Daily Chit Chat with a Friend
Just a nice Chit Chat with a friend is all that is needed.
So... How was your day today?
@IsayUncle
Hey M, Good morning.
What's your day looking like?
@IsayUncle Good morning 💙. Today is grocery days so that's the main event. I'm also working on getting the boys shared room clean today. That's quite a job since my seven year old is constantly (I'm not exaggerating lol) cutting and pasting and drawing and creating! I got him a nice big desk and it is full. I finally got under and around the desk done! After all that I really want to figure out a better solution for my son's medical supplies. He uses catheters (my youngest that is in my picture with me), so we get 150 a month plus 30 to tape in at night, 100 + pull ups a month, 30 diapers, plus gloves, lubricant, medical tape. It's just a lot to store. And a new shipment is coming in a few days!
Did your sister arrive? How is all that going? I checked for a post earlier but thought you probably were busy with her💙
@Psalm139
Luckily, she'll not be here until about 5pm. I'll have everything set by then.
It sounds like you're having a proactive day... that's always a good sign. I love hearing and seeing the creation of youngsters. Sounds like a mess though! How old is your boy with the medical condition? I'm really sorry to hear about that. It sounds like a urinary or bladder dysfunction, What's going on with that?
@IsayUncle Oh you have plenty of time then💙. My youngest is 4. We knew he had hydronephrosis when he was born but it wasn't too severe and at 10 months they said he was ok. Then in January of 2021, 2 months after his 3rd birthday, he went into full retention. He couldn't pee and his bladder was about 3x the size it should have been. After 5 or 6 trips to the ER to have him cathed the traditional way, he got in to see a specialist. In late February he had surgery to correct the hydronephrosis on the right side and put in a suprapubic catheter to let his bladder rest. A sp tube is a tube coming out of his pelivic area that drained into a diaper. Unfortunately his bladder never started squeezing again. They did tests to see and it would just fill up and he was in so much pain. So in September he had the sp tube removed and had the appendicovesicostomy procedure (google it if you are interested) so I can now cath him through a channel that goes through his belly button to his bladder. We do that every 3 hours and then leave one in at night to free drain in a diaper. He is otherwise a normal, happy, smart, active little boy. But it's definitely been a long road and was very hard for a while there!
What are you up to today? I took my oldest son to Kohl's because he and I both needed shoes. Then we went to Aldi for groceries and I got those mostly put away. Now it's coffee break time☕☕☕☕💙
@Psalm139
It's not funny how time flies... I just got back from shopping and the house is.... blah blah blah. The bedroom is awesome though. I'm sorry, probably be tommorrow before I can chat., she'll be here in 1 hour, a little early. 💚
@IsayUncle It's ok. I understand. I hope you have fun and enjoy your time with her as much as you can💙
@Psalm139
You sure have handled some pretty tough stuff... After being homeless, this happens and youir poor child is sufferering so much. (I'm so sorry) You got'em through it and he's doing well now. That is a blessing. Is this a permanent solution for the rest of his life or is there a chance of normal healing and recovery?
Hey M, I hope your morning is going well and please feel free to post as you wish, you won't be interrupting. Our visit is going well. We're going to a flea market mall today and then she'll spend the rest of the week with my ex. YAY!
@IsayUncle I am just checking in to see if you are around, but looks like you are probably still out. I started working on the medical supply project and then randomly decided to paint a cabinet I have in my kitchen/dining area. It is a pretty, but old and beat up cabinet with a long drawer on top, two cabinet style doors below it, and then two more long drawers on the bottom. We use the main cabinet part as a pantry/snack area for the kids and the drawers for other storage. Anyway, it was white but looked dingy with chipped paint, so I painted it a pretty sea green color. I really like the look of it a lot better now. My moods are very affected by clutter and mess and also beauty and color. If things are pretty and clean and colors I like it makes me happy. If everything is cluttered and dark it is depressing. Maybe that's why I like nature so much. No clutter, just lots of pretty trees, plants, clouds, flowers, birds, wide open sky, and fresh air.
How was your flea market? Did you buy anything?💙
@Psalm139
Open Sky's, Pretty green cabinet and No clutter... Sounds wonderful to me! Great job on the cabinet, that was a nice little extra to get done.👍
Good nite M
@IsayUncle Sorry I missed your messages! I liked how my cabinet turned out so much that I started on the main kitchen cabinets lol. I got all of the upper ones done.
Anyway, you've already gone to bed now so I'll talk to you tomorrow 💙
@Psalm139
Yea, It would be nice if our hours aligned better. It's 3am and I'm getting ready for work. But it is nice when we do jive a little bit so that is really cool. I know when I'm writing just before my bedtime you are probably dealing with dinner and daily endings for a large family. AND that is awesome. So we'll do the best we can.
