What does change mean to you?
I hope this is helpful for whoever reads this. These are my thoughts...
Change is hard. Change is scary. Change is uncomfortable. I have always struggled with change. With change comes anxiety and worry for me. But, I have learned from change and changing. I have learned to sit with it. We are so quick to want to revert back to familiar ways during a change or in a process of a change because it feels comforting and it feels normal.
As someone who struggles so much with change, I want to let everyone know that is reading this that it will be okay. If you are going through a change currently or you are wanting to start something new and change a habit or thought process or anything in between that I am there with you. It is 100% scary and you are not alone. But, I promise you if you sit with that uncomfortability, with time it will change. That change will start becoming your remedity and your new familiar. Storms aren't going to last forever and neither will the discomort with a change. If you are scared to change that thing and maybe in a relationship for example and you believe it will never get better, I promise you, it will never get better. If you believe it will be better than take action and attempt at that change. You matter and when things get complicated keep it simple.
To be able to change you have to want it. I love meeting people and I love relating to people. I see myself as someone who has big feelings and I know it makes me better and not worse because it makes me more authentic. I am sensitive and empathetic and sympathetic for people. I love my family and I love my friends and mentors and everyone I come into contact with. I learn something from everyone I meet, big or small, still something. On this note, I believe that everyone goes through bad shi*. Someone in this world has it worse than you. People 100% have it worse than me and there is someone who has it worse than you. And that is okay. I have met rude, negative, and ungrateful individuals that have been through a lot and I have met the most amazing, positive, open-minded individuals that have been through hell. As someone who cares deeply about others I have zero sympathy for what you went through if you are that rude, negative person because I believe that everyone has the ability to use their painful and traumatizing experiments to better themself. Everyone. I feel empathetic 100%, but sympathy, it is not there. I have been taken advantage of many times by those negative people and now I have tough love for those who are negative and have been through a lot. You have to want to change to be able to change, and no one can make you change for you. Everyone has the power to use their pain to push them forward and be that positive person. Those are the people I get, those are the people that are extraordinary. Be that person because you deserve that for yourself.
Nick B.
@greysonn Hi. I really liked reading your thoughts here. I don't have too much trouble with change, but I can get into certain comfort zones. Sometimes those "comfort" zones have not actually been comforting, at least in a positive way. Sometimes the negative can feel comforting, addicting. I have been there before where I found myself almost energized by honing in so intensely on my own suffering. I didn't want to be there, but yet I'd fall back into it constantly because it's what I knew. I felt more in control by hyperfocusing on the bad things.
I have a lot of trouble sustaining relationships with others who are like that chronically. I might try to listen and share my insights, but I pick up on their resistance and desire to cling to the negative. I can feel when they get energized from my attention or turning down my consolations. I try to have boundaries in those situations. Unfortunately many times I've had to walk away. They tend to be uneven relationships, where they are so caught up in feeding on their problems that they forget I'm human too. They expect a lot from me, but it's never my turn.
@shellofashell
I appreciate your response. I am proud of you for not having trouble with change and I understand where you are coming from. It can be addicting in a way, huh? Well, just keep chugging and put the unncessary stuff on a mental "backburner" which is just a special way to say put all the stuff and people not pushing you forward on pause.
Sincerely,
Nick B.
Hello, nice to read this forum. It was inspiring. I am at a turning point in my life where my previous mindset was causing me harm. It took me months to come up to this point. I need advice on how to forgive my parents for pressuring me and strictly limiting my extra curricular activies for studies in childhood? I know what they did and still do is their lack of knowledge. I think of I can forgove them then I can move on from there. It will help me develop assertiveness and confidence for my future.
@tidyTalker6031
I am glad this inspired you and I truly appreciate that. It tooks you months to get to this point, RIGHT! This is where you are supposed to be. As far as forgiving your parents; only you can know when you are ready but I want you to remember when you forgive them you are not condoning what they did or what happened or anything in between but you are accepting that it did happen and you are choosing to not let it control you or hamper your feelings towards them anymore, you know what i mean?
Nick B.
@greysonn
What a FANTASTIC, GREAT post for us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
I totally agree with you 100%! You did such a good job thinking though things very well, and getting all those very important thoughts and ideas down above.!! I like how you have lived through the difficulty of change and learned to see through it to what it can bring if you ride it out. You are so right that if we just figure out what we really want, decide what we need to change, and face other changes that come our way that we have no control over, we can live and be in such a positive place in our lives. 
We just have to accept the changes, and look for the positive aspects of it. It is there if we look for that part!
Thanks for a wonderul, both personal and overall general great post!!!! Hugs
@Amelia2324
Hiiii Amelia,
How are you? Thank you so much and I appreciate your words a lot. It is always empowering and inspring for me when I can try to access my real emotions and real situations and share that with others and relating with others is an important feeling and I am constantly inspired to hear others stories too.
Nick B.
@greysonn
Nick,
Thank you so much for your wiliingness and ability to be so open and share yourself and your feelings with us. I am so glad that you are able to do it so well, that it makes you feel good, and you also enjoy sharing with others this way. Big hugs to you, Nick. 
@greysonn
Hi there, Nick! This was such a lovely post and luckily it found me very timely. I am going through some changes in life personally and this post truly comforted me. I am happy to know you chose to share such a needed message with everyone in the community, I truly appreciate it and also you! Thank you for everything that you are doing here. Thank you for your kind and comforting words today, I know they will help many, they helped me personally too. I am saving this to return to it later when I may need it. 
Take your time with the things that are changing. Reflect on what is changing and what has, but don't be attached to what you may lose because of it. Changes can certainly be hard and means leaving some things behind but you will also be gaining new things because of it. Hold on to that, look forward to that.
Hope you're doing well!
@lueurspace
Thank you for your kind words. If you need anything feel free to send me a message! :)
@greysonn
Loved how positive you have become because you do deserve to be treated better and I read your other story about Relationship/ friendship breaking free from people who put you down . I can totally relate and liked your story in the end up it was Lovely
@lovelyWords13
I appreciate you!
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