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Strengthening Our Community: Listening to LGBTQ+ Voices
by Heather225
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more In these challenging times, we want to remember our commitment to inclusivity and support for all members of our diverse community, especially our LGBTQIA+ folks. We believe that everyone deserves a safe and supportive space to connect, share their experiences, and find the help they need, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, or any other identity. 7 Cups is built on the foundation of empathy and understanding. We strive to create an environment where everyone feels welcome, respected, and heard. We recognize that the struggles and triumphs of the LGBTQIA+ community are unique and deserve specific attention and support, particularly in the face of current events. We are dedicated to providing resources, fostering understanding, and amplifying the voices of our LGBTQIA+ members. We know that allyship is an ongoing process, and we are constantly learning and growing. We encourage open and honest conversations about how we can better support our LGBTQIA+ community within 7 Cups and beyond. We value your feedback and insights as we continue this journey together. To all of you within our LGBTQIA+ family: What can the community do to better hear and support you during these difficult times? What are some things you wish allies understood? How can we express this? What would you like the community to know about LGBTQIA+ and beyond? Please answer any of the above. Your responses will be packaged up in a new post dedicated to community awareness to ensure we, as a collective community, are doing right by one another.
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Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
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Standing Together with Our Trans Community 🏳️‍⚧️
by Heather225
Last post
 February 4th
...See more There's a lot of uncertainty and unrest in our world right now and for anyone who may be suffering right now, either as a trans person or anyone on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, my heart goes out to you. Please know that you are not alone. You are loved, you are valid, and you deserve to live authentically and safely. I hope that you can take comfort in our community and lean on us. We are stronger together. Be it a virtual shoulder to cry on or a distraction from the negativity, we've got you. You belong here. Let's all try to be there for each other during these very challenging times. Message your trans friends, let them know you're thinking of them, and let's do what we do best: listen.  Stay hopeful. We're gonna get through this. Sending you all my love and support. ❤️ 
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Married & Questioning – Navigating Without Hurting Anyone
by Mike126
Last post
 Sunday
...See more I’m in my late 30s, married, with a child, and only recently started questioning my sexuality. For most of my life, I assumed I was straight, but over the last few months, I’ve felt something shift, and I can’t ignore it anymore. It’s confusing, exciting, and honestly a bit terrifying. I want to be clear that I love my wife and don’t want to hurt her in any way, shape, or form. This isn’t about acting on impulse or doing anything behind her back. I have already spoken to her about making connections in the community, but I haven’t told her exactly where I stand yet, because, truthfully, I’m still figuring that out myself. I need to understand who I am, what this means for me, and what space I want to occupy in the world. Right now, I don’t know exactly what this means. I feel drawn to exploring it, but at the same time, I worry about what this could mean for my life. I guess I’m just looking to hear from others who’ve been through something similar, especially if you started questioning later in life. If anyone has been through this—figuring things out while in a long-term relationship, navigating attraction later in life, or just generally understanding their identity—I’d love to hear how you handled it. I appreciate any advice or perspectives!
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am i lesbian or bisexual if i only watch lesbian porn?
by courteousGlobe6525
Last post
 January 24th
...See more Okay, so I only really watch lesbian porn because it’s the only thing I like in that area. When i try to watch straight porn i get turned off because of the man and i find myself just watching the woman. I also question whether it’s lesbian or bisexual if i like a few male celebrities and fictional characters but wouldn’t want to entertain the idea of being with a man in real life. when i think about my future i usually picture a woman when i think about my wedding. am i just in denial? i’m honestly so confused. it also might be because of a fear of rejection. when i was about 11 i told my mom i was a lesbian and she did not love that. it was mostly because of my age. i still know that if i’m not lesbian i am bi with a STRONG preference for women. 
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Queer Married Father
by patientThinker2448
Last post
 January 22nd