It sounded like you had a really good day yesterday, did you? My sister visit went good but it knocked me out whack, (schedule wise) for the week.
@Psalm139
Hi M, Self-employment for so many years, early hours for paperwork and planning and Payroll etc. start the job 6-7am driving time. Etc.
Sometimes getting started on something is the hardest thing ever, but I’m really sorry the laundry room has to suffer. I hope he gets to it soon.
Today was a rough day, beginning to end. Feeling off track to begin with, bent the bumper on the bus backing into a bank. Made plans to meet someone 830am. he was there but a student left bag on bus, had to go back to school, bus garage called me in to repair bumper, all this before 8am.
I was late to meet the guy but we went to get trailer I bought…. Best part of the day, came back by my house and loaded tractor to bring to job. That was all good but I had to spend an excess of money for fasteners and fuel etc.
Picked up the bus and pretty darn tired… Out Of The Blue…. 3 high school boys started challenging the rules of the bus and usually it’s a soft matter but they hard their barbs out and made it a hard issue.
Before I go, did you find a place to store the medical supplies? I’m also really sorry they messed up your SSI. I hate it when we try to do things right and others cause us to use our time to fix their mistakes. I hope that gets worked out in your favor.
How’d the dentist go?
@Psalm139
Good morning, I do not understand why the reply buttons are not showing up on all our posts👎.
You have been going pretty steady and hard at it for several days. This homeschooling must be a lot on your plate too. It's no wonder your tired and brain-dead. Rest when you can and regain your freshness. I'm actually having to tell myself the same thing. I thought when I finished my classes, free time would just be abundant but the floodgates of months of neglect have opened on my head. i too am out of focus and very tired most of the time.
It's just kind of a re-direction I'll have to navigate into a flow without getting too stressed out about it OR in your case.... too Anxious. (Reminds me - Have you ever practiced meditation?) And would you like to talk about meditation in our chats?
It sounds like you are slowly finding solutions for the medical supplies. With 5 kids and a small living space, Sounds like quite the challenge. Just Do your best and Remember, if that’s all you can do; then do all you can do and you would have done your best… be satisfied with that. It feels good when we can’t fix everything but actually done our best for the moment. 💚 (AGAIN - taking my own advice here.). I’m So behind on the following things
Clean House - 2 Trenching jobs - Receipts and Bills - Shear dog for suffering mats - Kids, bussing projects, kids parents, Weed’s grown over roof (almost) - Repair transmission to pull trailer - Other stuff too. Gotta just do the best I can.
I do like books but haven’t read a fictional story since high school. I love craft books and repair manuals.
I gotta go M, I hope your painting is almost done and you can feel good about that. Rest a bit if you can. Got some camping soon, hopefully , not such a big pack..
Have an awesome restful day if possible. Rest instead of Anxiety, things will mold around our timetables. They must.
@IsayUncle Good morning lol. I know you've already been up half the day! I just woke up and it's almost 10. And I didn't even take my medicine last night. I remembered it after I was already in bed and didn't want to get up. So hopefully I'm not too bad today.
It sounds like you do have a lot to catch up on! Trenching jobs? Does that mean digging them or? I'm not very smart when it comes to that sort of thing! My husband does all of the maintenance stuff. Other than cosmetic obviously. He doesn't care about that so I have to do it if I want it done. He did take the cabinet doors and hardware off and put them back on for me. Even though I never asked if I could paint. I just started lol. I can be impulsive like that sometimes. But this time it was a good impulse. A lot better than impulsively buying a bunch of camping supplies or something. I did that a few days ago and they will start arriving today so hopefully it's ok. It was fun anyway, and I like what I got.
I need to make a list of things to catch up on too. The most important is probably the SSI paperwork but I also need to catch up on cleaning because I haven't been doing as well with that since I have been painting. I'll probably be done tomorrow or Thursday. It's taking longer because I painted the insides of all the cabinets too.
Anyway, that was long. Sorry. Hopefully it makes sense. I'm still on my first cup of coffee and waking up!
💙☕💙☕💙
@Psalm139
Do you know why there are no reply buttons on some of our posts😟?
I
hope the camping supplies are ok…. Very cool, you’re going again.
Priorities really mess me up. I get my mind on something and everything else
gets behind. I do not have the energy to multi task. That’s very cool you are
almost done with the painting and it was a “good” impulse. Lol. Any hard work
done should be considered a good impulse.
My high school students have decided to harass me. Yippee skipppeeee. They are on the warpath for some reason in defiance of my bus rules… which are super freaking lenient. They’re leaving me no option but to go to Write ups - assigned seats - disciplinary actions - teachers etc. I do not get paid for all that extra time that stuff takes but I need to get them reared in early so most of the later year could be beneficial.
