Tiny and akunknown ❤
@Tinywhisper11 hey sweetie ❤ just so you know before we get started I get a bit nervous doing 1-1 chats, after some bad experiences, so please be a bit patient with me ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Please no worries. It’s totally unnecessary. Your bit nervous is completely understandable. Especially after having bad 1 on 1 chat experiences.
As for patience, I’m always patient with everyone no matter what so no need to worry about that either.
I get nervous and sometimes anxious with any conversation bc I’m too shy and have social anxiety. But considering how kind you always are I believe you’ll be a softee with a painfully shy social anxiety person such as me.
Thank you for agreeing to be pen pals with me. Thank you thank you thank you so very very much!!!
@akunknown 😁 ❤ no need to be shy around me ❤
@Tinywhisper11
That’s what everyone who knows that about me tells me but it’s just me being me. It’s a part or has become a part of my authentic self.
@akunknown well they say opposites attract😁 I'm quite a bubbly character😁 I'm sure our friendship will last forever ❤
@Tinywhisper11
I definitely agree that our friendship will be forever.
@Tinywhisper11
What about you?
You said you like country music. Why? What drew you to liking that music as much as you do? Any favorite country singers and songs?
@Tinywhisper11 do you celebrate xmas?? How do you plan to spend the holidays??
@Tinywhisper11
do you celebrate xmas??
I used to celebrate it every year as a child. But once I got old enough to understand what type of family I had, I stopped. It also stopped bc when my siblings were old enough, one moved away and created a new life and besides checking in on mainly my dad and visiting us here and there, we were separated from each other while the other two siblings for the most part spent so much time with their friends that sometimes they’d miss my bday parties or school graduations or not even come home from school bc they’d go straight to their friend’s house after school. So basically with 3 family members regularly not home and my dad coming home so late from work that I was already asleep by then and my mom being who she still is right now, my parents felt celebrating just wasn’t possible or even right anymore with all these circumstances.
But now it’s more about how I feel. If I wanna celebrate I will. If I’m not in the mood to celebrate for whatever reason then I’ll skip it that year.
How do you plan to spend the holidays??
By treating myself the way I should be treated by others but am unfairly not by most. As far as Christmas goes, that includes but isn’t limited to listening to music (not just Christmas music either), watching Christmas and non Christmas movies/shows.
As long as I’m enjoying and happy it doesn’t matter how I celebrate.
@akunknown
But I do really wish our celebrations, not just Christmas but any celebrations or bdays included each other in person. Maybe one day. I’ll never lose any hope on that ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown we will celebrate everything🙂 I'll be there for every birthday, every event in your life ❤ I will never miss anything ❤
@Tinywhisper11
In person???
@akunknown in person🙁 unfortunately not, but virtually is just as good in my opinion. Someone to make you feel loved and smile is all we need ❤
@Tinywhisper11
That’s true I agree. I mentioned in person bc I’ve never had any in person experiences of any celebration with friends. It’d be nice to have an in person experience of that. I’d want you included bc how well we get along. But I understand if that can’t happen so yeah virtually works too.
@akunknown
But I’ll probably be too shy for that. Even if as you previously said I don’t have to be. I’m getting shy just thinking about it.
@akunknown don't worry has we get to know each other more in sure your shyness will become a little less ❤ it's sad that you've never celebrated with anyone🙁 I only started celebrating things like birthdays since I moved here to the carehome 😁
@Tinywhisper11 what time are you on?? It's 12:45am here😁 and it's raining really badly, when I was in hospital it snowed on and off all day, one day😁 it was so pretty to watch. I've only ever been out in snow once, I really hope we get some thick snow this year 😁
@Tinywhisper11
Omg despite how ice freezing cold it was I used to love playing in the snow as a child the way children regularly play in the snow.
It’s night time now here. Bc of the season it gets dark much earlier while during Spring and Summer when DST is active it gets dark much more later. But it doesn’t really matter that much to me when it’s dark. I just adjust to it and then I’m fine, no problem.
