[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+
Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!
Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.
Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:
Members:
Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.
examples:
I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week
I want to go to the gym 1 time per week
Take 3 growth path steps every day
Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.
Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.
Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.
Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.
Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)
Listeners:
Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!
Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.
Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!
Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!
Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!
One day, I want to feel confident and fearless. I don't want these dark days to be nagging at me like they have been for past few years.
There's a concept called SMART goals that will help you when making goals :)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SMART_criteria
hi all! just checking back in to let everyone know that i achieved goal 1 in my three goal series. i've exercised twice a week for three weeks. next is to exercise 3 times a week for three weeks. i'm thinking about setting a specific time of day to exercise to make this easier.
wishing success in their goals to everyone participating in this great project.
@falconer42
Thats really great. Congratulations :) did you post in the track your progress thread?
If you didn't, you can do it here. Best of luck with your other goals:)
Way to go @falconer42
One day, I want to feel confident and fearless. I don't want these dark days to be nagging at me like they have been for past few years.
Adult. I want to learn how to relate to others, and overcome this social anxiety and isolation.
@emotionalPine52
Hi there,
I too have dealt and deal with social anxiety and isolation, at least to some degree. I'd be happy to try to help you out, or at the very least, be there to listen and offer support. Please feel free to PM me if you'd like.
-Claire :)
I am an adult member, and my goal is to stop being so negative and self critical. I always assume the worst (people don't like me, I'm unlovable, I'm not that smart, etc) and would like to be more positive and confident.
@unassumingTree9729
I am very glad you want to build a positive attitude. Please pm me:)
My goal is to become more organized and decrease the clutter in my life , both in my way of thinking and in daily tasks. I believe that will help me cope better with my anxiety.
Hello @mimameid I believe that organization is key, little by little things can be done and hopefully worries and anxiety can tone down too. I'd be glad to help you reach this goal :)
Hello,
I'm 24 and recently resigned from my first 'real' job after college. I'm worried about finances, and have basically no clue about personal finance and economics in general. I would very much appreciate help in creating a budget, figuring out ways to legitimately save for graduate school and travel, and if anyone has any advice regarding investing and all that (which I know basically nothing about), I'd really appreciate it.
I normally try not to overspend, and I'd like to think I'm usually good at that. But due to things like having to taxis far more often because of the horrible public transportation in the suburb I currently live in, I've been spending too much money, and I'm sort of disgusted with myself. I also have issues with anxiety and depression, so that doesn't really help me with not worrying about this and with having enough motivation sometimes to figure all of this out.
Travel is really important to me, too, so if anyone has any advice specifically related to budget traveling, especially internationally (in terms of flights, etc.) - I'm from the U.S., I'd appreciate help with that, too.
Thanks so much!
@c6210 I travel a lot too for live auditions. I use Skyscanner for flights when I absolutely have to fly, and airbnb.com. There are certain quirks to getting cheap flights too, like checking at midnight on Tuesdays (can vary) or using a private browsing feature for major airlines so they don't track how often you're on the site and hike up the prices. I hope this can help a little bit, good luck with everything!
@tranquilSnowflakes
Thank you for the advice!!
Ok, so my goal is to go for a run twice a week. It's something I enjoy doing and was doing 4-5 times a week until about 2 months ago. Maybe if someone is checking on me, I might be more motivated to do it. (18+) Thanks
@Emsle
Hello! Would you like us to connect and work towards achieving your goals? PM me in case you would like me to be your listener. I would look forward to your message. :)
@ResilientLucky
I sent you a message - thanks
Learn to completely focus and retain information when studying
Develop a gym schedule
CUT OUT BAD HABITS (Procrastination, unhealthy eating, staying up too late)
TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS
Having a listener would be great for this, school is going to be pretty stressful for me this upcoming semester and I need someone to check on me and support me. Hope I don't sound too demanding. Thank you!
hi @tallEyes7071 - you are not alone in having to learn to control procrastination and other bad habits. I too have suffered from that. Having a plan is a good first step to achieving a goal even if you have to revise the plan.
I am available to help inspire and remind you of your desire to succeed. If you have interest in reaching out to me, I am happy to help. Just send me a message by going to the following link and click on MESSAGE