You said you just about got a couple of your kids ready to get started for home schooling, so that’s good. Also, I hope you did good today (i.e., medicine). Don’t forget it tonight.
I have a small tractor with a backhoe on it and a lot of properties around here needs trenching and seepage lines installed to keep their yards and driveways from staying wet, muddy and washed out. So that’s what I do for side work along with installing septic systems. The other day I mentioned getting a trailer. That was a big deal for me because now I have my own trailer to haul my tractor on from job to job. Still have get a truck to haul the weight. (Actually, if I repair my vans transmission, that will do it)
I thought
you had finished your SSI paperwork and was just waiting on them to fix it.
What a bummer.
I hope you had a good day and wishing you a good evening - 
@IsayUncle Yes I have noticed the reply buttons are usually missing. It's annoying for sure.
The camping supplies are ok I think. My husband did comment that I didn't ask when he saw some of the stuff I bought but I don't think he's mad. It hasn't all come yet though so we'll see.
I'm sorry your high school students are causing so much trouble. I bet that's hard. I remember being a student on the bus and some of the kids were mean to the driver. I know it's not an easy job because of that. Hopefully the kids won't be mad at you for writing them up. I'm sure it will pay off in the long run for them to know they won't get away with that with you but they might be mad at you for punishing them or getting parents and teachers involved for a while.
It's so cool that you are able to dig trenches and install septic systems. That makes sense why you needed that trailer. I guess you are pretty busy most days then?
My day went pretty well considering I forgot my medicine. I will try to remember it tonight. I didn't get any school done with the kids today. I really feel like I need to get the cabinets finished first because there really is no room to work right now. I'm just not very motivated either. I don't know. I wasn't lazy the past few days but I've been a little in my own world. Maybe dissociating a little sometimes.
Have a good night💙
@IsayUncle
Hey, Good morning, 
I hope you finish your painting today. That way you could move forward. git 'er done, git 'er done. You can do it. When you started about the painting, I thought you just had one thing to paint. dis-association is probably because your stuck on this painting. It's good you are moving in a pro-active direction and soon it'll be done, and hopefully you could rest for a bit and then refocus.
I do hope you have a great day. I have to cut it short this morning to write up those kids... bummer for all. 
@IsayUncle I'm sorry you had to deal with all that this morning. I know you're busy so I won't bother you with a long redundant message.
Have a good day💙
@IsayUncle
I like your your long messages and they are not redundant. What's going on today? Please don't feel guilty about conversing. It's all good.-💚
I had to cut my my 2nd job short to come home and write disciplinary letters. I got them kids on the ropes this morning with assigned seating on the bus and my bad ass sunglasses so they could not see who I was watching and they couldn't eyeball me back! LOL I got 'em on the run.... I think.
@IsayUncle Sunglasses are a great idea. It sounds like you have everything under control. Teenagers can definitely be mean sometimes. They think they are cool being like that. Hopefully the steps you are taking work and they move on to entertain themselves in some other way other than harassing you and causing trouble.
I put the food and dishes back in the upper cabinets this morning. They are all done inside & out other than putting the handles back on. My husband will do that. I am going to empty the bottom cabinets and clean and paint the insides today. My husband hasn't taken the doors off but said he will do that tonight.
I feel emotional and like I could just sleep the whole day. I forgot my medicine again. My listener that I had to stop talking to a couple of months ago used to remind me of both of my medications and basically everything - to eat and go to bed on time, etc. I don't think I told you about him before. It isn't really something I can talk about on a public forum in detail. He was really good mostly except he just expected things in return and I wanted him to be happy because he helped me a lot but it just got to be too much that he wanted. So now I'm just having a hard time remembering everything on my own because I got used to him telling me to do those things. I am getting better remembering on my own though. Maybe I need to set alarms on my phone.
I am tired of feeling so zoned out. I hope I feel better for the weekend.
Anyway sorry if that sounds disjointed and all over, that's how my mind feels right now.
What are your plans for the afternoon/evening?💙
@Psalm139
That’s AWESOME about
the upper cabinets. So Super Duper! Good job, that must feel pretty good. How’d
you make out with bottom cabinets today?
It sounds like your listener was very supportive at first and then things got a bit complicated. That always makes things a bit stressful and you don’t need that anyway. You’re anxious already so you don’t need more anxiety. In all our conversations, you seem very intelligent and responsible. You could figure out a way to remember things. I’m sorry to hear that you have a hard time with that but that is exactly what you could work on and talk about here if you want to.
Eventually when you get a bit older, you’ll have to take all kinds of medications at night. IT IS TIME for you to practice now and get a couple of those pill containers for the week and keep by your bedside so you don’t have to get up when you remember, and set your phone alarm. You’ll have a couple weeks always there at your fingertips.