@akunknown I like all the seasons😁 there's always something to look forward to ❤ it generally snows once a year here in the UK, but generally around February😁 I've just never been well enough to see it or play in it myself, except once😁😁😁 I loved it, I was only allowed out for like 10 minutes but it was amazing
@Tinywhisper11
True there’s always something to look forward to in every season but Spring is my favorite if I had to pick one: not too hot, not cold, just warm enough with a nice cool breeze, raining sometimes, that season has more than one thing to look forward to and I love all those things including rain long as it’s not raining hard or every day or any storms.
@akunknown yeah storms can be scary😨
@Tinywhisper11 so is your family nice?? Or do you wish you could just get away from it all?
I never had a family, but my family is here at 7 cups, all my special friends are my family ❤
@Tinywhisper11
so is your family nice?? Or do you wish you could just get away from it all?
Is my family nice?? Depends on the specific member. My grandmother who peacefully passed away was always nice and caring.
My dad who passed away too was happiest while we were children but seemed less happy and more stressed out as we got older.
My stepdad was happier when I was younger but now he’s 24/7 negative about everything making it difficult for me to be around him.
My mom is the root cause of immediate family problems whether that be difficulties, complications, communication, mismanagement, unfairness, uncaring, inequality, and literally any other type of problem that exists.
Regarding my siblings:
My first oldest sister who moved away isn’t someone I feel close to bc she moved while I was a child. And for someone who had no friends, her missing all my school graduations and many bdays hurt me growing up. But now it doesn’t.
My second older sister and I get along but we’ve definitely had our problems with each other. Sometimes it’s not easy with her around but an example of that is bc she wants to be so comfortable she has to have beds switched between rooms instead of just staying in the bedroom that has the bed she wants bc the bedroom she picked has two windows instead of one. Yet there’s no consideration for if anyone lives in the place upstairs above her should she make any noise, would it disturb them??? And she doesn’t settle anywhere. Every few months or 1-2 years she has to move somewhere else and then hype everyone up about how great it is and we should come see it and all that. It’s getting a bit annoying and stressful to deal with this as often as it happens.
My older brother and I get along. But I don’t like how he defends my mom and stepdad or at least it sounds like he is. But if I tell him that he says he’s not. But then says “it’s their house they can do whatever they want” Does that mean mismanaging their own house??? Does that mean they can be so difficult and disrespectful that they’re negatively affecting people who don’t deserve that but are being impacted just bc they’re living with them which wasn’t their choice to??? No absolutely not. And I never once heard him saying that statement when he was living with them which was his own choice to. So when he’s living with them or is being affected by them he won’t say any statements like that but when he’s not being affected by them or isn’t living with them then he’ll have no problem saying it bc since he’s not living/being affected by them he may feel like he has no reason to care which might be motivating him to be like this. However we still get along.
But it’s not always like that. Considering everything my siblings and my stepdad and I have been through mainly bc of my mom, it can easily change anytime to me not getting along with someone else or more than one person or everyone. One thing that doesn’t change is my mom and I not getting along. That gets worse as time goes on just bc of who she is.
I never had a family, but my family is here at 7 cups, all my special friends are my family ❤
May I ask why you feel you never had a family?? Maybe you never lived with them. Idk how long you’ve been living in the hospital.
But since you were born you must’ve had a mom and dad of your own meaning you must’ve had a family of your own at some point whether it was short term or not.
Thinking of all of us here at 7Cups as your family is understandable and very kind of you, I feel that way too bc I think everyone here treats me better than some if not all of my actual so called “family” does.