...See more I'm a 36 year old queer man (identify as bi generally), married to my wife and we have a 3 year old daughter together. I thought I did it all right...I came out as bi/queer to my wife before we got engaged, I've worked with a therapist for a long while, we have a fun open relationship where I've had ample opportunity to explore and for a few years I felt like I had cultivated and nourished this incredible unheard of amazing life. I know so many bisexual men who don't come out at all, or live shadow lives and I had built a life out in the light with everything I wanted.  We dated a man together for a year and it was amazing. My wife and I both fell in love for him, but he only had love for me and it ended poorly...it's been more than a year, I've made a lot of peace with everything, but I miss him still...every day. That experience felt like it blossomed feelings that I had never felt before, ever. It was a love and attraction deeper than anything I had ever experienced and now I'm beginning to question if my queerness is actually more suitable for relationships with men...I've thought of what it would be like to not be married to my wife anymore and I feel so torn at that thought...I've build a life with my wife and we have a family together and everything is fine, seemingly, except I feel this deep, intuitive feeling for something different, something else, but that feels simultaneously like what I want and need and also a mistake that is an illusion.  - From the man that thought he had it all...
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Am I gay or bi?
by communicativeBanana4703
Last post
 January 11th
...See more Good morning. i (30 female) just allowed myself to accept that I’m attracted to women. I am engaged to a man. Now that I’m allowing myself to feel this attraction toward women, it feels so different than what I feel for men. for women, the attraction is like a very intense, unignorable feeling in my privates. For men, it feels much less intense, different, and like I can just feel myself getting wet. I don’t feel the “attraction” in my privates like I do for women. does Anyone else feel this way? Am I bisexual or am I just gay?  I’m devastated. I don’t want to lose my fiancé. If I come out as gay I’m going to lose him and break his heart. And my own as well. Please help me.
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So I "tried to come out"
by turkeybby
Last post
 December 23rd, 2024
...See more I've been attracted to females since the 7th grade. A few of my closest friends eventually turned into lovers. Now as an adult: I've tried to talking to a couple family members about being into woman. They either DIDNT GET IT or tried forbidding it. It is hard to own up to being attracted to woman. I wish wash my way around being gay. Or into woman. One minute I do and I own it. The next I'll deny it. Seems ridiculous. Feels ridiculous.
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How Do I Confirm My Sexuality?
by KindPanda73
Last post
 December 19th, 2024
...See more I'm in high school, and I just started dating this really cute guy. However, I've had a lot of crushes on girls. How do I confirm that I'm bi/pan, if I'm dating a guy?
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Is it a good idea to come out?
by jt839394
Last post
 December 17th, 2024
...See more I am a gay teen but my family is homophobic. They seem very opposed to homosexuality. I have been hiding it for 1 year already. But it feels kinda painful hiding it sometimes because there are alot of stuff i need to hide like watching boys love dramas and stuff. I think it's best to not come out but what are your views?
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I am not sure if I am Nebularomantic please help!
by Littleangel89864
Last post
 December 10th, 2024
...See more For people who don’t know what Nebularomantic is it’s people who can’t tell the difference between a romantic relationship and a platonic relationship, but they can only use this if they have a neurological thing and sometimes I might confuse it and sometimes that destroys friendships, but not in such a way where I can destroy every friendship I have and or confuse it every single time.
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Help how do I come out to my parents
by Theatrekid2010
Last post
 December 10th, 2024
...See more I just recently (like a year ago) found out I was queer. I’ve told some of my friends and I actually have the best girlfriend ever, but I have no clue how to come out to my parents.. they have not been the most supportive of the LGBTQIA2S+ community and I don’t have the best relationship with them and idk what to do. last year I first came out as bi to my friends. and my parents got this thing where they can see everything I search up and I had searched stuff up about what I was feeling and they confronted me about it. they said all this stuff about how “being queer is bad for your mental health” “the community isn’t accepting” “a you shouldn’t be queer you should just be normal” and that was over me thinking I was bisexual… I’m horrified of what they might do if I tell them I’m lesbian… and I honestly don’t also know how to tell people either. I just need some help honestly 
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How can I confirm that I'm a lesbian?
by Trinity369