I’m always so tired in the evenings. My pill boxes have been empty for a couple of days and it is such a pain in the butt to take them individually. I’ll do that this evening, I think. I’m going to try to stay up for a while and get things sorted. Things are a bit out of control. I thought I was going to do better after my classes but trying to catch up is like climbing a greased pole. haha
Nothing sounds disjointed. I think if you can
finish your cabinets… and take your meds, AND rest a bit before the weekend,
You’ll feel great for your Anniversary camping trip… It’s Camping for two days,
no clutter… Feel great!
@Psalm139
Good morning M,
I wrote this last night but the site went down so you get it this morning. I was hoping they were fixing the "reply" problem but I don't think they did. I hope you have a good morning.😊
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Do you know I have to go back 3 days to find a reply button to your posts.
Priorities are blown out of the water, with my sisters visit and now the kids write ups and disciplines... might be involved. Plus trying to do my trenching job.
Running on fumes and hope (HOPE the weekend comes real fast.) haha
Good nite M, glad you got more painting done. (Are you going to get those containers?) btw, I take vitamin D
@Psalm139
Hey, just enough time to say hi and bye.... (and sorry) I promised a school bus kid I'd go watch his foot ball game this evening.
Our conversation is on page 2, that's how i find it. Not having reply buttons really messes things up too. gonna miss ya camping and not even have a good chat before you go BUT .... it's all about the camping. So Relax and Have fun!
@Psalm139
Good Morning, I hope you are doing good this morning. Getting all ready for camping and stuff. I am tired.... Got home at 10pm. Great game but we lost in the final nail biting seconds when rthe opposing team threw the winning Hail Mary pass for the touchdown.
Have a good time M, we'll talk when you get back. Stay Safe.
@Psalm139
Oh My Goodness… That is all so unbearable! I am terribly sorry and so sad for you and the family. I wish everybody could always make the best of difficult situations but that is just a fairy tale thought.
I wish you could just quiet your mind, Shhhhhh. This is why I asked before if you ever practiced meditation. But that’s off topic right now. You LET OTHERS dictate your importance. You are important in your own right. Your listener falling asleep didn’t make you any less important. YOU CHOSE to say “I’m less important because my listener fell asleep”. He was just sleepy and probably doing the best he could. I know it hurt your feelings a lot AND that is 100% normal BUT having your feelings hurt does not make you any less important. YOU ARE LETTING OTHER THINGS AND PEOPLE make you feel less important. You are a precious soul and entity on this planet. Do you think or can you even admit that you are important to your children. (If so, that’s a start. That is so much more than what others have)
I know how horrible you must feel right now. ((((HUGS)))) For the moment, know you are important and try not to feed off all the hurt feelings and anger.
Use your amazing imagination as an adventure in the possibilities of setting up makeshift tents in the house and cooking smores on the stove and sleeping on the floors. Maybe use the flowers he brings you to put next to a pot of water on the floor for a pond with a field of flowers. You weren’t going to do anything for two days at the house so don’t do anything for two days except be silly and relax. Maybe trying will ease the crying.
There is so much more to say here but I have to go right now. That does not make you less important. You do not have to be held upright; you must hold yourself upright. Walk tall, Walk proud. Flip the switch in your brain from gloom and doom to sunlight, laughter and fun with the kids. BLOW EVERYONES MIND! You can do it!
I DO know how horrible you must feel right now. ((((MORE HUGS)))) and if you have to sleep and you cannot deal with any of this, I believe that the most normal thing you can do is shut down and rest. Do that if you must but don’t think you are less important because of it. All of this is normal and sadly you must work through it. Do it any way you can right now and we’ll talk later.
I know everything got so terribly messed up and it may seem impossible to deal with it. Be strong.💚
@IsayUncle
Good morning 💙. My day is going ok. I just got done picking up and vacuuming the living room. I am trying to figure out where to put Jaxon's supplies still - and his toys (little action figures) that he is constantly taking out. I'd like to just keep them in the living room rather than being frustrated that they belong in his bedroom and are constantly out anyway. Even when I put them away he takes them right back out!
A flea market sounds fun! Do you like that sort of thing? We used to go to places like that and I have a bunch of old pitchers in pretty shades of blue and cream that I use to decorate. We don't really have space for more though so I have to be careful what I buy and think where I will keep it!
Did last night with your sister go well?
💙Talk to you later
It was fine until i learned that there were some internships requirements to fulfill to complete the internship successfully. Honestly I had thought it was just about listening, and some small trial period requirements, now I need to work very hard, poor me
@IsayUncle
My day was okay. Nothing special really but at least I got to relax. I have been feeling really anxious so I have just been trying to deal with that.
@IsayUncle
What if I don't have a friend who is willing to listen to me
@interstellarbangtan that sounds super hard but you have us who you can.talk to
@IsayUncle Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.
I agree.
Sometimes a nice chat helps.