[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+
Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!
Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.
Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:
Members:
Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.
examples:
I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week
I want to go to the gym 1 time per week
Take 3 growth path steps every day
Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.
Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.
Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.
Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.
Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)
Listeners:
Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!
Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.
Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!
Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!
Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!
Right now I write four application forms to nurseries because now i don
@courteousSouth6438
You're far from useless hun, you shouldn't ever feel that way. Don't worry to much though things will fall into place soon enough! We are all here to support you :) You do you and don't forget to have a little fun! Have a wonderful day
@courteousSouth6438 the feeling of being useless is common when you don't have a job, my father felt the same when he was jobless.
But for these time we took a dog in. The feeling that the dog depends on my father helped him to not stop, he woke up every morning to go for a walk with the dog.
Search for the nearer pet rescue association and talk to them; if you want you can adopt, but if not, you can take in an animal for some time. You will feel better helping him!
@Roger89
I live in a village so there aren
My goal is to get my grades up in school and actually be able to keep them up. My grades are dropping and I'm just losing the motivation to even go to school or even attempt to work on my classwork. I just feel like it isn't worth it.
Another goal I have is to get and keep the motivation for an exercise plan. I just feel so fat and gross. I don't feel comfortable in any of my clothing anymore and I don't feel comfortable in front of anyone.
@iridescentcookiemonster Your goals are great. You can do it. Always remember that you are beautiful just because you exist. Always love yourself, even if your body is not in the best shape right now. Its more easy to say than done, i know, but with time, persistence and love (self love) things start to be better and you grow strong every day goes by. We are here for you. 
@iridescentcookiemonster I would like to help you in that regard. Being honest, i am also trying to achieve that goals for me too. If you do not have any other listener, you can PM me. Let's what we can do together.
@justanotherfool I cannot PM you because you are a listener only for adults. Otherwise I'd love to have you be my listener. But thank you anyways and I hope you get to acheiving your goals. :)
@justanotherfool I cannot PM you because you are a listener only for adults. Otherwise I'd love to have you be my listener. But thank you anyways and I hope you get to acheiving your goals. :)
@iridescentcookiemonster Sorry dear.
@iridescentcookiemonster Keeping grades up when you have mental issues is hard. I know that it was super hard for me and as a result I am taking longer to finish school. I wish you the best and feel free to message me :)
my goal is to love myself. to find time alone with myself to be enjoyable and fullfilling. and to move past the pain of this break up and the pain of this love and be a better more understanding more effective communicator with everyone in my life.
i'm not sure how long it will take. but i'm trying my best to be as strong as possible. i hope i can make it through.
@pinkApricot9374
Hey there,
I would be happy to help you through your managing emotion process.
please feel free to PM me to schedule a timing for chats :)
@pinkApricot9374
i feel exactly the same. Sometimes I feel I move 1 step forward then 10 back, it's so hard.
I have been recently diagnoses with High Sensitivty (although not full BPD). It is very hard for me to regulate the way I express my emotions. Specially the negative ones. I would like to learn to remain in calm and to be able to step back to analyze a situation and react in accordance with it.
@SadKindRedhead
Hey there, I guess I can help you with the sensitivity, as I have some experience about it.
I would be glad to share some of this experience with you.
you can PM me if you would like to talk about it :)
@SPNFamilyForever hey don't ever feel that you will annoy people. Your friends are always there to help you. And there is nothing wrong in asking for help. If you want to talk to someone, I am always there. Drop in a message :)
P.S. I love Supernatural :D
My goal is to continue to not contact my ex, become a more functional worker/student, and become more emotionally self sufficient and compassionate.
I also have some issues that are more specific to being a woman of color, so a listener who might be able to relate to this would also be a good fit. :-)
@hiimanupa hi can help you with the person of color thing. Message me whenever you need to :)
@JoyfulSoul04 I messaged you!! <3
Hey I've been depressed for some time now and I would like to become a happier person.
@FunKitten you are on the right track
I am suffering with a physical chronic illness and chronic pain, depression, anxiety, panic attacks and struggling with my eating/staving myself.
Im really finding it hard to cope but my goal is going to be to go to school in the mornings on time 4 times a week and to complete daily tasks leaving time for myself to be positive :) <3
@JoyIntoDarkness Hey there! I'd love to support you to achieve this goal! <3 Please PM me so we can help you get this together :D
Right now my goal it to work on my grades, and to become certified on 7 cups so I can better help ppl :)
@ashleyangel321
I am willing to help you reach your goal.
I just found out today that I actually have anxiety so I want to be able to deal with it and try to not breakdown after I did the other day
@modestTangerine7586
Hey there lovely :)
I'm willing to help you with this, I'll PM you.
WE CAN DO THISSSSSSS!!!!
@Valerie1202
.... forgot to say that I'd PM you if you would like me to reach you goal :)
So, PM me whenever you want and I'll be there for you asap 
@Valerie1202
Omg that's so kind thank you so much
We can do this 😊