@Tinywhisper11 I got my 3 little piggies out playing😁😁 they are sooo cute are funny, two of them are currently fighting over the xmas tree treat😁 the other one has sooo much energy he just runnnns and tunnels through or jumps over everything😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11 by the way I ask lots of questions, not to be nosey, I just do without realising. So if I ever say something or ask something you don't want to answer, you can just tell me to shut up😁❤
@Tinywhisper11
Oh please lol. I would never tell you to shut up or care how many questions you ask or how many things you say or your reasons for doing any of that. Kind people don’t say things like shut up to anyone. That’s just not how we are. It’s not hardwired into our DNA 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11
That’s really nice. I’m happy they’re enjoying themselves and hope you’re enjoying yourself just as much
@Tinywhisper11 my computer tablet thing keeps going funny😕 probably all the rain.
so you have a very dysfunctional family🙁 it must be hard not getting along with your mum, and dealing with all the hurt they've caused you🙁 sorry sweetie. It may be your parents house but as their child it should be all your house. To make you feel like your not part of it is wrong🙁
ok so I'm guessing you have no idea about my past. It's not something that's nice for anyone to hear about. And I don't want to scare you away 😬
@Tinywhisper11
my computer tablet thing keeps going funny😕 probably all the rain.
Sorry you’re dealing with that but yeah it’s probably the rain and if it is it’s temporary :)
so you have a very dysfunctional family🙁 it must be hard not getting along with your mum, and dealing with all the hurt they've caused you🙁 sorry sweetie. It may be your parents house but as their child it should be all your house. To make you feel like your not part of it is wrong🙁
I agree but unfortunately no one else sees it that way so it is what it is you know??? That’s not me giving up. I keep trying and I’m gonna continue to keep trying to figure out the fastest way out of this for me.
ok so I'm guessing you have no idea about my past. It's not something that's nice for anyone to hear about. And I don't want to scare you away 😬
I know some of it. But not everything you already shared on here. As far as scaring me, don’t worry about that bc idk if you will or not but I’ve never been scared away by anyone before. That includes mean people which you’re not.
@akunknown ok so um. I was born into a Christian cult, they were definitely not christians🙁 children born into the cult were either sold or kept as slaves. I was a slave. Rescued at 18 years old. I don't live in a hospital, it's actually a old folks nursing home. All the slaves that were rescued when well enough where split up into different secret locations, were we could be under government protection. I ended up here cause I need 24 hour care, cause I'm disabled now. And it's a mansion with huge enclosed grounds, but only 12 residents at a time. They could easily put security up here, so here's where I ended up😁 I generally say Carnegie in other posts because saying old folks nursing home always leads to questions ❤
@Tinywhisper11
Wow. I’m so sorry you went through all that you went through. You suffered so much I feel so bad for you and I’m crying over it 😤 I wish I was there I would have saved you earlier than 18 and brought you to live w/me so you’d be rescued but also have a normal life where you can go out whenever and everything else.
As for being……I purposely left that last word out bc I’m not a fan of that term. I find it offensive. You may not be offended by it idk and if you’re not that’s ok but some people are. There’s enough people I believe who find terminology like that offensive to the point where for me to find it offensive so I don’t use it
@akunknown
Honestly I don’t believe you are. I don’t believe anyone truly is. To me words like that are just offensive terminology or language or labels created humans to use for other humans to easily describe or define certain conditions.
Truthfully I just believe you have a setback or a condition. Maybe permanent. Maybe temporary. But a setback or condition nevertheless.
@akunknown oh I'm sorry I won't use that word again. It's not a nice word, I'm just not sure how else to put it. But I'll think of a different word🙂 and hey well done you, that was brave of you to tell me your uncomfortable ❤❤ I admire you for that ❤❤ sorry I made you cry
@Tinywhisper11
oh I'm sorry I won't use that word again. It's not a nice word, I'm just not sure how else to put it. But I'll think of a different word🙂 and hey well done you, that was brave of you to tell me your uncomfortable ❤❤ I admire you for that ❤❤ sorry I made you cry
Oh please don’t ever be sorry with me ❤️❤️❤️ I’m sorry I made you feel sorry. That comment was posted bc I thought you were one of the people who were offended anytime someone said you were…….. but I really should’ve asked if you were offended by that word or not and not asking you prior to that comment was my irresponsibility and I apologize for that too.
As for making me cry, I’m emotional and even cry when I see certain scenes in movies/shows despite knowing it’s just an act and pre planned. So I cry a lot. No apologies needed for this. It’s normal for me.
