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[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+

Laura December 2nd, 2015

Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!

Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.

Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:

Members:

Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.

examples:

I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week

I want to go to the gym 1 time per week

Take 3 growth path steps every day

Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.

Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.

Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.

Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.

Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)

Listeners:

Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!

Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.

Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!

Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!

Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!

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Shelliewnj December 10th, 2015

I want to get control over my anxiety and fears. I have many of them, and I know where the root is, but still can't seem to shake them.

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SalParadise December 11th, 2015

@Shelliewnj I want to help you achieve your goal! PM me and we will talk :)

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LuckyLyanna December 10th, 2015

My goal is to go to a good Uni in England...Don't know how that's gonna happen though blush

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Ria7cups December 10th, 2015

@LuckyLyanna Don't be afraid to dream big, love! You can do whatever you put your mind to... And don't be discouraged no matter what happens :)

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tranquilSnowflakes December 10th, 2015

My goal is to let myself feel, or at least explore, emotions related to loss that I've been putting off for a long time. I'm tired of being afraid of change and of keeping busy and "accomplished" to hide the fact that I need support. I have an appointment with a counselor next week, but being a rather quiet and introverted person, I'm pretty nervous about it!

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soulsings December 10th, 2015

Hi @tranquilSnowflakes. Sorry for the losses you find so hard to uncover. Hope the therapy helps. Feel free to ask for a 1-1 chat.

KJL December 14th, 2015

Reading your post inspired me on my path to do the same. Best wishes for you @tranquilSnowflakes

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LuckyLyanna December 10th, 2015

Another goal of mine is to stop being such a procrastinator.I lack motivation and it's really affecting my life.So I hope I can pull myself together

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Jayhon December 10th, 2015

@LuckyLyanna

I be glad to help you achieve your goal (s)! smiley

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LuckyLyanna December 10th, 2015

@JohnnyM yay thank you!!! how are you gonna do that though?you're gonna do my hw for me? haha wink

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Jayhon December 11th, 2015

@LuckyLyanna

XD Haha

Jayhon December 11th, 2015

@LuckyLyanna

Feel free to pm when you can :)

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SentimentalSinbad December 11th, 2015

@LuckyLyanna

I'm willing to help you reach your goals as well! I've had to overcome my procrastination in my time too. Let's kick this habit together.

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BeautyIsTheBeast December 10th, 2015

Need help exercising.

So, this is kinda sexual, but not really. It's just a problem I have.
I'm very big busted, I usually need to wear like 50 sports bras at once... okay, that's an exaggeration, more like 6 or 9 sportsbras, but they dig into my skin and leave rashes.

I want to exercise, but I'm 32G, and it's nearly impossible to do anything without my breasts bouncing and it hurts SO bad.
But it's either have them bounce and hurt or have them smooshed and my bras leaving rashes.

So I was thinking of doing exercises that don't need much movement but can still help build muscle.

But I like running and it's the only exercise I know that is the most proficient in helping build up cardio.
I'm sick right now, plus it's raining out, so that's out of the question right now.

But I feel so lazy and fat right now.

Also, I can't afford weights and all that fancy crap, I have a thick yoga mat and that's about it.

So if you can help me, that'd be great.

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admirableBraveheart21 December 10th, 2015

@BeautyIsTheBeast you should not stop making what you like because of others peoples opinion. Your body is this way, and you can

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BeautyIsTheBeast December 10th, 2015

@admirableBraveheart21

.... But how do I exercise when my breasts get in the way?

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AnimalHugger December 10th, 2015

@BeautyIsTheBeast

Hello there darl

Listen there are exercise for athletes with injuries especially back injuries

They are designed specifically for bulding and maintaining muscle mass without moving too much so I think they would be perfect for you

soulsings December 11th, 2015

Hi @BeautyIsTheBeast. Some people in yoga class have that same problem but yoga does not require lots of movement and any movement is slow transition from one posture to another.

A local teacher is best but if you want to try at home and see how it goes, google adrienne complete beginners yoga youtube

That is only 23 minutes but she has many more longer work outs.

Doing flow yoga or vinyasa coordinating with the breath builds an inner strength and flexibility that is a sign of health and vitality.

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BeautyIsTheBeast December 11th, 2015

@soulsings Thanks, I'm looking that up now.

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helpfulPerson377 December 11th, 2015

I so want to see my son once again. He is an addict and lives on the streets. I havent seen or heard from him in almost a year. It would mean the world to me if I could see him for the Holiday's. Prayers needed for the people I have looking for him. I was in a ped/car accident almost 3 years ago and things have been stressfull since. I am currently in a Med/psych Hospital and so want to see him.

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soulsings December 11th, 2015

@helpfulPerson377 I hope you get your wish to see your son. I know it would mean a lot to you.

As another option, one friend missed her son so she volunteered to help serve a Christmas dinner for homeless people. In this way she said she felt close to her son by giving to others. Of course this could be adapted in many ways.

MusicCandy December 13th, 2015

@helpfulPerson377

You have my prayer that you will see your son soon - and that you will be well.

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Emmmmmaaaaa December 11th, 2015

I'm trying to face my fears of going back to college in January. I'm really excited but scared I'm going to fail,

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SalParadise December 12th, 2015

@Emmmmmaaaaa I want to help, Pm me

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Soldrew2015 December 12th, 2015

Ha. I've got so much goals I want to accomplish. Currently studying Deutsch and I want to be over with it soon and pass the assessment. Also, this internship in 7cups right now is really keeping me excited. I hope to finish and pas this soon too. And for the rest of my goals, imma gonna accomplish ya'll too one step at a time :)

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Eunoia December 12th, 2015

@Soldrew2015

thats a great attitude. Keep it up:)

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Soldrew2015 December 12th, 2015

@dreamsallnight

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mychemicalkilljoy December 12th, 2015

I'm trying to stop letting my anxiety get the better of me at school.

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peacefulSoul8 December 12th, 2015

@mychemicalkilljoy I will help you with this goal, PM me:)

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goldenDog39 December 12th, 2015

I am hoping to be more positive and to imagine great things for my life