Last post
 November 19th, 2024
...See more Hello there,  So I was wondering how I can confirm my sexuality.  Any advice?
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Kicking around the idea of being Non-binary and Trans, especially trans
by A0curious0fire
Last post
 November 19th, 2024
...See more Hello my name is Matthew and I'm kicking around the idea of being non-binary and trans. I tend to feel more like a woman than a man but I do have my guy days and moments. I want to be seen/called a woman by others more often IRL especially when I get dolled up and have tried going to a few restaurants well dressed up to see if the staff would see me as a woman. I mix and match clothes from both into an outfit on a regular basis. I'm not on hrt so people see that I have a guy's body and refer to me as such, which is alright but I tend to get bummed that it was "sir" and not "ma'am" (sort of a being called a guy is alright but if you really want to see me smile call me a girl) I watch content from Trans creators and artists on a regular basis 
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Gender sucks
by courteousOcean9942
Last post
 October 26th, 2024
...See more I think I might be a boy but I’m too scared to do anything about it. I would be accepted I think but I have no agency so I never tell people what I am, I let people decide that for me. I don’t want to say anything about myself because what if I’m wrong and end up embarrassing myself? Lately though it’s been bugging me so much.  Friends have been calling me gay for my attraction to women but I don’t feel like a girl so I don’t feel like I’m gay, I try to show my discomfort and I’ve even said it’s not gay because I’m a man to them but they think it’s a joke and I’m too scared to say that i don’t think it is.  People already know my gender isn’t normal but rlly only through my expression. I’ve gone by a certain set of pronouns for 4 years now but few actually address me by the correct ones and I’m too embarrassed to correct them.  I’ve been feeling what I can only assume is dysphoria lately, I have a look in my head that I want but I could never achieve. The few in my life who have sorta caught on have suggested stuff like testosterone but there are too many effects I don’t like about it that would make me more uncomfortable in my body. I want a boy voice and I want facial hair but everything else I really do not want. It would also solidify it and I would have to tell people but I just don’t want to.  I hate being perceived but if I must I wish people would perceive me as a boy. I’ve been told I have a very androgynous face and I definitely do, add a mustache and I look like a boy, but I look really young for my age which makes anyone look a bit more girlish. My body is also so so so feminine and I hate it. No matter how I dress I’ll always look like a girl wearing boy clothes. I also hate it because I’m a goth and I want to keep my makeup and clothes the same but I wish I could be seen as a boy doing that makeup and wearing those clothes.  if I am right then I’m not like fully a boy but I am probably mostly one. It would make sense, there were signs, but i just hate it. Even if it would make me happier to transition and come out it won’t be better than the embarrassment and shame and painful conversations i would have. I just hate the idea of not being cis like I know it’s not a bad thing but it’s just so difficult. So instead I’ll just joke about it and wish people magically knew. 

LGBTQ+/MOGII Support

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General Support:  Struggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


How can I heIp?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


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LGBTQ+/MOGII Suppoort Q&A

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? All sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.


Help… I still have a question!

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.
Community Guidelines

1) Be kind & open minded at all times!

2) Do not impose any beliefs onto another in any harmful way!

3) Please don't express judgments or attack anyone within the community!

4) Please respect each other's gender, pronouns, sexual orientation, identities in general!

 

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1. Abuse, Violence, Discrimination & Safety

(Abuse guides and resources, violence prevention and staying safe, normativity, discrimination, privilege)

2. Allies, Families & Friends

(Resources for allies, caregivers, families, organisations, communities, schools...)

3. Asexual & Aromantic Spectrum

(Resources, guides and websites, finding your identity, gray-asexuality and demisexuality)

4. Coming Out

(Resources for you before, while and after coming out)

5. Emergency & Crisis Resources

(Helplines, hotlines, emergency numbers, crisis information)

6. Gender Expression

(Understanding gender expression, feminising, masculising & binding, names and pronouns)

7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

(LGBTQ+ supportive religious resources by denomination)

10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

13. Trans Resources

(Resourses for the Trans community)


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