@Tinywhisper11
I like your username. Where did it come from? Like what are the origins or the origin story of it?
@akunknown I don't know the name they generated for me was tallgreenvase 😁 I'm short cause I don't have legs and when I started here I wasn't sure I'd be able to find my voice to speak up. So tinywhisper😁 ❤
what about yours, why did you pick akunknown??
@Tinywhisper11
My username is just I’m so unknown I’m a mystery or mysterious to many people. Not bc I wanna be but bc I wasn’t accepted by anyone growing up so I was forced into social isolation therefore no one ever gave themselves the chance to meet and know and become friends with me and at the same time they took those opportunities away from me. It felt like they robbed themselves and me of the same opportunities. That covers the unknown part. Ak, no idea what that means so that just gives more purpose or whatever to the unknown part of it despite probably not needing anymore.
Also my super love and ultimate fandom for characters like Batman, The Undertaker, etc most especially when I was a kid.
@akunknown well I look forward to getting to know you ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
That’d make my username pointless 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 If we got to know each other in person or some other non 7Cups way that’s completely different but on here my username will be rendered pointless and I’d have to change it. Which I don’t mind but I ❤️ the name so much I wouldn’t want to change it
Or we can get to know each other on this pen pals hangout and not let anyone else know about it that way we’d get to know each other while I get to keep my username 😂😂😂😂❤️❤️😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 we won't tell anyone😁😁😁
@akunknown
It’s been really great chatting with you. My sleep time is here. If you like we can continue tomorrow or whenever you want.
What did you think about tonight’s chat??? Did your nervousness go away or get reduced as our chat continued? If so great. If not don’t worry it’ll go away as we continue having more chats with each other.
I’m harmless and no threat. No need to be nervous with me despite me understanding why you are which is a valid reason.
Just wanted you to know all this. Loved chatting with you. Goodnight and sweet dreams my friend.
Hugs ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown it was easier to talk to you than I thought, your a very sweet person ❤ goodnight Angel sleep well ❤
@Tinywhisper11 hey! Hope you slept well ❤ I'm just starting to relax before bed😁
tell me about your hobbies and interests?? I like art and craft😁
@Tinywhisper11
Arts and crafts are a very nice hobby and interest.
My hobbies and interests: music and every other form of art (yes I think of music as an art form more than a form of entertainment or media), writing, movies/tv shows, singing, and now I can add getting to know you 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Goodnight my friend ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown getting to know me is the greatest hobby of all time😎
Yesss! Music that's one of my favourite things to explore, I have Amazon music and I've made playlists for every occasion and mood😁😁 gotta remember for me music has only been something I've known about in the past few years, so it's just amazing to me ❤ I love a lot of different music and genres. But I think country is my favourite😁 and xmas music (the happiest music evverrr)
@Tinywhisper11 so can you sing?? Or just a make a nice noise??
@Tinywhisper11
Neither. It’s not actual singing. Actual singing is someone singing and no matter how they’re singing it’s a sound that can be heard. That’s not my “singing.”
My “singing” has no sound. It’s listening to the actual song while it’s being played while I “sing” in the background but without any sound. It’s “silent singing” if you wanna call it that. It’s done privately when no one else can see or hear me. That’s bc of me being painfully shy.
So it’s really just a easier way for me to imagine myself actually singing in front of people in live concerts or any other settings to help me feel comfortable and confident to maybe - just maybe - sing in front of people or just someone or not panic if I end up being seen or heard by anyone in person.
But it’s evolved from that to me loving the “silent singing” as much as I do so it’s done even more now without knowing why I’ve come to love it as much as I do.
@Tinywhisper11
Everything you said is completely understandable by me. Nothing wrong with any of that. The music stuff you spoke about is what I’m talking about here.
Amazon music is cool. I had it before. But now I use Spotify and YouTube. No reason why other than just felt like changing and seeing if other music streaming services would have other features or be easier for me to use or basic things like that.
