how mindfulness can help with emotional abuse
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We have all somewhere along the line suffered or is at this time from emotional abuse. I have always said no one see this abuse because we hide it and hard to see emotional scars like if physically abused. Mindfulness is being fully aware of the now of what we are in but sometimes we carry emotional abuse from the past. How do you over come emotional abuse?
Emotional abuse is defined as being frightened, being controlled and isolation. Emotional abuse comes from other peoples words, actions, humiliation and the constant consistency of of controlling someone.
In order for us to to get away from this abuse we must have a plan on leaving, whether a marriage or relationship. We need to get away and rebuild ourselves and know we were not the cause of the abuse.
A safety plan is
someone's phone number we can call for help
a safe place to go where you won't be found to feel safe from the abuser
how to safely leave without it becoming physical
having resources important paperwork to show the signs of abuse
Healing from this abuse may be therapy to rebuild from it. It may be through self esteem work and self compassion. Please know you should not male or female stay in the abuse because you have no where to go, there is always someone or some place to go.
Here are some signs of emotional abuse:
Where are some places we may go if we need help?
How can we rebuild ourselves after emotional abuse?
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How do you over come emotional abuse?
Remind myself that if I decline to accept a "gift", it remains the property of the giver. If someone says something unkind or unhelpful, I try to mentally decline it and walk away, so it remains theirs to keep.
Or remember that their comment says more about them than me. Again, I leave it with them, so that the only person they damage is themselves. I don't need or want it.
I totally agree that the damage of emotional abuse is often under estimated. I used to work with rescue dogs and the emotional harm of abuse would upset me much more than the physical. Physical harm you can fix, in a time span of the order of weeks eg feeding a starving dog, mend a broken leg. But emotional harm can be almost unfixable. Euthanizing a physically healthy animal that emotionally can no longer cope with life, due to the actions of an abuser, is the saddest thing ever. And almost impossible to prosecute.
But I have some discomfort about the graphic. Because I am sure that I have likely diminished someone's feelings at some point. Hopefully unintentionally. Surely I'm not the only one to make mistakes and mess up from time to time? And is it not true that sometimes critical feedback can be extremely valuable for growth? So I'm not quite sure that it is as simple as the graphic suggests.
No one should have to stay in a relationship that is doing them continual harm, whether physical or emotional. Of course. But learning to be resilient to the random knocks of life is also important. I would very much like the opportunity to learn from, and apologise, for my gaffs.
I like the concept of boundaries. Knowing what we can cope with and what is or isn't acceptable to us as an individual, and what we will do when our boundary is reached, can best protect each of us from abuse.