsible and mindful of how your post impacts people with personality disorders.

  • Do not label individuals and don’t use labels in a derogatory way or with a prerogative meaning.

  • Avoid phrases and language that excludes people with personality disorders or place them into an outgroup. Example: “These people with Personality Disorders” or “They who have Personality Disorders”. Please instead use “Those with Personality Disorders” or simply “People with Personality Disorders”


Guidelines to follow when explaining a personality disorder:

People often borrow from psychological texts to explain what they perceive to be a personality disorder. 


Reminder: 

A psychologist or psychiatrist is a trained professional and their activity of segregating types, symptoms, severity of disorders, etc. is conducted from a diagnostic perspective. 


Issue 1.

We are not trained individuals. While we may try to offer helpful information, those descriptions can be disparaging to people with personality disorders.


Issue 2.

Oftentimes when such distinctions are explained by people who do not have lived experience with personality disorders, these distinctions portray people with personality disorders in a negative light.


❌Please do not:

  • Promote labelling individuals, especially based on perceived differences; it is not helpful and only an individual can label themselves. 

  • Cater content towards those who are not people with personality disorders, with an intent to defame, malign or slander people with personality disorders.

  • Promote stereotypical images of what individuals with personality disorders are like. 

  • Promote unhealthy standards of behavior for people with personality disorders.

  • Invalidate the lived experiences of people with personality disorders. 

  • Promote stigmas and prejudices associated with personality disorders. 


✅You can however:

  • Critically represent data or engage in supportive discussions on psychological texts which are from credible sources and catered towards the benefit of people with personality disorders.

  • Raise issues in a supportive way, promote self care, share coping mechanisms, start a conversation or share personal experiences.


Hence when threads conflict with the personal wellbeing or interests or an individual with personality disorders, these posts/threads will be corrected or deleted, under the following guidelines.


  1. Unsupportive content including targeting or attacking other users in the community is not allowed. Disagreements may happen, but always maintain a respectful tone and try to move the conversation forward in an on-topic and constructive way. Sometimes this means agreeing to disagree. Click here for expanded guideline post

  2. In order to maintain a therapeutic space, we delete forum posts that take away from a supportive forum environment. If a forum post is not helpful, nor positive, then it will be deleted. Click here for expanded guideline post 


Guidelines to follow when explaining symptoms of personality disorders:


The line between what is a descriptive symptom and what is stereotypical can be very thin. Hence we are sharing some rules of thumb to explain how you can stray away from generalizations and stay supportive. 


❌Please do not:

  • Describe someone from perceived actions or behavior. 

  • Assume or assert the personal motivations of an individual.

  • Use emotive descriptive words which attribute malicious intent to the experience of a person with personality disorders.


✅You can however: 

  • Highlight the internal experience of the individual.

  • Identify that these symptoms are on a spectrum. 

  • Explain critically the experiences of the individual who has these symptoms from their perspective.

  • Use emotive words which describe how a person with personality disorder feels. 


When a thread does not follow the above guidelines and portrays any symptoms or individuals with personality disorders as abusers or in a negative light, they will be corrected or deleted under the following guideline:


3. Inflammatory, racist, sexist, offensive, homophobic, transphobic, etc. posts are not allowed. Posting about the impacts of abuse, racism, sexism, etc. or seeking support on these topics is allowed. Click here for expanded guideline post

If you believe a forum moderator has edited or deleted your post in error, you can email forum@7cups.com and we will investigate.

Note to Forum Leaders:
Appropriate action: If at all possible, the forum moderator should remove the unsupportive content while retaining the post. All edits should include the forum moderator’s name and the reason for editing (e.g. unsupportive content). In the event that the post cannot be retained, the forum moderator will delete the whole post.

Note to Group Leaders:
These guidelines will be followed in the Personality Disorders Chat Room as well.

  • At first please gently nudge the conversation towards a supportive atmosphere.

  • Gently correct any misconceptions, stereotypes or stigmas.

  • Use your de-escalation skills as per the room supporter training to resolve conflicts if they arise.

  • Gently explain or remind the speaker that their stance although with the best of intentions is not helpful or supportive to people who have personality disorders and this is firstmost a safe space for people with personality disorders.

  • Please share the link of this page when necessary.

  • Call a community moderator on duty if you need support; you can fill in the emergency form available in “Chatroom Guidelines” for the same.

  • If a member still insists on seeking support regarding their issue, please refer them to a one-on-one chat or rooms such as Support Room 24/7.

Community Leaders
Forum Supporter
Community Resources

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About Dissociation : click HERE

Distress Guide: click HERE 

Help Managing Emotions: click HERE 

About OCD : click HERE 

Room Discussions: click HERE

Resources for BPD: click HERE