I like YouTube but has too many ads. Even in the middle of what you’re watching or listening to an ad shows up.
But Spotify is really great for me. Some albums are missing some songs. That’s the only downside to it. But I’m sure there’s good reason for that like the band doesn’t want that song on there, Spotify lost their rights to that song, or whatever reasons like that. However the good outweighs the bad. I have so many playlists on there. A playlist for every reason you can think of like mood, sleep, cleaning, etc. As well as playlists named simply after the day that I’m creating them on. These are just random playlists of songs that I love all in one playlist.
And I love all types of music.
@Tinywhisper11 well I'm glad you love singing, even in silence😁 it's a fun hobby to have. I sound terrible when I sing, but that doesn't always stop me😁😁
since I got out of hospital (which I think was last monday🤔🤔) they've added extra exercises to my gentle exercise routine. And it seems to be healing , I have the feeling back in my left upper body, and I can move my hand, and my arm a little bit. There's a lot of tingling but that's good I'll get my left side back soon😁😁 so everything seems to be go right finally😁😁
how was your day?? Do you drink coffee??
@Tinywhisper11
That's great news! I’m real happy for you!
My day was good. Based on everything you said it looks like you did too.
No i don’t drink anything but purified water. I’m completely sober. Always have been. What about you?
Coffee’s not necessarily unhealthy. I mean I don’t think it is but I believe it does have caffeine in it. So people overuse it to stay awake or any other reason which then becomes unhealthy. Or they get addicted to it or to things like drugs, smoking, alcohol, which is also not good.
@akunknown good for you ❤ I don't drink or smoke🙂 I am addicted to coffee, kinda got addicted to it when I was in hospital first. But they limit my coffee to only morning time 😁 drugs not anymore and never by choice. Except prescribed meds ❤
have you ever been diagnosed with any mental or physical health issues?
@Tinywhisper11
The addiction is understandable. I believe everyone’s addicted or obsessed with something whether good or bad so I think of addiction as a normal part of life even if it’s not good bc there’s lots of bad things that are normal in life. Drugs, smoking, alcohol, violence, etc being some examples.
As far as I’m aware of, I’ve not yet been diagnosed with any physical or mental health problems. My doctor keeps telling me I’m healthy enough and have no problems to worry about.
@akunknown
But all things considered I’m not sure if he’s completely right about all that tbh. However I also don’t think it’s safe to assume anything on your own and think you have this problem or that problem and fix it yourself by taking unprescribed meds or going for therapy without an actual diagnosis by a medical professional either.
@akunknown yep! A lot of things are addictive. I'm glad to hear your healthy ❤❤ yeah people seem to diagnose themselves A lot here. 🙁
@Tinywhisper11 the UK is separated into 4 smaller countries, so we got England, wales, Scotland and ireland. This weekend just in Wales but covering the whole of Wales is a red alert storm🙁 I hope everyone will be ok. I don't mind storms, cause we never really get them bad. Except thunder and lightening, that really scared me. So hopefully it's just rain and wind, the winds already started I can hear it howling
@Tinywhisper11
I hope everything and everyone will be ok during the storm in Wales too.
It’s good that you got Wales, Ireland, Scotland and England. I’ve never been to any of those countries.
Yeah I don’t like howling or too strong winds. They make winter colder than it already is and sometimes winds are strong enough to open doors that are closed!!!
I don’t like hot or cold or humid or anything like that but warm or cool weather is good. What about you??
@akunknown I like summer, when it's warm enough to go sit outside under the willow tree and watch the sunrise😁 it's so peaceful so beautiful ❤
@Tinywhisper11 there's been some flooding around but everyone seems to be ok ❤ we lost power for a couple of hours last night🙁 it's still red alert till Monday I think
@Tinywhisper11
I’m happy to know everyone’s ok.
But you know that no one truly loses power unless they give up. Electricity power is nothing compared to true power that exists inside us.
@Tinywhisper11
Yeah that’s so beautiful that there’s no other choice but to get peace from that. I love doing things like that when it’s warm enough to be outside