I'm am truly sorry that you experienced abuse, I know it is an awful and heartbreaking experience . I hope you find the strength and motivation that you need to overcome this experience.
-Once you are physically safe and secure, it is a good idea that you seek professional help for any abuse-related difficulties you may develop. (For example, you may have difficulty coping with abuse memories themselves. ) (You may also benefit from assistance in coping with problems that develop because you were abused, such as: Substance abuse problems, sexual or intimacy issues, anger issues, eating disorders, trouble sleeping, panic & anxiety attacks, flashbacks, feelings of self-hate/ low self-esteem, fearing people & relationships ...etc)
-It is important to not blame yourself for having been abused, no matter what the circumstances of your abuse may have been. People tend to blame themselves for 'allowing' abuse to have happened to themselves. Abuse is abuse - it occurs when someone mistreats another person, ignoring their own wishes and dignity. You did not ask to be abused, and you probably had few ways to avoid it happening throughout most of the period the abuse occurred (if not all of it). Blaming the victim is common, but it doesn't make it a right or accurate thing to do. You are not to blame for having been abused.
-Refocusing the subconscious mind starts with “forcing” positivity. The negativity — or the inner critic — can stir self-sabotage and hold you back from embracing positive things. Refocus the inner critical voice by putting in place a system of positive affirmations that you can use daily. Positive affirmations can interrupt those disruptive and unwelcome thoughts and turn them into something better.
-Seek out ways you can work through the abuse without having to directly focusing on the experiences/feelings/emotions that occurred as a result. Such as art therapy, exercise, music.