Managing Our Emotions
We've all heard the saying "I got caught up in my emotions." or possible even "My emotions got the best of me."
When we are in the storm of our emotions- we are so reactive and blinded. No time we give ourselves to breathe, wait and even look at anything differently. This then results in poor judgement and some great people we have hurt.
Sometimes we also experience "being" our emotions as some can become so strong.
Our emotions then are "who" we are. If we feel intense anger-we are ANGER only. Our angry emotions take our energy-then we become our anger. Using all this energy, getting bigger, then eventually it lessons over time. We are exhausted. All our suffering is us trying to stop this energy.
We ARE NOT our emotions. Your emotions are just energy-nothing else. We trap our energy when we grasp onto positive emotions, push away our negative emotions, or when we try to solidify the emotion by trying to attach that emotion to us.
Discussion Questions
1. What emotion do you have a hard time letting go of? Why?
2. Describe in your own words the emotion. You can use words or colors or pictures to describe this emotion.
3. Was it a challenge to be present with this emotion?
4. How do you separate yourself from this emotion?
5. Doing this discussion what is 1 thing you leaned from this?
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@RumpleSteeleSkin hello ! <3
1. sometimes, i have a really hard time letting go of jealousy <3 sometimes i will forget if i felt jealous over something but then when the topic comes back to my attention, i feel it again haha.
2. insecurity, comparison, want <3
3. it definitely always is, however, if you try hard enough, you can let go of it :) <3
4. i find the root of the problem. for example, if it is a person, i will try to get to know that person and once i do, i usually don't feel jealous anymore !
5. jealousy is normal sometimes, but it's good practice to do your best to overcome it !
@rrretsuko
Hello Suko great to see you here. Jealousy is a hard feeling/emotion to kinda control. I agree with you on letting it go and well it pops right back up. Insecurity, comparison and want are all great words to describe jealousy. Yes it is true- if you work on it you can let it go or not let it intensify on you, but to just notice it and let it go. Great answer! Yes trying to find the "root" and learning on it so that you can let go of the jealousy feeling. Jealousy is a normal feeling many do have. I really like you attitude in this discussion. That you for participating ❤️
Anxiety: I feel like I was able to let go of it for a while but it's come back within the past week. My meds worked great for quite a while but I think they're due for adjustment. My mind just thinks of the worst possible outcomes for no reason. I try to challenge that emotion based on past experiences but it's been difficult in the past few weeks.
@777Bre777
Hey there Bre good to see you here in our discussion! I am sorry to hear anxiety is an emotion hard for you. I do hope you can call your doctor and talk more on your meds or why the reason for your anxiety rising. To find some relief from that can feel so much better. Knowing that this emotion mainly comes from your past is a great step in this all. You are doing very well. Maybe if you have some time in our forums we do have some great mindfulness skills you can possibly learn. They can ease your anxiety and mostly distract you.
Thank you for sharing in our discussion❤️
1. What emotion do you have a hard time letting go of? Why?
I have a Very hard time letting go of feeling of shame, the most. As it was stated in the post, I BECOME the emotion, I am not feeling shame, I AM shameful. I get triggered too, by this feeling of shame ( and embarrassment - I confuse embarrassment - myself or others - with My shame). And this triggers in my inner critic to start maliciously lashing out on myself. ( I am sure it is in part internalizing things said to me and actions done to me).
2. Describe in your own words the emotion. You can use words or colors or pictures to describe this emotion.
To me, shame is like this black, dark, dense , POWERFUL energy. It is a life of its own. It is a living and breathing thing. Almost like an entity all in itself. It covers me completely. I turn in on myself. I close off to myself and there is nothing left of me but this embodiment of this dark energy. It is all consuming. It eats and eats until there is nothing left.
3. Was it a challenge to be present with this emotion?
That challenge to being present and sitting with shame is that I feel there is nothing left of me - I AM shame. I am lost. It is so overwhelming and consuming I do not know how to hold it. To tell the truth, I FEEL ( and in a way, think) that I am going to cease to exist - I might die if I allow shame to sit. I fear that it will consume me and never let me go. And it takes me right back to my abusive past. And the shame takes me out of the present moment.
4. How do you separate yourself from this emotion?
I have yet to figure this out, how to separate myself from shame. I can do this with the other emotions -not shame. I have tried grounding and I have tried allowing it to be and mindfully noticing it - without judging it. No, wait - I have not been Able , yet, to mindfully allow it to be and notice it without judging it as something horrible and trying to push it away. And I know, the harder I push it away, it comes back with the same amount of force. So, maybe the key, for me, is non - judgment - which would allow me to let it be and not push it away.
5. Doing this discussion what is 1 thing you leaned from this?
I have realized that I do not feel shame - I become it. And that goes for most of my intense and overpowering, negative emotions. I have learned that I judge them as " bad" or" negative" or " I don't want to feel this way". And if I stop judging them , I can stop pushing them away and just sit with it, allow it to be and express, so that I can allow it to leave. Emotions I feel, are NOT me. They are energy.
* This was a FANTASTIC post! I actually learned SO much. And the best part, I now have a plan of how to deal with shame ( and overpowering emotions that are difficult to feel) and how to let it go. I feel like I have this amazing new coping skill! I feel so empowered - thank you for posting this! ❤️
@blissedNblessed
HI Blessed good to see you! awww hun hugs❤️Dealing with shame is very hard as it hits us in self esteem and many other areas of ourselves. Becoming the emotion on this one many of us deal with internally. It eats us up and well over takes and darkens the truth. Wow you described shame very well. It is so very true as it is a dark dense powerful energy of itself that covers you completely. O dear hun it sounds so hard for you to just let the emotion be there with you. That is very understandable. I do hope over time that you stay with us in mindfulness and learn some skills to one day Kick shames bumbum!!! As you are a worthy person❤️ Ye!! One day you will learn to just LET IT BE. To know it is just an emotion-yes a strong one-but just an emotion. Not judging it and giving it that power will one day come to you. I hope this for you! Wowzers😳look at you on what you learned. I am so very proud of you. Yes one day you will be able to separate yourself from shame and not judge it and just let that useless emotion be.
Thank you very much for participating in our discussion❤️
